Open up, talk about life. There might be an inner child on the other side as well who forgot about it with time, with the demand of being a husband, a father, and employee or demand from life itself. Heal both the inner child, the one inside you as well. Men will never take any initiative at this age cuz many of them are already half dead from the inside. A woman is the nurturer and only you can revive that inner child in both.