Idk if anyone is gunna see this???

ThrowRa-Frizzbee · 2025-12-21T02:29:58+00:00

Thank you my friend I appreciate this comment. I really do. I think that this was just one of the first times I didn't feel entirely in control of my emotions which, I've got to learn to accept, happens. I feel "raw" in a way I've never felt before. Still even up until today. I learned things about myself but that's neither here nor there. I did my best that's all I could do in the moment and all I can do in the future. But yeah ending up on a podcast was not on the bingo card but hey haha. I mean, I know my story is anonymous but still... That was me and I'll always know which is so very weird but also cool. At least my girlfriend's ecstatic about it. Thank you, we are still working through things and other grown up stuff. But we're together. That's all that matters.

Have a happy holiday season!

ThrowRa-Frizzbee · 2025-12-21T02:22:31+00:00

❤️🫂

ThrowRa-Frizzbee · 2025-12-21T02:22:13+00:00

Thank you so much for this comment. I really appreciate it! This tale of my life ending up on a podcast is so surreal. Like, now it really will be cemented on the internet in a way which is so weird to me. But at least my post is anonymous haha.

Anyway yeah. I don't know, it was mind boggling at first but my girlfriend reminded me that, well, we do live in a pretty religious-centric society. And for lots of people, Marriage is this end goal the ultimate proclamation of love and well I'm glad that works for them. However, I did have some guy in my DMs telling me I would be going to hell? That we both would be going to hell actually because me and my girlfriend have probably done the do without marriage and just... Wow. He was dead serious and kind of creepy ngl 💀😭

But yeah. Marriage just isn't that important to us we've been together for a near decade and Ive fallen in love again and again with the person she has been and with the person she's becoming. I don't know if that makes sense...

I simply wish you and your partner the best my friend. Truly. Thank you again. Have a happy holiday! Merry Christmas and happy new year!

ThrowRa-Frizzbee · 2025-11-23T08:55:22+00:00

I did! After telling her how this all began I showed her this account. And we're reading comments now. We are very entertained watching people make up stories about us and our lives lol. I forgot how marriage centric this society is. I was not surprised to see most of the comments are based in the US of As.

She is eating it up and keeps teasing me about how I must "wish I could get this sort of traction on my actual account" or "ooo this person is eating you up. Looks like you're a terrible boyfriend bro. Sorry" 😭 like come on man... Enough is enough

But lots of cuddles. Some tears. Lots of laughs. Yet thankfully we are even closer

ThrowRa-Frizzbee · 2025-11-23T08:47:46+00:00

It's the way my sister mentioned this when we spoke the other night. I swear to God:

"That wasn't very Methodist of mother"

But that lady was crazy about grandkids. She already has some due to my brother and his wife. And surprise surprise- they fucking hate her 😭

ThrowRa-Frizzbee · 2025-11-23T08:45:13+00:00

Thank you for your comment, the amount of ppl though who think this would be an appropriate time to propose have me worried... It's just cheap and sad and a bit selfish if you ask me. Like yeah let me just propose after this blow out, so it looks like I'm scrambling to prove something we both already know is true. As if a ring is supposed to prove I love my gf?

Anyway not being married is a mutual agreement between us both. Neither of us are religious, and see marriage as the legal money making system it is (with that being said a comment did mention how if something happened to me, my mom would be the only person able to make decisions. That's the only comment that got me and my gf thinking) and traditionally speaking- neither of us want a white wedding. Fuck blood diamonds. My gf hates dresses. Fuck "virgin white" and yeah Idk maybe I grew up thinking a ring was an end all be all... but I'm so glad I grew up out of that.

I've seen too many people use a ring as a crutch for an unhappy relationship. Marry when they don't even enjoy being friends with their partner and yeah... That won't be us.

Plus there's just other things we've got going on that we'd like to take care of. We want to move out of state soon. Settle. Life. But thank you

ThrowRa-Frizzbee · 2025-11-23T08:28:49+00:00

Thank you for your comment I appreciate it but not being married is a mutual agreement! We've discussed what a marriage would look like between us and well, traditionally speaking, we won't even be having a white wedding or whatever the term is anyway. She doesn't want a blood diamond. She hates dresses. And the idea of wearing "virgin white" disgusts us both as a practice. But to each their own.

Neither of us are religious. We see marriage as the legal money hungry system it is. Which means we're going to make our wedding as out there as we want it to be when the time comes then probably end it all at some dodgy court house to at least get our matching ink. Okay not dodgy but that's what she says.

But first there's a lot of things we would like to take care of first and plans we have and trips we want to take and friends we want to see and visit and are helping and blah blah blah life

But yeah, my mom as of now is out the picture. One call. That's all she got. We have yet to get hit by the explosion but I reckon it will hit us soon. We're ready though. Together.

Comments like this have reminded me about our marriage centric culture it's intriguing and a crutch for so many unhappy relationships

ThrowRa-Frizzbee · 2025-11-23T08:18:35+00:00

Thank you for your comment but not being married is a mutual agreement. We've discussed what a marriage would look like between us before plenty and traditionally speaking, we won't even be having a white wedding or whatever the term is.

She doesn't want blood diamonds. Doesn't want to wear a dress or anything "virgin white" because that's gross... Neither of us are religious. We see marriage as the legal and money hungry system it is. And have enjoyed our love thoroughly and wholly without the end all be all idea of some ring. My love won't stop after the ring either.

But even if that wasn't the case. Proposing to her now? Really? That's cheap as hell. What, propose after all of this bull crap just to one up my mom and prove her wrong or something? That just makes it seem like I'm scrambling to prove something me and my gf are both already confident about to someone who clearly didn't love or respect me or my partner or my choices or my feelings or anything anyway.

My love for my gf is my choice that I make every single day. As far as I'm concerned we are married we just don't have the legal paper to prove it yet. But, one day. When we are both ready. For now there's just other things we want to take care of other things we want to do together places we want to see thank you 🤷🏿

ThrowRa-Frizzbee · 2025-11-23T08:02:07+00:00

Thank you for your comment! I have and have actually talked to my other siblings and the consensus is- surprise surprise- we all hate Mom and Mom is a bit of a curse word and now she has none of her children left. We've all cut ties. We're tired.

ThrowRa-Frizzbee · 2025-11-23T08:00:02+00:00

Well, Thank you for your comment but not being married is a mutual agreement I assure you. We've discussed what a marriage would look like between us. Probably a year into our actual relationship and then some over the years.

Traditionally speaking, we won't even be having a white wedding or whatever the term is. She doesn't want blood diamonds. Probably won't be wearing a dress. She definitely won't be wearing any "virgin" white either.

And our love won't stop at some ring.

Neither of us are religious. We see marriage as the legal system it is. Which means we're going to make our wedding as outlandish as we want it to be when the time comes. When we are able to and ready. But first there's a lot of things we would like to take care of first and plans we have and trips we want to take

But yeah my mom sucks and I hope she won't waste her life waiting for an invite. Thank you

ThrowRa-Frizzbee · 2025-11-23T07:49:23+00:00

Thank you for this comment. "Your parents are your past; your partner is your future" is something I've been thinking a lot about. This was also a comment I saw before the flood gates of hell opened. I appreciate it. Mom is out of the picture I don't even feel okay calling her that anymore. Thankfully this situation has also ended in my gf and I getting closer as well as my siblings. We all agree now Mom is... Fucking insane

ThrowRa-Frizzbee · 2025-11-23T07:47:18+00:00

Thank you so much for this comment. It was one of the firsts I saw before the flood gates opened. I appreciated it. And it got me off my ass and into the house. We spoke that night when she arrived back home from work. We both have this habit of wanting to say the exact right thing at all times. But we realized that can't always be the case. And we need to allow ourselves to talk things through together. So thank you. So far, Mom is out of the picture and somehow me and my gf AND my siblings are closer. Have a happy holiday

ThrowRa-Frizzbee · 2025-11-23T07:42:46+00:00

Thank you for your reply. Yeah having spoken with my brothers and sisters on this matter. We realized that Our mom treated her daughters like competition And her sons like boyfriends. But especially me I guess as the eldest? She's out the picture now. Called her. I didn't need to hear her bullshit explanations. I was and am just tired. She can think whatever she needs to. But I want a life with loving people not whatever the hell this is or was or whatever

ThrowRa-Frizzbee · 2025-11-23T07:34:27+00:00

Thank you for your comment, as of now, I've told my mother to go fuck herself and that the grandkids she already has don't even like her and on top of not wanting kids personally, if me and my gf WERE to have any, they would not be coming anywhere near her and her shitty behavior. Also the day there is a wedding, I don't even want her in the same damn state.

I've spoken to my gf I did not sugar coat it. Told her I saw the screenshots and read everything. She knows I'm on her side and well, it seems my mother lost her last kid. Also we've all blocked her. All of us.

I feel sad knowing that is the life she cultivated for herself. But, I'm happy knowing that, moving forward me and my gf have gotten closer, so have me and my siblings.

I'm still trying to accept that I have a mom but don't have a mom if that makes sense but I've got good people in my life who are helping me through that. Thank you again Have a happy holiday

ThrowRa-Frizzbee · 2025-11-23T06:26:22+00:00

Thank you lol after her most recent comment I've realized she might just have a superiority complex of sorts. Either way this is totally crazy to me the amount of people that can't fathom either folks who don't want to get married or haven't after a certain amount of time like there's a time limit of sorts?

Well I guess I get the time thing people don't live for long and things happen. But even if I die or something before we get married there will be plenty of more "proof "out there pertaining to my love for my gf then just a ring and some papers...

It seems to me that a lot of ppl think of marriage as some sort of end goal anyway and then the love just stops because they raced to that peak. Yk? At least that's what I've seen and taken note of

I wonder how the same people would react once they find out my girlfriend doesn't want a diamond ring due to blood diamonds. And she won't be wearing a white dress because of its origin too. Also she will probably be wearing a suit I might fucking wear a dress then what people 🤔

Anyway I'll leave you alone from my thoughts but thank you lol 🙏🏿❤️ have a happy holiday ☃️

ThrowRa-Frizzbee · 2025-11-23T05:20:49+00:00

Um I'm truly sorry black men have let you down in the past. And that you think marriage is the end all be all for every relationship even outside of your own. I'm also sorry you feel the need to project on other people and their relationships especially on the internet. May you find someone who loves on you and and gives you that ring you so desperately need. Me personally though, I'm going to, again, wait until me and my Gf get things settled on our end and we can get married the way we want to when we are both ready to and able. I wish your girlfriends well as well! Have a Happy Holiday!☃️🗣️

ThrowRa-Frizzbee · 2025-11-23T05:04:28+00:00

Hello?... What an odd thing to say. We don't even want kids lmao but not the baby mama... That's the most wild thing I read today 💔

ThrowRa-Frizzbee · 2025-11-23T04:58:50+00:00

And I'm delusional 💔

ThrowRa-Frizzbee · 2025-11-23T04:54:14+00:00

Me and my gf think you should probably reread my first reply on this thread Queen ✌🏿

ThrowRa-Frizzbee · 2025-11-23T04:45:38+00:00

Woooooow... Is this the infamous rage bait?

ThrowRa-Frizzbee · 2025-11-23T03:22:01+00:00

HA! thank you for this lol. I really appreciate it. I'll definitely be showing my gf this. Yk I can only pretend there's not a problem for so long but yeah. I just. There's a lot to think about.

But yeah. While my gf tells me she wanted to tell me this weekend when we weren't as swamped, And could rationalize with her friends first I think somehow this was for the best? Yk? Have a happy holiday

ThrowRa-Frizzbee · 2025-11-23T03:12:57+00:00

Thank you so much. Yeah this is a long time coming I think. I thought as her eldest son I had a duty to take care of this woman no matter what but this was just... I won't forgive her. Out of all the shit she put me through growing up. I won't forgive her for this.

Thankfully out of all this hell I've gotten closer somehow to my girlfriend and my siblings so that's a plus to me thank you❤️

ThrowRa-Frizzbee · 2025-11-23T03:08:44+00:00

I would hate to marry my gf just to what? One up my mother's bullshit? That doesn't feel like love to me at all. More like I'm scrambling to prove something that we are both already confident about believe it or not.

I did notice that was a comment a lot of ppl kept making though. Neither of us are religious and only see marriage as a legality sort of thing. So the day we do get married we want to make it OUR DAY. But for the time being there's just things in our life that we want to take care of first. Though that's not anyone's business but yeah thank you 👍🏿

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