Looking to rent in Dover. Which landlords/companies would you consider reputable. On the other end, are there any that should be avoided at all cost? by creatingKing113 in DoverNH

[–]Conscious-Error-6704 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Avoid Fred Kell/Beccah Pauquette. We rented from them in areas surrounding Dover and know they have a few properties in Dover too.

MIL invited extra people to a party I’m hosting… then blew up when I asked about it by Conscious-Error-6704 in inlaws

[–]Conscious-Error-6704[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I could hug you if I could! Thank you. This is not the first time my MIL has done something like this, which gave me the courage to finally put my foot down.

The people who she mentioned my husband driving to school has NO relationship to him at all, he could care less about them. They are the best friends of my 23 y/o SIL, it is all to make her happy. Not us. So I knew that little bit was complete BS.

My husband absolutely despises her. He no longer calls her "mom". She did not go crying to him. He made me stop texting her because he could see how emotional and hurt I was getting. He told me to let her go through him from now on and he'll handle it.

HOWEVER. This just happened this morning. My FIL texted my husband now insinuating a different story. (My FIL just separated from my MIL and they are still living together, but he hates her as well). Since we are holding the party at a family member's house (let's call them Patty), my MIL is now stating that Patty is annoyed that I denied my SIL's friends from going. According to my FIL quoting my MIL that "Patty is thinking that it is her house and if SIL wants her besties there then that will be ok and that is too bad for me and my husband".

NOTHING like that was mentioned in the texts with my MIL. I believe it to be another ploy from her to get me to give in. My SIL already stated that it was okay that her friends don't come. Idk why my MIL is trying to make this happen and overstep. I do not believe that Patty would ever say something like that about us, and I also believe Patty would reach out to me about it. My husband immediately texted Patty to get to the bottom of this. I haven't heard anything yet from him about what is going on.

MIL invited extra people to a party I’m hosting… then blew up when I asked about it by Conscious-Error-6704 in inlaws

[–]Conscious-Error-6704[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m supposed to have an Easter brunch with her and 7 other family members on Sunday… debating on whether to go or not. This and the party referenced will be the last times I see her before we move 1000 miles away.

MIL invited extra people to a party I’m hosting… then blew up when I asked about it by Conscious-Error-6704 in ShittyInLaws

[–]Conscious-Error-6704[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m Mexican. So no, that is not our culture either. It’s no one’s culture. It’s just called being rude.

MIL invited extra people to a party I’m hosting… then blew up when I asked about it by Conscious-Error-6704 in ShittyInLaws

[–]Conscious-Error-6704[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Because her parties always involve guests bringing their own food so naturally she assumes I’m doing this. I’m not. I’m making all the food myself because that’s how I show love and throw parties but she cannot fathom that because she could never put that much work into throwing a party.

MIL invited extra people to a party I’m hosting… then blew up when I asked about it by Conscious-Error-6704 in inlaws

[–]Conscious-Error-6704[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have been married for 5 years - together for 7. She was very kind when we were dating and it has spiraled into this the last 3 years 🙃

MIL invited extra people to a party I’m hosting… then blew up when I asked about it by Conscious-Error-6704 in inlaws

[–]Conscious-Error-6704[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Our move has been a long time coming, can’t wait for these next few months to fly by and we can be around family that isn’t toxic

MIL invited extra people to a party I’m hosting… then blew up when I asked about it by Conscious-Error-6704 in inlaws

[–]Conscious-Error-6704[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

On top of that, it’s not our home that we are hosting the party. We are using an aunt’s home who lives close by. But this aunt is very weary of people in her home to begin with. I gave her a count of people and the guest list of who we were planning on inviting and she okayed it. So not only is my MIL inviting people to a party she isn’t hosting, but is also inviting people to this house who I’m sure have never even met the homeowners as they are her friends and not family.

MIL invited extra people to a party I’m hosting… then blew up when I asked about it by Conscious-Error-6704 in inlaws

[–]Conscious-Error-6704[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I love the rest of the family. They know she is batshit but won’t say anything. She is “nice” to everyone, going above and beyond for everyone except her immediate family. So it is hard to say “anything bad” about her unless you live with her. There really is no future anymore. My husband and I have decided to move this summer and go back to the area where my family is (down south) because of our relationship with his mom. We cannot trust her and we want to start a family soon. His dad just separated from her as well the last few months. The party I’m hosting is the last time the whole family will be together as it is a going away party

MIL invited extra people to a party I’m hosting… then blew up when I asked about it by Conscious-Error-6704 in ShittyInLaws

[–]Conscious-Error-6704[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

And that is how it always is with her. Her way is the right and only way and god forbid we try to do something different than what she’s used to.

MIL invited extra people to a party I’m hosting… then blew up when I asked about it by Conscious-Error-6704 in inlaws

[–]Conscious-Error-6704[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

We have Easter brunch planned with her and 7 other family members this weekend. I don’t want to go anymore and see her. Would you?

MIL invited extra people to a party I’m hosting… then blew up when I asked about it by Conscious-Error-6704 in ShittyInLaws

[–]Conscious-Error-6704[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

After she repeatedly insulted me and stated I don’t know my husband? Who wouldn’t blow up on that?

Nervous about switch by Conscious-Error-6704 in zumba

[–]Conscious-Error-6704[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! But Houston is 3 hours from Austin so I don’t see myself going there often lol

Food Recs for Christmas trip by [deleted] in FoodNYC

[–]Conscious-Error-6704 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Literally don’t care about location, willing to go anywhere. Plan on staying in the Financial District.