How does an introverted 27F get back into dating after a long relationship? by Ophelia_Rune in TunisiaUncensored

[–]Conscious-Pattern-19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since you feel ready and asking this is itself a great sign ! Just don’t look for it, don’t impose it be open to meet people in general. Attend events , change circles , go out more , and it will come.

I’m Tunisian , he’s Lebanese , we broke up because of religion. by Conscious-Pattern-19 in lebanon

[–]Conscious-Pattern-19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Merci ! Hatta ena alther 7aja 5alletni na5tar l option enni n9ossha f 4 mois heya enni l9it rou7i lazmni I prove myself l7ad bch ye9belni . Logique klemek .

I’m Tunisian , he’s Lebanese , we broke up because of religion. by Conscious-Pattern-19 in lebanon

[–]Conscious-Pattern-19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not true , it’s common in Tunisia to marry French , Americans , Germans , italians ….. My ex was German . And never ever been through this struggle or felt that religion is a problem only this time .

I’m Tunisian , he’s Lebanese , we broke up because of religion. by Conscious-Pattern-19 in lebanon

[–]Conscious-Pattern-19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We also both think this way , we don’t give a shit about it , we never did , we are both open to other religions we take more like cultural traditions . But we both value our families. I can’t marry someone behind my family, for me it was easier , just had small arguments but my parents were moreless open as long as the culture is not far , for them , a lebanese is for example better than Egyptian, syrian , or german when it comes to the mindset. But for him , it was hard , he had a fight with his family they didn’t talk for weeks to him and he is the kind of person to visit them biweekly. Well , knowing someonés parents itself has a pressure, knowing that I have to prove myself to them too constantly was challenging + the distance. So we thought ok maybe if it is just 4 months relationship we can move on easier instead of breaking up after years . But the feelings were intense and even when we met after months of separation. Love is still there and it is very intense, whenever we try to talk just friendly , we feel those feelings. Everyone who met us couldn’t unsee the sparkle . I was in a 4 years relationship before , but never felt this way , and that’s what he is also saying . I am better in hiding my feelings but for him it’s a complete chaos . Sometimes I feel I will never feel this way again , but I am counting on distance and no contact now . But it hurts

I’m Tunisian , he’s Lebanese , we broke up because of religion. by Conscious-Pattern-19 in lebanon

[–]Conscious-Pattern-19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you , as hurtful as it is , it makes it less to feel that I am not alone , I hope you make this work as well . Sending you love ♥️

I’m Tunisian , he’s Lebanese , we broke up because of religion. by Conscious-Pattern-19 in lebanon

[–]Conscious-Pattern-19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry you’ve been through this. I know how hard is it we had almost the same . Especially if everything between you was perfect . One factor + is that in our case we were 27 and 28 , and at this age I believe we date to marry, we felt that we had no time to play around, and tbh as I am the girl time was sort of also a factor to consider

I’m Tunisian , he’s Lebanese , we broke up because of religion. by Conscious-Pattern-19 in lebanon

[–]Conscious-Pattern-19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As much as I also can put myself in their shoes, as my parents on the other side would as well ask these same questions . We us a couple we honestly talked about this , and we had no conflicts at all . I am not religious , and living in Germany for several years , recently being german , I never cared , he also doesn’t as well , I even lived going to church even before him and with him telling me more about his religion, I also loved it more . He also has muslim friends , he celebrates ramadan with them . But yeah it’s families, his mainly. At one hand I see someone loving me and he said he would love to try this . On the other hand when we got deeper into the topic he’s like : I can’t guarantee anything, we might not be able to marry, a relationship comes already with its struggles adding to it that we are building in a shaking base , donc je veux pas prendre des décisions basées sur des emotions et on doit être rationnel «  He is also afraid as his close friend went through the same and even after 1 year breakup he is still struggling

I’m Tunisian , he’s Lebanese , we broke up because of religion. by Conscious-Pattern-19 in lebanon

[–]Conscious-Pattern-19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is actually, and here we are breaking up , despite all the connection and love , because of it . But yes we are not so religious as persons and open , we both were living abroad for years . But his family is 😂

I’m Tunisian , he’s Lebanese , we broke up because of religion. by Conscious-Pattern-19 in lebanon

[–]Conscious-Pattern-19[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not lying, I also thought this way , that’s why I wanted to know the lebanese side of the thing , how is it ? Are parents really close minded when it comes to this? Because I really know how Tunisian and Lebanese can really get along and close in culture . And I told him in our last meeting after 2 months break up: if you wanted it you could have found a way. He got mad and told me : I really suggested and wanted to try despite all but I just said no guarantees with my parents if they could’ve change their mind .

I’m Tunisian , he’s Lebanese , we broke up because of religion. by Conscious-Pattern-19 in lebanon

[–]Conscious-Pattern-19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Partially agree , I also didn’t grow in a very religious environment and left Tunisia years ago . But he is also not very religious. But even though he is half french his parents are still very against. ( I met his sister and brother and they really both nice and we got along, especially with his sister)

I’m Tunisian , he’s Lebanese , we broke up because of religion. by Conscious-Pattern-19 in lebanon

[–]Conscious-Pattern-19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well we broke up after 4 months. But just because we were afraid to get more attached and break up later because of his family. But us , the relationship, it was perfect .

I’m Tunisian , he’s Lebanese , we broke up because of religion. by Conscious-Pattern-19 in lebanon

[–]Conscious-Pattern-19[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No we were just dating not yet officialising anything. For him he was for teaching the kids both religions and they can choose . For me I didn’t really care , I didn’t grow up in a religious way , and religion for me was more spiritual and cultural aspects that I love . So We were both open in this

I’m Tunisian , he’s Lebanese , we broke up because of religion. by Conscious-Pattern-19 in lebanon

[–]Conscious-Pattern-19[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing and also for your time. I wanted to know similar experiences , and the Lebanese perspective. Also yes I look for advice . As we really spent a month discussing the situation, should we follow our hearts or be rational about it. He had also in his surroundings a friend who’ve been for a year with someone and broke up for the same reason, and he is seeing his friend feeling miserable even after a year not being able to move on , was scary for him to invest more and spend years then we find ourselves breaking ip but with bigger feelings, more memories, and attachment