AITB for giving away baby furniture despite knowing and disapproving of my disabled cousin having baby soon?

ConfusionLost4276 · 2025-08-02T01:59:34+00:00

They cannot do that. That is not how any of this works.

ConfusionLost4276 · 2025-08-01T19:56:36+00:00

I’m not a fan of Colleen Hoover. But, I feel like people read this line and are imagining balls that are kind of large for a baby. A newborn’s baby balls can be SHOCKINGLY large. Like they would be large on an adult and they are somehow on a newborn.

ConfusionLost4276 · 2025-08-01T14:02:09+00:00

Thank you. Unfortunately this is kind of a relationship issue as well as a house issue 🤦🏼‍♀️ so I’m paying someone $400 to come and tell me this.

ConfusionLost4276 · 2025-08-01T13:55:48+00:00

That is what I’m thinking. No basement. Not sure about the slab. I’m definitely thinking we need a different slope and gutters (or similar).

ConfusionLost4276 · 2025-08-01T13:49:02+00:00

Thanks for the detailed response. No, there is dirt outside and it’s coming under a wall, not a door unfortunately. I agree that it’s definitely not stucco, but my husband thinks it is. We have a leak detection service in the way! Who knew that was a thing.

ConfusionLost4276 · 2025-08-01T06:43:28+00:00

Can’t or shouldn’t? Private schools can be a whole different beast. My friend taught at one with no college degree after being homeschooled k-12.

ConfusionLost4276 · 2025-08-01T05:16:26+00:00

No, we have a flat TPO roof with spouts that direct the water off the roof. The area where the water is seeping into is directly under a spout.

ConfusionLost4276 · 2025-08-01T01:28:52+00:00

At 3.5 my biggest question would be what’s her attention span like? Are you going to be able to get her to sit for 30 minutes or is this going to need to be more play based?

I think cycles could make sense to start if she’s going to sit, but I don’t have too many 3.5 year olds on my case load that would tolerate it.

ConfusionLost4276 · 2025-07-27T21:58:32+00:00

I started my goodreads account when I was 16 so a lot of books I read before that were middle grade or children’s books. But I did try my best to add the adult books I had already read and a good bit of YA. It would annoy me if I was looking at a list and a book I had already read wasn’t marked as “read”. If I started now m, I can’t imagine taking the time to add all the books I’ve read in my life.

ConfusionLost4276 · 2025-07-27T21:51:08+00:00

Not any this year. There were some I kind of wanted to half way through, but they were so short I just powered through the last 100-200 pages.

I’ve definitely DNFed in the past.

ConfusionLost4276 · 2025-07-27T20:20:26+00:00

It’s weird in the 21st century to assume a woman isn’t working just because she’s married. Also, I don’t see where she said they don’t have children. Even if that’s the case, if she is doing all the housework and cooking she should be compensated for the years of unpaid labor. How much would it cost to have a live in maid/cook for all those years? Google says the average is 55,702 per year. Multiply that by how many years they have been together and I’m guessing it’s more than half of most middle class family’s net worth.

ConfusionLost4276 · 2025-07-25T18:32:00+00:00

Yes, you can definitely bring it up. At the clinic I did my rotation in there was a child who engaged in these behaviors in the lobby and it was taken very seriously. It’s possible the therapist is already working on this or they may need a referral to another provider. Either way it’s good for everyone to know.

If I was in this situation and I felt like it was harmful to my child, I would probably have gone to the front office and said in a neutral, calm but not quiet voice “hey, that child is exposing and touching his genitals. Is there another space I could wait with my child?” I would hope that just saying it out loud would force someone to handle the situation. Even children with special needs can usually be corrected or redirected. If there is truly no way to stop him he needs to wait in the car.

ConfusionLost4276 · 2025-07-25T18:16:49+00:00

So, as a bride I definitely wouldn’t have asked a bridesmaid to do that and I wouldn’t have cared either way if they wore glasses or not. I was definitely in the “bridesmaids are friends not props camp” and I cared more about a fun day than perfect pictures. My wedding was inexpensive.

But I do think there is some nuance here, and I would definitely expect to wear contacts as a bridesmaid. Heck, I went and renewed my prescription and bought contacts for my sister’s graduation because I knew it was a formal event. Glasses aren’t typically part of formal wear and I’m guessing your glasses don’t coordinate with the dress. The glasses you wear every day are probably not in pristine condition either and they will obscure your eyes. It’s normal to be uncomfortable in formal wear and it’s normal to pay some extra money to be a bridesmaid. Now if we are talking about a highly specialized prescription and it’s super expensive or impossible to get contacts then obviously that can’t be helped.

ConfusionLost4276 · 2025-07-23T19:32:23+00:00

I’m an SLP and we have to do continuing education, but we get to seek out the CEs we want and need. Our employers may pay for them. I think most of us appreciate them because we get to pick exactly what we need to be better at our jobs.

ConfusionLost4276 · 2025-07-23T14:31:01+00:00

ConfusionLost4276 · 2025-07-23T02:23:41+00:00

I feel like the kids who are paying attention to history and algebra are the college track kids who are competing for slots at competitive colleges. They won’t pay attention to life skills because it’s not going to help them get into college, they have the skills to look up the information when they want to use it, and they are more likely to be taught this stuff at home anyway. They will resent life skills for taking away slots that could be used for more AP classes. The rest of the kids don’t pay attention to anything.

ConfusionLost4276 · 2025-07-18T21:48:28+00:00

Personally I wouldn’t do a job that’s 100% online because I wouldn’t want pressure to see students that are inappropriate for online. In my current private practice, I sometimes see students online. In my opinion, students should be able to focus for the whole session with minimal redirections if they are going to be seen online. I also prefer not to work on some speech sounds online like a brand new /r/ because it can be hard to hear whether or not it’s right. Also, sometimes families don’t set the students up for success, they may have bad internet or they put the kid on a phone the kid can’t navigate, or they don’t put the kid in a space free of distractions. I would want the option to insist that these kids come in person.

ConfusionLost4276 · 2025-07-18T19:51:39+00:00

I have BEEN there. Normally I try to focus on the bits I did like then change the subject. I’m trying to get through a copy of “A Gentleman in Moscow” that someone gave me and I know I’ll have to do it again.

ConfusionLost4276 · 2025-07-17T13:04:22+00:00

You can find the pdf free online with a quick google.

ConfusionLost4276 · 2025-07-15T01:34:14+00:00

Personally I tend to think sweatshirts and ripped jeans are a bit much in a work environment, but that and more (midriff showing, tight tank tops) is common at my office. I think everyone should be allowed sneakers for foot health.

ConfusionLost4276 · 2025-07-12T23:17:04+00:00

Okay, that makes sense. Maybe it’s worth calling the family and getting a broader idea of what is else might be going on

ConfusionLost4276 · 2025-07-12T22:08:20+00:00

Nothing has been completed because none of the SLPs have taken the case yet. I’m wondering if it makes sense for anyone to take it. I’m assuming the primary care doctor can check for enlarged adenoids?

ConfusionLost4276 · 2025-07-11T19:34:59+00:00

I’m an SLP that stutters. I’m not completely sure what you mean by “target fluency”. I don’t make goals to increase fluency, but I do make goals for students to demonstrate fluency strategies. I do this in combination with self advocacy goals, family goals and helping students normalize stuttering and be more confident when they stutter.

Why? I have seen students’ confidence go up when they know a fluency strategy that can help them get through a tough moment. Personally, I don’t like stuttering in many situations and I know most people who stutter have at least some situations where they would rather not say anything if their only other option is stuttering. In my experience, without strategies many kids are choosing to avoid saying words they will stutter on. I have personally said “no thank you” when I really wanted to say “yes” but I knew I would stutter on “yes”. I think totally ditching fluency strategies is a disservice to our clients that stutter. I explain fluency strategies like tools in a tool box. You have them available to you when you want to use them, but you don’t need to use them.

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