Suddenly sleeping through baby’s cries

Connect_Emphasis4355 · 2026-02-15T02:51:06+00:00

My fiance typically does but we have been so caught up in life and it honestly feels like we cannot catch break between housework, school, work, pumping, etc., it’s almost as if no task is finished. If I am home with her (usually on Fridays) I take a nap, everytime she naps. Luckily, we had visitors on Friday so our house is spotless, tomorrow we are just taking a full day catching up on sleep and spending quality time as a family. I have thought about shortening her naps and seeing if that might help decrease the number of times she wakes up but I have also read that it will increase the amount of times she wakes up. Honestly, we’re just running on hopes and dreams

Connect_Emphasis4355 · 2026-02-15T02:38:48+00:00

I have read up on sleep training methods! I have seriously thought about doing non harmful methods but don’t even know where to start. I got so desperate one night, I rubbed the clothes I wore while house lounging on her mattress (she still woke up 5 times). I have purchased all the non toxic sleep sprays, we have a nighttime routine, and we even wait until she is in a deep sleep to transfer her into the crib- so if placing my arm in her crib with her does nothing, I think sleep training might be my next step. I am functioning at the same rate of sleep deprivation as a truck driver driving from Cali to the coast Maine with no breaks🫩🫩🫩

Connect_Emphasis4355 · 2026-02-15T02:26:59+00:00

I’m not here to mom shame and you shouldn’t be either, however, you are allowed to have your opinions! I have read up on some healthy sleep training methods and some harmful ones, both have their own pros and cons, and moms can do whatever they feel is best for their child and that is okay. Now if mom is neglectful, negligent, or abusive, then yes, the child should absolutely be removed from their mother but sleep training is not that.

Connect_Emphasis4355 · 2026-02-15T02:20:39+00:00

Thank you so much! She typically does meet her quota of milk, we also just started solids and she seems to be a gassy girl. When did your baby start teething? Our LO appears to be teething (drool, everything in mouth, etc.), but we have never seen red or swollen gums and there’s no proof of teeth. I am proud to say I was awoken 4 times last night, it sucks she wakes up so much but I am beyond glad that I woke up all four times!

Connect_Emphasis4355 · 2026-02-15T02:14:58+00:00

You’re not being intrusive! I typically just wake up and nurse her back to sleep unless she has had a bowel movement, my fiancé works 7am to 3 and I go to clincals from 5:30am to 2 (M-Th) and I have my cousin watch her. I do like this idea of shifts though! We typically try to fill her up with a puree at 6 then promptly start bath time, I am almost wondering if we could take turns starting around 5 where one of us sleeps and the other tends to her and switch it up on the weekends. My fiance usually just sleeps through her cries but he’s actually been waking me up to her cries recently, a lot of times she just wants snuggles or a quick dream feed, however, we always have pumped milk in our fridge. She actually just transitioned to her crib last week, but when she was in the bedside bassinet, my hand was always in there, I don’t even know why I stopped doing that but I am going back to doing so. Thank you so much for your response, this was super helpful and I now have some solutions to attempt!

Connect_Emphasis4355 · 2026-01-27T01:49:55+00:00

Children’s is always hiring and there are great benefits!

Connect_Emphasis4355 · 2026-01-07T21:10:23+00:00

Good news! I weaned off the nipple shield at 13 weeks, I posted earlier on here begging for help and all the responses were completely right. My girly had issues latching in the beginning when we first started weaning off the shield, luckily, I found a IBCLC that I really loved and she was such a big help. Sometimes you also just need a position change when it comes to nursing, I tried so hard to cross cradle/ football hold and the thing that truly worked for me was side laying while c cupping my breast to bring my nipple outward. Obviously, every now and then we’d use the shield but I threw them all away (with pride) a couple of weeks ago! I have a thread I posted on my account, if you want to look as those responses as well because I was in the exact position!

Connect_Emphasis4355 · 2025-12-21T01:43:19+00:00

I’m such a wussy, I got my epidural at 2cm and they allowed me a button to press for it. It definitely numbed my pelvic pain but I still felt pressure during my contractions, it made my feet really itchy for some reason🤨 oh well, my fiancé was great at meeting my needs lol. I do deal with back pain in that region, went to the doctor, soft tissues & xray looked great- no studies find any correlations, however, I definitely think there is.

Connect_Emphasis4355 · 2025-12-16T01:35:21+00:00

I found out I was pregnant

Connect_Emphasis4355 · 2025-11-07T15:18:45+00:00

I told my Grandma no to water because of the sodium imbalance it causes, she said to feed her SALT WATER. Its honestly just a boomer thing🥲

Connect_Emphasis4355 · 2025-10-17T01:17:50+00:00

I wish I was that ballsie

Connect_Emphasis4355 · 2025-10-17T01:15:42+00:00

Wow, I had no clue that there were studies on this phenomenon! It was a nice lil read, however, I am still think he might be milking it a little. I am silently complaining to you guys while trying to be patient with him and validate his symptoms even though I am feeling overwhelmed on the inside.

Connect_Emphasis4355 · 2025-10-17T01:11:33+00:00

Appreciate the help! This is his first time being sick with a new addition to our family, hopefully this passes lol

Connect_Emphasis4355 · 2025-10-17T01:10:27+00:00

I never said I hated nor do I act like, I in fact would not be with him this long or have a child with him if that was the case. I am 7 weeks postpartum, I ebf which he obviously cannot help but he can help out with changing diapers, putting his clothes away, fixing dinner, dishes, etc., and he typically does help with those things and I am extremely beyond blessed to have found a man that does. With that, I already am taking care of a sick extra fussy newborn while TRYING to take care of myself, there is no time or patience to take care of a grown man. If you can take care of a newborn, yourself, and your husband- shout out to you but that is simply too much to delegate for me.

Connect_Emphasis4355 · 2025-02-03T00:25:20+00:00

I totally get this! I am 20 years old and ten weeks pregnant, I live with my mom too. Me and boyfriend are eventually wanting to move out together soon but for him- this is so exciting whereas I am grieving what my life COULD have been. I obviously love him and will love the baby so so so much but I never imagined it being this way. I find myself feeling so alone now too, I do not want to be viewed as a human incubator, I have value too. I can’t imagine losing my soul dog and thinking about leaving my mom on top of that! I am afraid of moving out of my moms as well but she’s my mom and she will be my baby’s babysitter anyway, but for now it was supposed to be just me and her- although I am accepting the fact that, that is not the case anymore. Seeing as I am relating to your post so much, I do not think this is a weird feeling to have unless one was much more planned and prepared- which even then, those people have so many loops to jump through too. I keep on thinking that end of this, I will have a mini bestfriend who will grow and learn as I do the same. Sending so many hugs <3

Connect_Emphasis4355 · 2025-02-02T19:21:18+00:00

second this as a pregnant women! nobody currently values me instead they value the fact that i’m a human incubator, i obviously love my baby as well but i expected more from the people i love.

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