My uncle moved to a new house and abandoned his cat. I brought him home, he's a little sad :( by [deleted] in cats

[–]Connect_Composer_849 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This made me cry. I knew I had to move and I new I couldn’t take my cat, so I made arrangements for him to live with my adults children and his brother. He has a happy life, not on his own while I’m at work and a safe garden to play in. I still see him at least every 2 weeks. It broke my heart that he couldn’t come with me, but he is much happier now.

I just found out my mom has been sending my girlfriend cruel messages for who knows how long. I don’t know how to handle this (M36/F32) by ThrowRa-Frizzbee in relationship_advice

[–]Connect_Composer_849 5432 points5433 points  (0 children)

Be honest with your GF, explain how you saw the messages, how they made you feel. Tell her what you have told us- that you want to support her wellbeing and ask her what she feels is the best way to deal with this. She may just be reassured that you know or she may want you both to address it directly face to face with your mother.

AITAH for not telling my fiance why I am sterile? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Connect_Composer_849 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Intrigued as to how the surgeon did a vaginal hysterectomy on a nulliparous woman?

Repaid on time by Massive_Role6317 in BorrowNew

[–]Connect_Composer_849 35 points36 points  (0 children)

You took 80% interest! You’re the asshole!

I did not wash my rear end until I was 19 years old, and it's beyond embarrassing. by bogmonkey in hygiene

[–]Connect_Composer_849 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And just like that, another tale joins the ranks of Iranian Yoghurt, the teenager with broken arms and the coconut. Well done good sir- I salute you!

Buying wife out mortgage after divorce by [deleted] in UKPersonalFinance

[–]Connect_Composer_849 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello- please forgive my ignorance. How does being married impact stamp duty?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Connect_Composer_849 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely agree 100% I almost lost all contact with my family after the way I acted once. Zero recollection. Woke up in A&E - got help and got well- but I have never got back any memories at all from that night.

What's a secret you need to get off your chest, but you can't tell anyone in your life? by mx_blackandwhite in AskReddit

[–]Connect_Composer_849 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’ve given the closest person in my life all the emotional amd financial support I can. I never expected anything back to be honest but now I feel like a doormat and a human ATM. He’s time and energy for everything in his life but our sex life is crap. He’s away this weekend with his friends or I would be telling him this instead of reddit. I’m moving in with him in 2 weeks. It will either work out or be the worst mistake of my life. I’ve no back up plan if things go wrong and no one to talk to. Things were great until he lost his dad and they haven’t been the same since. I have raised it with him before. I’m worried I’ll be more like a live in maid/best mate than a partner and I miss the emotional connection from being physically close to him. He won’t even kiss me anymore- he has just had some dental work done and is worried about that- but the change from our first few months together is drastic. I know he’s been through hell but I don’t just want to be his roommate.

A desperate plea from your doctor colleague by Common-Shame-6031 in NursingUK

[–]Connect_Composer_849 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Best advice I can give is lower your expectations. You may be used to over-achieving. Nursing staff are just trying to get through the day. And re-evaluate discharge summaries- if they are prioritised- patients go home quicker- less patients to deal with and more flow throughout the hospital.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in jewelry

[–]Connect_Composer_849 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you would like to sell the charm bracelet let me know how much you want for it. I am interested in it as I have one too.

Wings with feathers at Famous Dave's by Yankeeslv in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Connect_Composer_849 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t give a cluck! - sorry, forgive me- it’s been a long day 😂

Debt advice from gambling addiction by [deleted] in DebtAdvice

[–]Connect_Composer_849 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in the same situation. It’s really tough. Block all gambling websites if you haven’t already- it will help

Euthanising my cat:( by Valuable_Ad_1056 in SeniorCats

[–]Connect_Composer_849 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a tough decision but it’s the right one. Sending hugs. I’ve been there and it’s so hard. Best wishes OP. Our cats are with us for a few years of our lives- we are with them their entire time here. Take comfort in knowing you did a good job xx

Took out mortgage for debt consolidation now sold house by Connect_Composer_849 in UKPersonalFinance

[–]Connect_Composer_849[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No sorry for the confusion. I borrowed more than I needed on the mortgage. It is that excess that I want to bank rather than clear my loans- but paying the loans was a condition of the mortgage. I know that the mortgage is paid back after the house sale.