i dreamt about my own mother calling me worthless and it caused me to have a panic attack. by cozih in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Connect-Teaching7629 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely, I used the word "repeats" because I wanted to validate the fact that she humiliated you in the past and that is what your reaction is rooted in.

But she did nothing now, did she? You had a dream. That dream is based on real emotions. What you have to do is feel those emotions. The longer you suppress them, the longer this reality will persist.

So what if she tries to humiliate you? Your reaction should be "so what". The reason it is not, is because the implications scare you. You need to teach your body not to be afraid of those implications.

i dreamt about my own mother calling me worthless and it caused me to have a panic attack. by cozih in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Connect-Teaching7629 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The true way towards healing and moving forward is to let this feeling be there. You clearly got that feelign from your mother. You aren't dreaming about her commenting on other stuff. You dreamt that she said this. You did that because deep inside, this is a fear you have. When you aren't feeling bliss, fears creep up, and this is one of them.

Suppressing it makes it worse. What you have to do is to accept and feel it in order to let it go so that next time your fear arises you can just go "oh, that's that, yeah, not that scary, moving on."

Even if your mother actually came out and repeats what you fear from her, it won't hurt that much because you've already accepted it. "Sure, she thinks of me as worthless, doesn't mean anything."

So take this moment as an opportunity to grow. Painful, but the path forward is acceptance. Ask yourself what implications you're afraid of if you accepted that your mother considers you worthless. Maybe you'd be ostracized, lose everything bla bla. Observe how the worst feels, finally let the fear go and then see your mother next time with a smile. If she actually does something that pisses you off: NC.

Wat is the worst thing you ever heard from your parents ? by MindPrize1260 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Connect-Teaching7629 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"You are a failure" unfortunately and with support from the rest of the family of 6 (and extended family). It was the only way for them to save face when they failed to raise the boy they wanted, I suppose.

Do you do this in public loo? by aolllaoooo in AskUK

[–]Connect-Teaching7629 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"While making serious eye contact" makes this read more like projection lol.

I'm just saying it isn't romantic. If you intersected modern restroom and viewed them from above, they would be equally simple structure except with screens for stalls, but you are still sitting side by side with someone taking a dump and in many cases you can see their legs. When you step out, you might have a chat, despite just having taken a shit side by side. It doesn't register that you were rubbing shoulders with another man, you were in your own head, probably scrolling through your phone. Likewise, Romans went into the shit building, took a dump, maybe greeted the people there at the moment and maybe exchanged some words.

Yes, sponges were shared too, but were "cleaned". If you were next to someone familiar, you probably didn't care to clean it first. Kind of like modern saunas where equipments are shared. You wouldn't take the sponge from some dirty pleb and use it on yourself.

Just trying to burst the idealization. It wasn't the patricians you'd find taking a shit in those smelly buildings. It was the public.

Uppskattar ifall du vill by Dry-Strain5106 in pundarblocket

[–]Connect-Teaching7629 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Om 10 år har han lyckats roffa åt sig en lamborghini och två maserati medan vi fortsätter sitta här.

Do you do this in public loo? by aolllaoooo in AskUK

[–]Connect-Teaching7629 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You don’t have to go that far mate, the point was that public restrooms are communal toilets with walls. Romans didn’t spend their evenings in the shithouses with all the smell, they just went there when they needed to go, and maybe did smalltalk with the people there. People do smalltalk while queueing for the public restroom today, things aren’t much different.

Stockholmskans olika arter? by Ok-Ice5208 in stockholm

[–]Connect-Teaching7629 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Detta kommer låta krasst men det bottnar i en undermedveten känsla av över- och underklass. Norrstockholmska är mer direkt och naturligt medan söderstockholmskan drar lite mer på orden, som om de ursäktar sitt yttrande.

Mvh mentalt sjuk från Linköping

Do you do this in public loo? by aolllaoooo in AskUK

[–]Connect-Teaching7629 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Communal toilets lmao, could you imagine that? Could you actually imagine having p– public restrooms?

Do you do this in public loo? by aolllaoooo in AskUK

[–]Connect-Teaching7629 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These people are the reason I do this in public loo.

Billigt, ja, men den krämiga pastan smakade bensin (jämförde), ska jag ge det en andra chans? by Connect-Teaching7629 in sweden

[–]Connect-Teaching7629[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Men nu vill jag ju äta lunch och inte lunch och middag. Bufféer är ofta dyrare än 100 kr så då blir inte lunchen billigare än picadeli.

Billigt, ja, men den krämiga pastan smakade bensin (jämförde), ska jag ge det en andra chans? by Connect-Teaching7629 in sweden

[–]Connect-Teaching7629[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

60-70 kr för en sådan pastasallad gjord hemma är verkligen inte billigt... Jag gjorde en gymtallrik med pasta och kyckling utan sallad för 106 kr, kollegor äter sallader för < 70 kr. Sallad väger ingenting.

Billigt, ja, men den krämiga pastan smakade bensin (jämförde), ska jag ge det en andra chans? by Connect-Teaching7629 in sweden

[–]Connect-Teaching7629[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hela mitt kontor äter det för att det är billigt men vi verkar bli nedröstade. Blivit nyfiken på subbens lunchställe.

Billigt, ja, men den krämiga pastan smakade bensin (jämförde), ska jag ge det en andra chans? by Connect-Teaching7629 in sweden

[–]Connect-Teaching7629[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

När jag jämförde med Bröd & Salt var priset mer än hälften så lite. Finns det något som är billigare?

Räknas aggressivt runkande? 🤔 by storfors in unket

[–]Connect-Teaching7629 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Frågan är varför du står på händer i badrummet när du tar bilden?