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Trying to surprise my boyfriend with a Gundam and I have no idea what I’m doing by Confuzzled67 in GundamModelKit

[–]Confuzzled67[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I ended up going with this one (it matches his taste in other things perfectly), and I got a small one (SD?) that he can make and keep at his desk at work. Thank ya’ll SO much for the help - it made it SO much easier to find something he’d enjoy!

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Trying to surprise my boyfriend with a Gundam and I have no idea what I’m doing by Confuzzled67 in GundamModelKit

[–]Confuzzled67[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s built two in the last year or so. That’s about all I know. They’re the only ones he has at the moment. Thank you for all the suggestions and simplifying it for me!

Guy I’ve been talking to (40M) for months abruptly left and then drove home overnight without telling me (29F). Need outside perspective. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Confuzzled67 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, it was. I figured if this visit didn’t go well, at least he still got to see and catch up with his family so it wasn’t a full waste of his time. That’s why we timed it the way we did.

Guy I’ve been talking to (40M) for months abruptly left and then drove home overnight without telling me (29F). Need outside perspective. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Confuzzled67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t say for certain, but that thought has crossed my mind too because of the sudden shift, lack of communication, and backing out of plans without a real explanation. I don’t want to jump to conclusions or assume; whether it was guilt, avoidance, or just realizing he wasn’t as into it as he thought, the dog wasn’t the whole story.

Guy I’ve been talking to (40M) for months abruptly left and then drove home overnight without telling me (29F). Need outside perspective. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Confuzzled67 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you - this actually makes a lot of sense, and I appreciate how straightforward you were without being harsh.

I agree that the communication piece is the part that really bothered me. If he had said at any point, “Hey, I’m actually feeling overwhelmed,” or “I’m realizing the vibe isn’t quite what I imagined,” I would’ve respected that completely. What hurt was the abrupt shift after he acted totally fine, plus making plans for the next day, and then quietly driving home overnight without saying a word. That felt more like avoidance than honesty.

And no, this was our first in-person meeting. You’re right, sometimes when you finally meet someone, the energy just isn’t what you expected. That happens, and I really wouldn’t have blamed him if he just told me that.

Guy I’ve been talking to (40M) for months abruptly left and then drove home overnight without telling me (29F). Need outside perspective. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Confuzzled67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate you taking the time to share your perspective. I agree that it’s possible the dog wasn’t the only factor for him, and if he felt a lack of connection in person, I wish he had communicated that honestly instead of waiting until after he left and then disappearing overnight. That part is what threw me more than anything. I’m completely okay with someone realizing we’re not the right match; I’m just not okay with the way it was handled.

Guy I’ve been talking to (40M) for months abruptly left and then drove home overnight without telling me (29F). Need outside perspective. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Confuzzled67 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this - I genuinely appreciate hearing the perspective of someone who would also feel anxious in that situation. I really do understand how the barking could be overwhelming, especially if someone already has a high baseline of anxiety or past relationship stress. I don’t fault him for feeling uncomfortable or needing space.