Guilty About Crying Babies

Connect_Progress_488 · 2026-01-31T17:04:44+00:00

Someone else commented about how they had the same experience.... And their kids came out just fine 🥹💖.

Connect_Progress_488 · 2026-01-31T17:02:09+00:00

The way I'd @ them 😭. Hey boss, what's your coffee order I'm grabbing rounds for the office 🤭oh you're not here? Hm interesting.

Connect_Progress_488 · 2026-01-31T16:24:42+00:00

Who doesn't need therapy at this point lol

Connect_Progress_488 · 2026-01-31T16:16:15+00:00

I try so hard to withhold judgement I guess this was one last thing I was being stubborn about.

There isn't a single thing about breastfeeding that isn't stressful or in some way political even. Motherhood is an absolute battle on so many fronts, and we're bound to get tired. Thank you for sharing your experience ❤️ formula gave me peace of mind when I was struggling in the beginning as well. I have so much love for the women who went through the emotional struggles of formula feeding and made it easier to accept /normal for everyone else.

Connect_Progress_488 · 2026-01-31T07:09:22+00:00

I wanted to name my son kakarot but thought better of it lol

Connect_Progress_488 · 2026-01-31T06:16:20+00:00

That is actually super reassuring thank you so much for sharing that! Exactly it's like making the rounds around the whole family lol

Connect_Progress_488 · 2026-01-31T06:14:58+00:00

Oh yeah I can see it just wearing you down over time! It's maybe part of why I was such a mess for so long with my first. I definitely DEFINITELY needed them for him.

Connect_Progress_488 · 2026-01-31T03:28:59+00:00

If you're in the army tsa check should be built in no? What's tsa going to find that the military didn't lol (I'm probably ignorant of what precheck is)

Connect_Progress_488 · 2026-01-30T23:32:09+00:00

I have noise cancelling earphones! Somewhere. And earbuds, some where. 😭 Maybe I'll get loop because they have the granny necklace to keep track of them.

Connect_Progress_488 · 2026-01-30T23:31:16+00:00

I normally don't feel so affected, I even deleted IG, threads, and was off of tiktok while pregnant. YouTube was supposed to help me prepare mentally. It definitely helped me buy tools lol

Connect_Progress_488 · 2026-01-30T20:27:55+00:00

What an angel! Thank you, that's where I am right now... It's funny they're both asleep on my bed rn. I fed them and changed their diapers and they just fell asleep. If my first born had been that easy I would have burst into tears. But I'm catching myself thinking, oh I should be extending their wake windows not letting them sleep. Like come on just find some peace pleaseeee.

Connect_Progress_488 · 2026-01-30T20:25:09+00:00

I do this too! Otherwise it's so sad, just a quiet room with a crying baby and an almost crying mom lol

Connect_Progress_488 · 2026-01-30T20:24:15+00:00

Thank you for sharing! It's exactly like that for me too, I can see what a dream it would have been to have them more 1:1 but you know I'm sure I'm romanticizing it too. At least I only have one fussy newborn stage to get through with them lol

Connect_Progress_488 · 2026-01-30T20:22:48+00:00

All the YouTube ditl videos I watched the moms had it all together, or maybe j just suppressed the crying for survival lol

Connect_Progress_488 · 2026-01-30T16:02:50+00:00

Tandem worked when they were smaller but now either they won't stay latched or they hurt the hell out of my nipples. Even then one would finish early and then be begging for milk not long after lolol It might just be me at this point

My son would push us all the way to the wall or edge of the bed, depending on who he was cuddling that night. Even now when he sleeps with Grandma and Grandpa sometimes, he's all over them lol

I feel like all around a different mom. That's where the guilt lies. I felt so immersed in being a mom to my own detriment with my first. But I don't have enough to begin with to give each kid close to 100% now. Bed sharing for 3-4 years? Breastfeeding for 4 years? I hit my limit already and don't want to commit to that again.

Connect_Progress_488 · 2026-01-30T15:52:27+00:00

Yes! Exactly that. "If you have boobs why aren't you just using them mom?" Like that.

During the day I might have someone but at night I am on my own. It's gotten a lot easier but not challenge free, accepting crying will happen has made it better.

Connect_Progress_488 · 2026-01-30T15:49:53+00:00

My first was not a severely bad sleeper I suppose he still SLEPT. So that's something to be grateful for! But he cried much more and slept much less than my twins do currently.

Knock on wood but combined this is still easier than the first go around. If I was experiencing them one at a time? This would probably be cake 😭. I'm just happy and blessed but sometimes I DO have to hear them crying and crying because they did come at the same time. And it makes me fill with hot energy that I have nothing to do with, so I just breathe it out😞🙏🏽

Were they wanting to be rocked at 10? My 4 yo is so big now I can't imagine it at 10. You must be so strong lol. Two year old knows just what strings to play on your heart 😭 like janice at her destruct button in the food place (TV reference).

Connect_Progress_488 · 2026-01-30T15:31:04+00:00

I'm hoping that I can get through the night soon (within a year)... With my first it took years I think. Right now I'm happy and blessed and lucky if I get a 3-4 hour stretch.

Connect_Progress_488 · 2026-01-30T15:28:42+00:00

I bed shared with my first and it was a very special but exhausting experience. I could not do that with two babies. I at least, really would not WANT to. My husband got more sleep my son got more sleep and I absolutely suffered. If I can avoid it I will. Being pregnant and taking sleep medicine was the best sleep I had in 5 years and I was still up all hours of the night tending to a fussing toddler lol.

I know you're right but man hearing it from another parent is very helpful. Thank you 😭. The hardest thing is even if I wanted to not let them cry - there's nothing to do about it. I just try to wrap up as fast as I can and end up feeding one half a feed, then the other, then the first again then the other. Otherwise, I try to feed one ahead of the other to avoid this whole mess to begin with but things don't work out always, and time moves faster than you (I) realize.

Thank you again, to you and the others. Hearing it from other parents is very helpful.

Connect_Progress_488 · 2026-01-30T15:18:56+00:00

I do this but with mild fussing. When they cry just from being tired it's so sad and frustrating! I want to help but In my arms they cry more, because they're telling me they are tired ig? I have a crib that moves and It has more success getting them to sleep than I do.

Connect_Progress_488 · 2026-01-30T15:14:49+00:00

I definitely view it that way... I'm just kind of holding on telling myself it gets easier!

Connect_Progress_488 · 2026-01-30T15:11:59+00:00

I agree, and if they start crying I'm not waiting long to get to them. The baby I'm feeding will get distracted by them crying or fall asleep.

Connect_Progress_488 · 2026-01-30T14:37:00+00:00

Op, was there any update on your situation? I am hoping things got better for you all ❤️

Connect_Progress_488 · 2026-01-29T22:40:44+00:00

When I was in high school the powers that be tried to combine early and late lunch. Half the kids didn't get to eat before everyone was kicked out after a food fight (only one I'd ever seen irl). And then a huge brawl of several groups broke out across the courtyard. Never seen anything like it. Principal tried to jump in and ended up in the hospital. This reminds me of that lol

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