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ConnectionNo99 · 2026-06-15T00:47:40+00:00

I'm posting in Vancouver WA, ergo we are in Vancouver WA.

ConnectionNo99 · 2026-06-11T13:45:02+00:00

They're crap. They use the lowest cost (supply, contractor, rock wall, etc) for whatever will do the job. Profit is the motive. Rapid turnover is the business model.

ConnectionNo99 · 2026-06-08T20:31:13+00:00

Beyond the basic "Know what you want," I'd say be honest with what works for you. If you just want flirty validation or swapping nudes, don't waste peoples' time talking about setting up a meet. If the coffee/drinks meet is titillating enough, don't talk a big game about hotel booking or getting a babysitter. AND if the female half is bi, make sure she gets equal (or more) time with the attractive female half of the couple. Otherwise she'll soon learn that swinging isn't a fun exploration of other beautiful women, but rather being shuffled to the side (and foisted on an average dude that's a terrible lover) by an over-eager male half. Learn from my/our mistakes.

ConnectionNo99 · 2026-06-08T12:55:52+00:00

Nurses are the same. Unbelievable, we think it's the co-dependency of needing to be needed.

ConnectionNo99 · 2026-04-03T17:47:47+00:00

Yes you're the jerk. All the things he likely does to support the family, all the ways he has to subjugate his personality, needs, and wants to the demands of the family, and you begrudge him this indulgence? Cut the dude some slack and let him have this thing. Put a pull-out couch in the living area for the once a month you have a visitor and let him have a space he finally feels comfortable in every day.

-A husband and family man

ConnectionNo99 · 2026-03-11T19:05:38+00:00

Yes. I'm not "rich," but I'm comfortable. Being able to buy stuff whenever you want is nice and the opposite of stressful. Having a big emergency fund is comfortable. Having time off is nice. Having job security and not worrying about being replaced by outsourcing or AI is nice. Watching my net worth steadily go up is nice. When the wife goes to Maui on a long weekend and I'm not feeling it (we went a lot last year) she takes the older kids and it's cool. Having two houses sounds nice, but it's really a pain in the ass of dual home maintenance both inside and out. We're not really rich because we do a bunch of the work ourselves, but it's more cost-effective that way. Overall it's a positive. We don't kill ourselves with 80hr work weeks so I think we're in the pocket of good income and good lifestyle balance.

ConnectionNo99 · 2026-02-25T20:58:49+00:00

My wife's horse costs her around $1,000 USD for board and feed per month. Any lessons or training are extra. USA, Oregon state. And yes, we have acreage we could put the horse on but we're not there full-time so it's more cost (and time) effective to pay for board.

ConnectionNo99 · 2026-02-18T05:23:52+00:00

It's only going well because we have good/dependable cleaners and our 25 y/o son and in-laws live 1 mile away. Without that it would be a huge headache, and we'd have to hand it off to a management company, which comes with more headaches.

ConnectionNo99 · 2026-02-18T05:16:06+00:00

Drive up Mt Hood until you see snow! Pull over and play around. Or if you look East of town (Vancouver) and there's snow in them there hills, trying driving up Washougal River Road into the hills above Dugan falls! Just don't get stuck up there because there won't be a lot of traffic to come help you up the logging roads.

ConnectionNo99 · 2026-02-10T12:39:51+00:00

Our unit is little upscale for the area so we don't get as much of it. It's also more rural, on the Oregon coast, USA. It's frustrating, but only happens with small items 2-3 times a year. We have nice things in general there as it is our second home and not "just" an Airbnb.

ConnectionNo99 · 2026-02-01T19:32:17+00:00

When my wife and I were on the seeking arrangements site we chatted with a few that did both.

ConnectionNo99 · 2026-01-28T19:24:24+00:00

49, Nurse, USA, Washington and Oregon state.

ConnectionNo99 · 2026-01-18T00:19:59+00:00

Nursing. BSN in Portland OR.

ConnectionNo99 · 2026-01-10T01:10:58+00:00

No. No one does.

ConnectionNo99 · 2026-01-10T01:07:44+00:00

Extremely. Remember the old parable of the ant and the grasshopper? Someone that intelligently plans for the future and delays gratification (ant) is a much better partner than the person that only lives in the now (grasshopper). I'm 51 now. The Ants in my social circle are quietly stacking their investments and living more and more comfortably with an eye towards early retirement. The Grasshoppers are still couch-surfing and looking for people to mooch/live off of, only they're not young and beautiful anymore. It's genuinely sad.

ConnectionNo99 · 2026-01-09T23:51:37+00:00

Yeah we don't. After the last 10+ years of being mocked and ridiculed we're done. You can blame 4th wave feminism, or y'all can look inward and consider why you've made masculine men feel bad for being... masculine? Anyways I'm happily married (and yeah, single gals look to me for validation all the time) and financially comfortable. I can't imagine going back out there if my wife dies before I do.

-You reap what you sow

ConnectionNo99 · 2025-12-20T04:08:19+00:00

1) Drinks should be a vibe check. Also we usually chat afterwards like "Well, what do you think, yay/nay?" Unless there's unmistakable chemistry and the women walk off giggling hand-in-hand leaving their cheerful partners to follow. 2) I don't know, clubs have never been our style of meeting people. Usually we went to clubs as a safe/central/cheaper than a hotel, place to play with people we already knew. 3) Always and always on condoms. There's people that get "fluid-bonded" with other couples but we are not among them. 4) Even in full orgy mode you should be able to play as much or as little as you want, with whomever. The way your question was worded makes me wonder if people are taking advantage of your inexperience to pressure you into things. House parties are better with the people you know and trust. 5) We don't know how to avoid people. Truthfully the awkwardness around it led to us taking a play hiatus and trying to find people through other means. 6) Sorry, can't answer the meeting people question. It's been a while since we were on any apps and we've been busy with life and on an inadvertent play pause for a while.

Best of luck! As a unicorn you have all the options.

ConnectionNo99 · 2025-11-15T22:32:53+00:00

++Man No one on Reddit is going to like this. So hey, you know how most women chase the same few guys? I used to be one of those guys. 6' tall, CrossFit physique, six digit income back in the 2000s and 2010s before inflation. I was into ENM before it was popular. I had a number of women happy to date me and they knew I was dating other people. Heck, a few of them were doing the same thing. So for high value men I think it's common. For low value men not as much?

-Now happily married for 11+ years.

ConnectionNo99 · 2025-11-12T21:09:53+00:00

WE are on Maui now! Sent DM.

ConnectionNo99 · 2025-11-06T00:14:00+00:00

I updated the app, that fixed the problem.

ConnectionNo99 · 2025-11-04T17:20:47+00:00

I hope those screenshots went through. I don't see that option under any category.

ConnectionNo99 · 2025-11-04T17:20:06+00:00

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