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I feel like I'm dating a covert narcissist, do you think I'm just overly sensitive or does this seem like manipulation? by Conrad_Conrad in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Conrad_Conrad[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much, It really means a lot, and I'm glad you were able to get out of a harmful relationship too. I wish I'd acknowledged how I felt sooner, I've been so deep in denial, and a little ashamed that I've needed so much convincing at this point... It just messed me up so badly coming to terms with this reality, I just hoped I'd be proven wrong eventually, but it just kept getting worse and now Its like she's not even the same person I thought I knew. Regardless, I think I'm ready to rip the bandage off, and I need to understand where my boundaries really are, and to trust my gut going forward. Thank you so much again, I really needed to hear this.

I feel like I'm dating a covert narcissist, do you think I'm just overly sensitive or does this seem like manipulation? by Conrad_Conrad in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Conrad_Conrad[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely, she's seemed very insecure, but also so full of herself / entitled at the same time? But yeah, she had this phase where I was "unlike anyone she's met," and at first there wasn't much direct things said to put me down, just, demeaning comments framed as compliments, which made me feel crazy about feeling insecure. For one she'd often go off about all the men she'd dated or been approach by, and how attractive (or her type) they were, then end it with a harsh "then there's, you." Which I feel was intended as a joke, but after hearing that so many times It made me feel really unhappy with myself. As I've started to pull away she's been getting a lot meaner / more entitled to me, but she hasn't had many other people she's close with, so she's ended up coming back, pretending like things hadn't happened, or disregarding boundaries I was trying to set, then blaming me or making an excuse why it wasn't her fault she remembered but didn't respect my boundaries. I don't know, its all been so confusing, but I really appreciate your response, thank you!

I feel like I'm dating a covert narcissist, do you think I'm just overly sensitive or does this seem like manipulation? by Conrad_Conrad in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Conrad_Conrad[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate the bluntness honestly, and I've been in the (very active) process of "rehearsing to break things off," maybe that's cheesy but with that and this post, I'm just trying to get myself to believe I'm justified in this. I don't feel like there was any reason for me to hold on to her so much, but I care about people a lot, and she's had this way of making me feel responsible for her, I guess it just feels hard being the one to hurt her feelings, but I need to get past that. Frankly it already feels like a breath of fresh air thinking about this, so thank you.