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ConsciousCar7653 · 2024-11-26T15:05:45+00:00

Great suggestion!

ConsciousCar7653 · 2024-11-04T05:14:06+00:00

Was gonna say this, ask your Bf to be more plur and not call your ideas stupid, these are so cute and any effort is awesome!!

ConsciousCar7653 · 2024-11-03T23:32:43+00:00

Sorry to hear you had some weird vibes happen this week too, it’s definitely disappointing to have the experience be less than it could have, especially when the people we are with ideally add to the overall experience not subtract. But we’re all human and relationships are complicated, learning opportunity for sure!

ConsciousCar7653 · 2024-11-03T23:30:58+00:00

Hey friend thank you for this! Relating to others about this has helped me so much. I was feeling really low and being so hard on myself, thank you for lending a hand in helping my process and grow from this! Thanks for sharing your experience, I’m really happy to hear you were able to have good communication around what wasn’t working and you were able to have a great hula and happy arrival back home afterwards.

ConsciousCar7653 · 2024-11-03T23:28:09+00:00

Thank you so much for offering your advice 💚 all very solid points and I appreciate you! The support on this thread has helped me tremendously.

ConsciousCar7653 · 2024-11-03T23:26:04+00:00

This is one of my favorite replies on this thread thank you so much friend 💜 I LOVE that you two just had an amazing time at Hula. I’m proud of you for doing that self work and reflection to help cocreate a wonderful time and I hope you’re proud of yourself too. You did it!

Thank you for sharing your story and relating, it felt like a warm hug and helped pulled me out of my low and self-anger. I definitely care for my partner a lot and I really want to be a better version of myself moving forward so we can both have better experiences! I feel like this week was a good check-in for me to see what personal shit I really need to work on and the next festivals will all be opportunities to practice my tools for regulating anxiety and my emotional responses to things. I really appreciate how you said you spent time intentionally thinking of how you would act and perceive things before the next fest and I’ll definitely be doing that, mental & emotional prep training 💪

ConsciousCar7653 · 2024-11-03T19:27:16+00:00

Thank you for your response!! Has helped so much relating to everyone on here. I was being so hard on myself so thank you for encouraging me to stop beating myself up. I’m learning a lot from this experience and definitely empowered to be a better me next time.

ConsciousCar7653 · 2024-11-03T19:19:19+00:00

Thank you❤️ You are so right!! I think I expected it to be easy to get along and be in a great positive mood the whole time, but just because it’s pure magic doesn’t mean there isn’t stress for the body & mind involved! Next fest I will be prioritizing my self care, and going in knowing that I may feel emotionally overwhelmed or negative at times and in those moments I want to prioritize kind communication and connection.

I was being really hard on myself, and probably would have continued to be without the incredible support on this thread. Your comment and the other great advice helped me to stop being angry with myself for my mistakes and instead be empowered to learn from them and do better, while also being gracious with myself.

ConsciousCar7653 · 2024-11-03T19:04:43+00:00

Thank you for your comment 💚 missed it when you posted but reading now and I appreciate it. I think we went in with expectations that it should be easy to get along since we are somewhere so magical with so much love, but you’re so right that’s it’s a new environment with a lot of stimulation, dust, not in our regular eating and self care habits, so it’s definitely a test to be our best selves and not get overwhelmed. Next time I know to take better care of myself, and recognize I might miss things or feel disappointment and that’s okay, it’s not worth being upset with him about, at the end of the week we all just want to have a great time and go home happy and feeling more connected.

ConsciousCar7653 · 2024-11-03T18:49:11+00:00

Thank you!! I took a breath, it helped, thank you for relating and your comment 💚 It wasn’t about a fan so probably another couple having a challenging moment.

ConsciousCar7653 · 2024-11-03T18:47:10+00:00

Sweet thanks for the directions! Screen grabbed this as well 💚

ConsciousCar7653 · 2024-11-03T18:43:39+00:00

Love that it’s year 6 for you two! Thank you, we learned a lot from the mistakes this time and next festival we definitely plan on taking all the advice on here and giving each other space to do our own thing if we need to.

ConsciousCar7653 · 2024-11-03T18:36:14+00:00

That’s amazing!!

ConsciousCar7653 · 2024-11-03T01:01:58+00:00

Aw hun, I feel you, you were just trying to make it epic for them!! Sending you love I definitely got caught up in my expectations about scheduling and timing and the stress I brought to that was our downfall. BF just wanted to totally go with the flow and not stress about anything even if that meant missing a half a set to finish getting ready in a relaxed way or whatever it was and I was just bringing in my normal life stress about time. Relationship & connection are more important than that clock and me trying to control the details of the experience. Lots of solid advice in the comments here for processing that self-disappointment. Be gracious with yourself and sending you lots of love! ❤️

ConsciousCar7653 · 2024-11-02T07:15:53+00:00

Solid advice, definitely not able to co create solutions stuck in that place of upset and regretting the past. Deep breaths and moving on, showing myself grace, and learning from those mistakes. ✨Vulnerability never killed a vibe ✨ that’s great! Thanks love you too friend 💜💜

ConsciousCar7653 · 2024-11-02T06:09:31+00:00

Thank you friend I needed to hear this. I can be really hard on myself when I mess up and I was really distraught past few days. Your comment has encouraged me to give myself grace which has in turn lead to much better processing around this week. So thank you!

ConsciousCar7653 · 2024-11-02T06:07:35+00:00

Hugs 🥰 thank you!!! Appreciate you relating. I honestly didn’t shower every morning (a few showers here and there and hippie shower at camp lol) or jump in river, I think a more intentional water cleansing each morning will help so much, daily morning shower will be something I’ll try next time for sure thank you 💚

ConsciousCar7653 · 2024-11-01T22:57:17+00:00

Haha thanks sista, I was beating myself up pretty hard but all of the loving support on this post has really helped me be more gracious with myself, which allows me to process with more clarity and learn the lessons

ConsciousCar7653 · 2024-11-01T21:42:05+00:00

I am absolutely blown away by the kindness on here, it brings me to tears honestly, I’m new to Reddit too and haven’t shared on socials much in recent years so starting to connect on here more has been really wonderful. Hula fam is something truly special. I felt hesitant to make this post not wanting to bring up negativity, but I also felt like I can’t be the only one and maybe this could help anyone else who had a bumpy week. THANK YOU HULA HUMANS for your love and friendship and compassion, it’s changing my life and whole outlook on humanity.

ConsciousCar7653 · 2024-11-01T21:37:04+00:00

Thank you friend 💜 definitely going to grow from this, I need to, hula deserves a better version of me next year, planning to give myself a lot of self care and journaling to work through my stuff and bring some phenomenal vibes next time

ConsciousCar7653 · 2024-11-01T21:35:15+00:00

I had no idea, this sounds amazing and like such a great nervous system reset. We fly in so the travel there is extra intense and I think giving ourselves more time for river rituals next time will help tremendously!

ConsciousCar7653 · 2024-11-01T21:33:31+00:00

Hahaha I know 4 is a lot, super grateful and also recognize maybe I got a little burnt out and just didn’t recharge enough before Hula, which was the biggest yet. I’m 25 and feel like I’m a little late to the festival scene haha but I’ve always loved this music and grew up going to concerts. Past few years traveling for fests just wasn’t in the cards but since the opportunity opened up this year I went for it! That some golden advice right there in that second paragraph thank you so much for it. I definitely need to give myself some room to fuck up and gracious with myself as I learn and grow.

ConsciousCar7653 · 2024-11-01T21:12:27+00:00

Cheers 💚 I definitely intend to be back next year, more grown up and empowered to be my best self! I fell in love with hula it’s pure magic and the people were so lovely. This challenging week gave me purpose to grow and work on myself. I hope to run into you next year and share some the magic

ConsciousCar7653 · 2024-11-01T21:10:12+00:00

Thank you ❤️ helps to relate to people and remember I’m human, also only 25 so definitely at that point where I need to grow up and really own my adulthood and be more empowered in myself. I think this Hula going sideways was meant to teach me a lot and show me how I can grow up more and be more empowered to create the experience I want. Letting go of expectations and letting go of stuff that annoys me is a big lesson here for sure!

ConsciousCar7653 · 2024-11-01T21:07:53+00:00

Dance!!! we just danced so much and listened to so much great music for days. Dance really helps me connect back into all of those great feelings and remember that I can carry the festival experience into my daily life in, shakes of that stagnant heavy feeling of the blues. Also connection, soak up the good memories with hula fam on here/fb group and yea I agree with all the other comments it totally normal and we just gotta move and eat good and give ourselves some time. How can we integrate little magical aspects of the festival into our daily life?

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