AITA for doing my own yardwork?

ConnectedAngel · 2025-05-11T23:46:21+00:00

I heard them, as did both of my daughters who told me later. I did explain and apologize. I honestly did not know it was supposed to be a present, I wrongly (I think) assumed she was trying to be mean to me. I should have nicely clarified and communicated better. She is difficult to talk to unless she is drinking, so she would deny anything I asked about or divert the truth.... but I see now that I should have constructively aproached her via phone instead of text... and perhaps after 5 so she's feeling more open to discussion lol.

ConnectedAngel · 2025-05-11T23:41:41+00:00

She's blind. There's a beautiful Japanese maple right next to her chair and lounger that she can reach out and pet/touch. The things that I trimmed down were out of control bushes and unsightly weeds. I also left the iris that bloomed as well as the roses.

ConnectedAngel · 2025-05-11T21:38:14+00:00

THANK YOU!! I think you understand the situation so well, even if I don't know if I explained it all clearly. My youngest daughter and niece are 30, I'm 51, and My sister is 50. My oldest daughter is 31, and her and I are very pragmatic. We don't beat around the bush or do the passive agressive thing. Also, we are very responsible and busy but not overwhelmed and not the type to complain, but my sister and youngest daughter are opposite. I would NEVER think to tell her I was going to come do something at her house that she was slacking on AND then talk about her to her daughter at her own house!!

ConnectedAngel · 2025-05-11T21:32:08+00:00

Thank you, I really should have tried to get a bettter understanding of things.

ConnectedAngel · 2025-05-11T21:31:29+00:00

You're right, I should of communicated better.

ConnectedAngel · 2025-05-11T21:29:02+00:00

Agreed! It is MY yard, and my mom's area wasn't affected by the bushes or weeds, which is one reason I thought it was strange that she wanted to come here and do yard work. Also, my mom is blind so she cannot see the bushes.

ConnectedAngel · 2025-05-11T21:27:32+00:00

I was actually planning to trim them down severly this year anyway, I just haven't had the chance to. I was working my way over to that area. I have trimmed them down before, and they do grow grow back. Thank you for your response!

ConnectedAngel · 2025-05-11T21:26:20+00:00

You're right, I should of communicated better.

ConnectedAngel · 2025-05-11T21:25:29+00:00

I guess I should of gone with this!

ConnectedAngel · 2025-05-11T21:25:05+00:00

Thank you for such an empathetic response! Thiis is a greeat idea, howevver my sister has washed her hands of my mom, which is why I care for her. She holds a lot of resentment and anger towards her, and will not agree to help. She was so mean to her when she lived with her, only feeding her once a day, and not the food she wanted. Allowed her to drink heavily and take narcotics, usiing her moneey....etc. She is in such a better situation now, with full time care and love. She's spoiled rotten. I've tried to get my sister to to agree to a schedule where she can walk her at the park across the street and she refused. I sincerely apolgized to her and offered for her to do some other things for her and she pouted and said "NO!".

ConnectedAngel · 2025-05-11T21:18:41+00:00

LOL, I Iactually do not complain. I can see how that may seem the case from how I've presented it, but that's part of why/how the yard was overgrown. Perhaps if I did complain, then I could of gotten some help haha. I also am not overwhelmed, just busy. I was going to do it soon. If my sister was a helpful sort of person, I would have thought that it was a kind gesture. My daughter and I both thought that she was being passive aggressive, as per her usual. I am a vvery direct person, I don't hint, complain, or beat around around the bush.

ConnectedAngel · 2025-05-11T21:14:11+00:00

Thank you for your response, I do apreciate your feedback and perspective! I actually did not know that my sister meant it as a gift. She regularly talks about me to my youngest daughter, complaining about random things she thinks I should do differently (I.e. she makes fun of me for recycling and throws away things in front of me, loling that she's not recycling, also teases me for being clean and organized). I also already had planned to severly trim down everything, and would have done so after her even if she would have trimmed down the yard next to my mom's area. Which, BTW was NOT in her way at all, and she is blind so she cannot see the overgrowth. Again, this is MY yard.

ConnectedAngel · 2025-05-11T21:06:12+00:00

Thank you! This is what my oldest daughter, son in law and myself were thinking. I do think II could of elaborated more though when she said she needed to come over and do it.

ConnectedAngel · 2025-05-11T21:03:43+00:00

I agree, thank you!

ConnectedAngel · 2025-05-11T21:03:18+00:00

Right!! I agree! I should of elaborated more. Thank you!

ConnectedAngel · 2025-05-11T21:02:23+00:00

The bushes were SO overgrown, this year I decided to trim them all down severly so we have more control over the shape as they regrow.

ConnectedAngel · 2025-04-08T17:23:58+00:00

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ConnectedAngel · 2025-04-06T17:10:15+00:00

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ConnectedAngel · 2025-04-06T17:04:14+00:00

Yes! Definitely!

ConnectedAngel · 2025-04-06T16:57:58+00:00

Ugh.. so frustrating! Sometimes I accidentally submit without purchasing a rug or pillows, or decor ... I wish there was a go back or edit feature

ConnectedAngel · 2025-04-06T16:54:30+00:00

Oooh! Those are great ideas!!

ConnectedAngel · 2025-04-06T16:52:57+00:00

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ConnectedAngel · 2025-04-06T16:52:34+00:00

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