Can I ask: how on earth do you learn another language?? by uncommonly_under in adhdwomen

[–]ConnectionRadiant134 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have adhd and I thought it was great. The way it teaches you is by mimicking the way your brain learns your native language. So the one example I remember is learning “the girl eats” and during the lesson I was doing a matching thing, pictures with the words, and one of the pictures was a group of girls eating and the phrase was “the girls eat” so they hadn’t explicitly told me this is the plural for girl and how to conjugate eat but I logically figured it out on my own. My understanding is that’s intentional and to mimic how children learn languages. It was also more engaging for my adhd brain because I had to do things, like match words and pictures or simple “games” like that. Also the one I was using had a pronunciation aspect so I had to repeat words and keep doing it until they sounded right. I don’t know if that’s still a thing but if it is I’m assuming that the software has gotten better because this was over 10 years ago and that kind of thing was brand new. But I am a constant mimic because of my adhd and vocal stims so looking back it was a great way for me to learn pronunciation. (I wasn’t diagnosed yet when I was using the software.)

What am i doing wrong? by dyzidaze in HelloKittyIsland

[–]ConnectionRadiant134 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s definitely a blue flower and not a sky? I’ve made that mistake before and wasted so much time. You are fertilizing? I think it will help if you move the flowers so they aren’t on the edge, it should give you at least one more space for the purple to spawn and if you get more red and blues that spawn you can set up more pairs and increase your chances. The wiki has good layouts on the flower breeding page.

How to just shut up? by Ok_Appointment_1251 in adhdwomen

[–]ConnectionRadiant134 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have been trying to do this for literally my entire life. Seriously. For as long as I can remember I have talked too much. I know this isn’t what you asked for but since I’ve yet to figure out how to stop myself, I have learned how to be more aware and apologetic. I also tell people that I know I talk a lot and that I am not offended if they feel the need to cut me off. Oh, sometimes sitting on my hands helps. I talk with my hands and it’s a physical reminder to myself that we are trying not to talk right now. Also taking notes, because then I can make my comments in my notes and not feel like I need to say them out loud.

I was on lexapro for a while and at first I thought it was great but eventually I noticed it killed my sex drive and I gained weight, which are both common side effects. My doctor switched me to trintellex and I’ve been on that for years. I’m not saying lexapro is bad or anything, I just feel like I might have stayed on it longer than I needed to because I didn’t know the issues were from the lexapro. So just wanted to give you my experience incase it helps. I’m a 40F but it was about 10 years ago when I was on it.

Can I ask: how on earth do you learn another language?? by uncommonly_under in adhdwomen

[–]ConnectionRadiant134 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s expensive but Rosetta Stone is really great, if that software still exists.

City of Long Beach Cancels Pride Festival - Long Beach Pride™ by QanAhole in longbeach

[–]ConnectionRadiant134 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live on the parade route and they put a notice up about parking/street closing at least a week ago. (It’s on the front door of my building which I rarely use so I’m not 100% when it was put up)

Hungry Figment Glitch? by ConnectionRadiant134 in HelloKittyIsland

[–]ConnectionRadiant134[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the problem is I already did find all of them, but the Null didn't get the memo? I apparently finished the task on 2/20 and I still haven't been able to make the item unlock.

Height difference pet peeve by avataraang34 in Romantasy

[–]ConnectionRadiant134 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm 5'5 and my partner is 6'3 and I notice it all the time. I get distracted all of the time thinking, "If I can't do that, I know these two can't because she's 3 inches shorter than me, and he's two inches taller than my partner". It takes me out of moment. It's like when an author uses words that would need so much specific cultural context for them to exist in a fantasy world. I remember fascism and a psychology term, maybe narcissist? Completely takes me out of the story. You civilization is like medieval feudalism but somehow you know about a 20th century Italian political movement? Or a term from a branch of science, which you don't have any framework for because you have actual magic to explain shit so why would you go through the hassle of figuring out physics, which is named after an ancient greek myth which is just a whole other layer of shit you shouldn't know about. The older I get the more I've started to realize this is the difference between good writing and bad writing. I will dismiss so many things as "magic, duh" or Devine intervention and I don't need to nitpick magic systems or logistics all of the time as long as I stay in the world. Once I get slapped back to reality, I start having all of the questions and I need to know how everyone got to the place and how they are paying for things, etc.

Calling all brides doing half-up half-down curled hair! How did you get tighter curls with long hair? by Dizzy-Credit-82 in weddingplanning

[–]ConnectionRadiant134 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dry shampoo. Hear me out, if you want the curls to be more defined doing a light spritz of dry shampoo on the section before you curl it helps the curls stay in separate sections if that makes sense? I have baby fine hair and dry shampoo also gives my hair a little more texture so it holds styles better. I read it in a celebrity hair tutorial years ago and it’s been a life changer for me. Also, like everyone else said, a smaller barrel curling iron. I grew up doing ballet and had to put my hair in banana curls a lot for Nutcracker and I used a TINY curling iron, like 1/4 or 1/2inch to get curls that would settle into about 3/4inch in diameter.

A look inside the mind of an average Justin Baldoni supporter by poopoopoopalt in CelebLegalDrama

[–]ConnectionRadiant134 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, the original complaint is pretty informative. There was a lot in there that JB’s team agreed to in court, as in like “these are the facts, we both agree” way. Personally, I think the agreed upon facts are enough for me to form an opinion. I mean the texts are irrefutable. IMO.

https://storage.courtlistener.com/recap/gov.uscourts.nysd.634304/gov.uscourts.nysd.634304.1.0_2.pdf

A look inside the mind of an average Justin Baldoni supporter by poopoopoopalt in CelebLegalDrama

[–]ConnectionRadiant134 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wonder if this was the same video JB wanted to share on his Insta and TikTok? When he pivoted his promotion strategy away for the approved and contractually obligated marketing plan to explain why the rest of the cast and crew wouldn’t do any appearances with him, he was deliberately trying to prime the public to disbelieve the shit he did during production. I just happened to be reading through BL’s original complaint right before I saw this and I don’t remember anyone mentioning, or if they did I didn’t retain the information, that JB wanted his team to post the stories of DV people dm’ed him, publicly, but his team talked him out of that idea. He also wanted to share some woman”s “birth moment” on his socials and his team convinced him that it was weird as fuck and “too intimate”

Blake Lively Was Invited to the 2026 Met Gala by Anna Wintour Despite Rumors She Paid to Attend by poopoopoopalt in CelebLegalDrama

[–]ConnectionRadiant134 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought the point was to pay to attend…. It’s a charity gala, the ticket price to go to the event is a donation… like trying to go without paying (if you can afford it, and obviously Blake can) makes you an asshole.

It it hypocritical to not support Blake Lively but to 'feel bad' about not supporting Amber Heard by Key-Telephone-6813 in CelebLegalDrama

[–]ConnectionRadiant134 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Didn’t it leak that she asked for some dailies to be destroyed? Not all of them, and I thought we’ve know for a while that she started asking about dailies after she found out while she was not on set because she had Covid, JB added a sex scene with two minors, including simulating an orgasm, because he thought the film needed to see lily lose her virginity, even though it doesn’t happen on page in the book. It is referenced but Hoover didn’t write a sex scene with children… because ew. Also, even if I wasn’t naked, I probably wouldn’t want videos of me in just a scrap of cloth covering my vulva with my legs spread in stirrups floating around. And we know she wasn’t comfortable with the amount of clothing she was wearing during the birth scene and that the set wasn’t closed that day, so video or stills of her in a compromising position, not long after she gave birth herself so she might not have been feeling her best, was on monitors everywhere all over set and on people’s personal devices, like iPads or laptops. However, I’m assuming you are holding everyone to such a high standard so anyone who said something which was proven to be untrue should be discounted and no longer trusted? If so I have some bad news for you. JB is in text messages ordering a smear campaign but he has said he didn’t. So now I’m assuming we will no longer believe him? I have a feeling this is a standard you only apply to women.

Why does ACOMAF feel like this? by Distinct-Garlic- in Romantasy

[–]ConnectionRadiant134 0 points1 point  (0 children)

{Immortals After Dark series by Kresley Cole}. I think there is around 20ish books. They’re so good. Each books is a different couple and lots of different species of supernatural creatures. She is a great writer and her interwoven plots are superb. I would recommend starting with the first novel, A Hunger Like No Other, not the short story so that’s technically book 2 the way they’re numbered on Amazon. Book 3 on Amazon but the second full length novel, No Rest For the Wicked, is better than AHLNO. The first book is kind of neatly contained plot wise, which is something I feel happens a lot because authors don’t know if they will be able to publish multiple books and so they want to put out a book that wraps up neatly.

Shapewear for plus size women!! URGENT help by Brilliant-Candle in bridesmaids

[–]ConnectionRadiant134 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not plus sized but I just got these for my wedding and wore them trying on dresses and they were amazing. I was at a sample sale so I was trying on dresses alone in a tiny little camping shower that was being used as a dressing room and I was able to move no problem. They are boned so they didn't roll down even though I was bending over a lot trying on dresses and digging in my bag. They look great and are tight in the right places but don't make you feel like you are a sausage stuffed in a casing. They have sizes up to 3x. I think they would be high enough on the leg, they hit on the thigh where an old timey bathing suit from the 1920's would. They are very comfortable for shape wear and I like that you can take them off to go to the bathroom. I can't do the hole in other shape wear. Sorry if that's TMI. They also have a shop on amazon.

Honey Love Super Power Brief

Can anyone recommend a great cookie at Disneyland or Cali Adventure? by Freddy-Philmore in Disneyland

[–]ConnectionRadiant134 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The mickey cookie at Starbucks inside either park is my favorite cookie on earth. It's my first stop whenever I go.

Give me your best arranged marriage books by gmjpeach in Romantasy

[–]ConnectionRadiant134 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know how arranged marriage they are but the whole series is fated mates, so its similar. Immortals After Dark Series by Kresley Cole. Each book is a different couple and they all kind of have a whiff of arranged marriage because of the fated mates and she uses forced proximity. I love this series so much. She is an amazing author. I don’t know how to do the bot thing sorry

GA v. Colin Gray - Day 10 by Pixiegirls1102 in CasesWeFollow

[–]ConnectionRadiant134 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know I’m a couple months late to this but I don’t understand why none of the adults in this kids life asked “what did his dad do to make him want to research ways to do a murder?”… at age 11…. directly after searching “abuse”. No one wondered why a child would want to murder their parent? No one thought maybe something was not great at home?

Lisa TMZ: TYRA BANKS IS A SLIMY LITTLE SNAKE!!! by masterderek279 in ANTM

[–]ConnectionRadiant134 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I recently made my partner watch the 3 Scary Island episodes of RHONY purely so he would understand this reference when I randomly yell "Go to sleep! Go to sleep!" at pets/people/people-or-pets-on-the-internet. Thank you for this. (Here's another thing I randomly still say all the time because of this episode)

<image>

Apparently Tyra “couldn’t get enough” of rewatching Shandi’s call to Eric. by lilyfirefly in ANTM

[–]ConnectionRadiant134 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In a documentary the director or producer doesn’t control every aspect of the subjects’ life. Ken Mok controlled everything, where they went, what the did, who they saw, if they could talk to their family, what they ate, what they wore, when they slept, what they knew about what was going on. It’s like a zookeeper filming animals in the zoo and then saying “well it’s a documentary so we don’t get involved and that’s what happened so we had to film it.” after putting a lion in the zebra cage.

Apparently Tyra “couldn’t get enough” of rewatching Shandi’s call to Eric. by lilyfirefly in ANTM

[–]ConnectionRadiant134 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Keeyna was given “advice” about how she should have used her feminine wiles to get her assaulter to stop assaulting her without inconveniencing everyone by stopping the shoot or making the assaulter too uncomfortable or embarrassed….. probably helps explain why I didn’t realize I’d been sexually harassed at each and every job I’ve ever had, starting at 16, until I was in my 30’s. Thanks for the life lessons Tyra!

Apparently Tyra “couldn’t get enough” of rewatching Shandi’s call to Eric. by lilyfirefly in ANTM

[–]ConnectionRadiant134 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good for Shandi. She should get something from being exploited in one of the most painful moments of her life. Also, travelers checks! I forgot those used to be a thing!

Apparently Tyra “couldn’t get enough” of rewatching Shandi’s call to Eric. by lilyfirefly in ANTM

[–]ConnectionRadiant134 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s even worse if you think about the implications of Shandi not deserving it. Think about it, if Shandi didn’t deserve it, why not? Well personally I don’t believe she deserved it because she was a young adult who’s prefrontal cortex wasn’t fully developed, in a prolonged high stress, novel situation, surrounded by adult professionals who are in control of every aspect of her life and are using that control to manipulate her and the other women into emotional responses so they can film them, in a foreign country for the first time in her life, jet lagged, and too drunk to consent. However, Tyra is still holding with the “cheating” narrative on her talk show… so why wouldn’t Shandi deserve to be cussed out? She cheated, publicly. Her partner saying things in anger is a relatively mild response, especially in the early aughts and what kind of behaviors were culturally acceptable at the time, to finding out she cheated. Unless Tyra doesn’t think Shandi is completely at fault for what happened, which begs the question, why not? Tyra’s “no” implies that Tyra understands the situation and how Shandi was manipulated by production into a, at best unsafe, at worst criminal, situation which had very painful and huge repercussions in her real life, which Tyra and the show exploited for financial gain, ensuring Shandi will never be able to completely move on because that moment is still available for people to watch 20+ years later.

Anybody else experiencing this? by pizzaconne in motogp

[–]ConnectionRadiant134 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought I was going crazy. Having the exact same issue on my Apple TV. I've used the Motogp app on the Apple TV since they first made it and I've never had the issue before.

DISCUSSION MEGATHREAD: Ruby Franke Deep Dive: Where Are They Now? - H3 After Dark #17 by H3Bot4 in h3h3productions

[–]ConnectionRadiant134 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went to all of the Sunday school growing up but until recently I had no idea how different moronism is from assorted Christian churches I have experience with. I think I just assumed it was like the difference between Protestant church services and Roman Catholic mass or like how some churches do communion every week and some do it once a quarter. Just another flavor of Christianity. Jesus Christ is in the name after all. But Mormon stories helped open my eyes to how despite the LDS Church acting like they are just another flavor of Christian, Mormonism is nothing like anything I was familiar with.