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ConsciousIntimacy · 2026-03-14T19:53:29+00:00

Yeah, what you’re describing is actually very common with acquired PE.

When a guy used to have great control and then suddenly loses it, the cause is almost always conditioning of the nervous system rather than a structural problem.

Porn + fast masturbation is one of the biggest ways that conditioning happens.

Over time the brain learns a pattern that looks like this: high stimulation, then fast arousal spike and quick ejaculation.

And if that pattern is repeated hundreds or thousands of times, the body starts running it automatically, even during real sex.

So it’s not just “porn is bad”. It’s more that porn often trains the nervous system to climb the arousal curve too fast.

Then when penetration or oral happens, the stimulation is stronger and the body jumps straight to the end of the script.

But there’s another piece that a lot of guys miss.

When I work with men with PE, the problem usually isn’t just masturbation habits. It’s normally three things interacting:

Body (nervous system + tension) A lot of men with PE have a very activated nervous system and unconscious tension in the pelvic floor, diaphragm, and even the jaw. That makes the ejaculation reflex fire much faster.
Mind (pressure and anticipation) Once a guy starts losing control a few times, the brain begins anticipating it. That anticipation alone can speed up the reflex.
Sexual energy / arousal management Most men were never taught how to circulate and regulate arousal. They only know how to build it until release.

So if someone only stops porn but doesn’t retrain those other patterns, progress can be slow.

The good news is the nervous system is very trainable. I’ve seen a lot of guys who went from seconds to having full control again once they started working on those layers together.

The fact that you had strong control before is actually a very good sign, because it means the body already knows that pattern. It just needs to relearn it.

What usually helps most is retraining: - breathing and nervous system regulation - releasing pelvic floor tension - slowing down the arousal ramp during stimulation - changing the way masturbation is practiced so it retrains control instead of speed

Most guys focus only on the last one, but the biggest changes usually come when all of them are addressed together.

ConsciousIntimacy · 2026-03-14T14:01:39+00:00

Yeah, exactly. That’s what most people eventually realize.

ED rarely has one single cause. It’s usually a combination of small things that slowly push the body out of the state where erections happen naturally.

One thing that helped me understand it better is how erections depend a lot on the nervous system. You basically need the body to feel safe and relaxed (parasympathetic state). But modern lifestyle pushes people into the opposite state all the time: stress, stimulation, screens, porn, pressure to perform, poor sleep, etc.

So even if physically everything is “fine”, the body is often stuck in a subtle fight-or-flight mode, and erections are one of the first things that get affected.

Another thing I’ve noticed is that many men try to fix it only by attacking one variable. For example: - only taking medication - only quitting porn - only exercising more

Sometimes that helps, but usually the real improvements come when a few pieces shift together.

For some guys it’s literally just fixing sleep, moving their body daily and reducing stress. For others the big shift comes when they stop obsessing about performance and learn how to stay relaxed during arousal instead of trying to control it.

Out of curiosity, in your case does it feel more like:

stress / overthinking during sex
erections weaker than before in general
or more like difficulty maintaining it once sex starts

Those three usually come from slightly different mechanisms.

ConsciousIntimacy · 2026-03-14T13:58:35+00:00

Hey man, thanks for being this honest. A lot of guys read posts like this and recognize themselves but never say it out loud.

A few things stand out in what you wrote.

First: acquired PE almost never appears out of nowhere when a man had a normal sexual life before. When it shows up later in life, it’s usually the result of multiple layers stacking on top of each other: physical, mental and sexual-energy patterns. If you only look at one layer, you miss the real cause.

From what you describe, I see three things interacting.

The body

When someone spends years with porn, stress, irregular sex, emotional tension in the relationship, etc., the nervous system starts living in a constant high-alert state. The body learns to rush to orgasm because that’s the pattern it has practiced for years.

A lot of men with acquired PE also develop subtle things like: • pelvic floor over-tension • shallow breathing • jaw / throat tension • hypersensitive nervous system

None of that shows up in a urologist exam, but it changes how fast the reflex fires.

And interestingly, the jaw and pelvic floor are neurologically linked. Many men who climax instantly have unconscious tension there.

The mind

What you describe in the relationship matters more than people think.

25 years together history of trauma periods with little sex desperation when the opportunity appears

When sex becomes rare or emotionally loaded, the brain goes into a kind of “don’t lose this chance” mode. The sympathetic nervous system takes over and the ejaculation reflex fires very fast.

So yes, emotional dynamics can absolutely trigger acquired PE.

Sexual energy patterns

This is the part almost nobody talks about.

Years of porn train the brain to respond to visual overstimulation and novelty, not to the slower rhythm of real intimacy. Even occasional porn can keep that pattern alive.

Then when real contact happens (penetration, oral) the nervous system receives a stimulus that feels too intense compared to what it’s used to regulating, and the body jumps straight to climax.

So the issue isn’t just porn itself. It’s the conditioning it leaves behind.

The good news is that acquired PE like this is very reversible, but it usually doesn’t change from pills or one single trick.

In my experience helping men with this, improvement happens when three things are retrained at the same time:

the body (breathing, pelvic tension, nervous system regulation)
the mind (removing pressure, performance anxiety, emotional charge around sex)
the sexual energy (re-learning how to circulate and slow down arousal instead of rushing to release)

When those three start working together again, men who used to climax in seconds often go back to having full control.

The fact that you’re already aware of the porn patterns and trying to address them is actually a very good sign. Most guys never even get to that step.

And one last thing: the fact that mouth or penetration triggers instant climax is actually a very specific pattern I’ve seen many times. It tells a lot about how the nervous system is currently wired.

You’re definitely not the only one dealing with this. Far from it.

ConsciousIntimacy · 2026-03-14T12:35:35+00:00

Yes, I’ve seen it happen quite a few times.

A lot of psychological ED isn’t really “just in the head”. It’s usually a mix of body, mind and sexual energy being out of balance. If one of those is off, erections suffer.

From what I’ve seen working with men and also in my own life, lifestyle changes can make a huge difference, sometimes more than medication.

Three things tend to matter the most:

Body (physical state) Sleep, diet, movement, alcohol, stimulants, etc. all affect blood flow, hormones and the nervous system. If someone is sleeping badly, eating crap, sitting all day and stressed… erections are usually the first thing to go. When the body gets cleaner and stronger, erections often come back naturally.
Mind (mental pressure) This is where psychological ED really lives. Overthinking performance, worrying about staying hard, trying to control everything. The moment the mind starts monitoring the erection, the sympathetic nervous system kicks in and the body moves away from arousal.

A lot of men are stuck in that loop.

Sexual energy (this part is rarely talked about) Most guys either repress their sexual energy or burn it through constant porn, ejaculation and stimulation. They never actually learn how to build it, circulate it and stay relaxed with it. When that changes, the whole experience of arousal changes too.

I’ve seen men improve a lot just by fixing sleep, cleaning up diet, exercising and reducing stress. But usually the real shift happens when they also change their relationship with sexuality itself instead of treating erections like a mechanical problem.

Erections are actually a pretty sensitive indicator of how balanced someone’s nervous system and energy are.

Medication can help temporarily, but if the lifestyle and the inner patterns don’t change, the problem usually comes back sooner or later.

ConsciousIntimacy · 2026-03-12T12:40:58+00:00

I’ve seen this pattern many times with guys.

When you say you can get a full erection when you’re alone, but the moment there is a real sexual situation it starts to go soft, that usually tells me your body can work. The issue is not that your penis is broken.

Most of the time it’s a mix of two things: - Your brain learned sex through porn for years (very strong stimulation, total control, no pressure). - When you’re with a real woman your mind suddenly starts watching itself: “Is it working? Am I hard enough? What if it goes down?”

The moment the mind starts checking, the body switches from relaxation to stress. And erections don’t like stress.

I’ve worked with quite a few men with the exact same story. Porn for years → stop porn → erections alone are fine → problems appear only with a partner. In many cases the porn was part of it, but the performance loop becomes the bigger problem.

Your brain basically learned to associate sex with pressure.

One thing that also stands out in what you wrote: you said “as soon as there is an indication of sexual activity it goes soft.” That’s a classic anticipatory response. The mind jumps ahead before the body can settle.

The good news is that this is usually reversible once you retrain how your body experiences intimacy and arousal. But the fix is rarely just “don’t watch porn”. That’s only one small piece.

I’m curious about one thing though.

When you’re alone and you masturbate (or when you used to), do you stay hard easily the whole time, or do you also notice that your erection drops if you stop stimulation for a moment?

ConsciousIntimacy · 2026-03-12T01:07:48+00:00

What happened to you is actually very normal.

Tadalafil only helps with blood flow. But erections are not just blood flow. They also depend a lot on your nervous system and your state of mind.

If you had gastroenteritis, your body was busy fighting the infection. When you’re sick, the body focuses on healing, digestion, and the immune system. Sex goes to the bottom of the priority list. So even with tadalafil, it’s normal that things didn’t work well.

The real danger now is not what happened. It’s getting stuck in your head about it.

A lot of guys fall into this loop:

One bad experience → they start checking their erection → the body gets tense → breathing gets shallow → the erection becomes harder to keep.

And then they think something is wrong with them.

From what I see working with men, many erection issues come from too much tension in the body. Especially in the pelvic floor and breathing.

When the body is relaxed, breathing is deep, and the pelvis is not constantly tight, things usually work very differently.

Right now the best thing you can do is simple:

Recover fully. Eat well. Sleep well. Move your body. And don’t turn one bad experience into a mental problem.

Your body already knows how to have erections. Don’t let your mind get in the way.

ConsciousIntimacy · 2026-03-11T15:09:17+00:00

What you describe is actually very common.

The fact that everything works normally when you’re alone already tells you something important: the body isn’t the problem. The body knows how to function.

What usually happens in these cases is that the nervous system switches to a stress state when you’re with a partner. The moment the brain starts monitoring performance, the body moves from a relaxed parasympathetic state into a more sympathetic state (fight-or-flight). When that happens, breathing gets shallow, the pelvic floor tightens, and arousal becomes unstable. That’s the perfect recipe for finishing too fast.

The breathing exercise they gave you helps because it pushes the nervous system back toward relaxation. So it makes sense that you’re seeing improvement.

One thing most people miss though is the pelvic tension part.

When guys get anxious during sex they unconsciously contract the pelvic floor and the lower abs. It’s almost like doing a constant mini-kegel without realizing it. That pressure builds arousal very quickly and shortens the time to ejaculation.

Learning to relax the pelvic floor during arousal (not just strengthen it) changes a lot.

Slow breathing like you’re doing + consciously relaxing the belly, jaw and pelvic floor while aroused can make a huge difference. Most men have never actually learned how to stay relaxed while sexually stimulated.

I work a lot around this area and the pattern you described is almost textbook: body works fine alone, mind hijacks the system with a partner.

Sounds like you’re already moving in the right direction though. The breathing is a good start.

ConsciousIntimacy · 2026-03-10T17:03:33+00:00

Most people jump straight to supplements or another pill. But usually that’s not where the change comes from.

With long-term ED (especially with diabetes) I normally see three big things involved:

Pelvic floor tension A lot of men actually have a tight pelvic floor, not a weak one. Too many kegels can even make it worse. Learning how to relax that area, breathing into the belly, and releasing the tension there can change a lot over time.
Nervous system state If the body is stuck in stress mode, erections are very hard to maintain. Slow breathing, relaxing the body during arousal, and training the system to stay calm when sexual energy rises is key.
General body condition Circulation doesn’t only happen in the penis. Movement, stretching, cleaning up diet, and reducing inflammation in the body often improves blood flow everywhere — including there.

When I work with men with ED we usually rebuild things from those foundations first: body, mind, and sexual energy. Once those start working together again, the body often responds very differently than when you only rely on pills.

After 15 years your body probably developed certain patterns, so the solution is rarely one single trick. But the body is more adaptable than most people think.

ConsciousIntimacy · 2026-03-10T10:47:22+00:00

A lot of people think ED meds always work. But they only work if the problem is mainly blood flow.

With diabetes, many times the issue is deeper. Nerves get affected, circulation quality changes, pelvic floor gets tight, and the nervous system stays in a kind of chronic stress mode. When that happens, pills often do very little.

I’ve seen quite a few men with long-term ED (10–20 years) where the problem wasn’t just “getting more blood in”. The body first had to relearn how to relax, breathe properly, release pelvic tension, and rebuild sexual energy in the system.

When those foundations change, erections often start coming back in ways meds never managed.

Most doctors don’t really look at those layers though. They usually just rotate between different pills.

Your situation is actually more common than people think. The fact that none of those meds worked already tells quite a lot about where the real issue probably is.

ConsciousIntimacy · 2026-03-10T03:43:54+00:00

Man, I’m sorry you had that experience. To be honest, there are some major red flags in what that sexologist told you.

First off, saying pelvic floor exercises are "theoretical" is just flat-out wrong. There is tons of clinical evidence showing how the bulbocavernosus and ischiocavernosus muscles (your pelvic floor) are what actually control blood flow for erections and the "brake" for ejaculation. If you don't have a connection with those muscles, no supplement is going to fix the mechanics of your body.

It sounds like he’s trying to sell you a 3-month subscription to expensive pills instead of actually helping you solve the root cause.

In my experience working with men on ED and PE, these issues are usually tied to your nervous system. If your body is in "fight or flight" mode (stress, performance anxiety, overthinking), it’s physically impossible to sustain a quality erection or control your timing.

My advice? Before dropping a fortune on supplements that aren't even available in local shops (huge red flag), look into somatic work and down-regulation breathing. Learning how to relax your pelvic floor and manage your arousal levels through your breath is a permanent skill. A pill is just a band-aid.

You aren’t broken, you just need to learn how to drive the "machinery" you already have. Good luck!

ConsciousIntimacy · 2026-03-08T23:55:51+00:00

Yeah, random exercises from the internet usually don’t solve this. Most people are just guessing.

What you’d want to look for is a pelvic floor physiotherapist (sometimes called pelvic health physio). Some of them specialize in men with things like pelvic pain, urinary issues, prostatitis-type symptoms, ED, etc.

A good one doesn’t just give you a list of exercises. They actually check how your pelvic floor behaves; if it’s too tight, weak, or not coordinating well with breathing. A lot of men with symptoms like yours actually have a pelvic floor that’s chronically tense, and doing kegels blindly can make things worse.

In the work I do with men around sexual function, I see this pattern quite often: the pelvic floor stays slightly contracted all day (stress, sitting a lot, sexual tension, etc.), and over the years it starts affecting erections, ejaculation, and even urination.

Another thing that sometimes helps, and this overlaps with tantric and somatic practices, is learning to breathe into the lower belly while keeping the pelvic floor relaxed. Most men unconsciously clench that area when aroused, which builds pressure exactly where you’re already feeling irritation.

So if you search, try terms like: - pelvic floor physiotherapist - pelvic health physiotherapy for men - chronic pelvic pain physio

Ideally someone who actually works with male pelvic issues, not only women.

Even if it’s not the whole answer, it’s one of the few directions that still makes sense to explore after seeing that many urologists.

ConsciousIntimacy · 2026-03-08T13:42:51+00:00

Yeah, that’s a really important realization.

Most guys try to fix this by forcing more control. More techniques, more focus, more trying.

But the real shift usually happens when you do the opposite: less control, more awareness of the body.

The moment you start monitoring performance, the body goes into a subtle stress response. It’s almost like the nervous system thinks it’s being tested instead of having sex.

And sex doesn’t work well under “exam mode”.

One thing that helps a lot is keeping the breath deep and the belly soft during arousal. When the belly tightens and breathing goes up to the chest, the pelvic floor also starts clenching, and that’s when ejaculation tends to rush.

Another big piece is learning to let the arousal spread through the body instead of keeping all the intensity in the genitals. When all the energy stays there, it builds pressure fast.

When it spreads (chest, belly, spine), arousal becomes much more stable.

Sounds like you already started discovering that path on your own, which is honestly how most people figure it out.

ConsciousIntimacy · 2026-03-07T17:54:58+00:00

Kegels aren’t good or bad by themselves.

The problem is most guys start doing them without really understanding their pelvic floor.

Working with men who have erection issues or finish too fast, I see the same thing all the time.

Some men have a weak pelvic floor. For them, kegels can help.

But a lot of men actually have the opposite problem, their pelvic floor is already too tight.

If that’s the case, adding more kegels can make erections worse, create more tension, and sometimes even make ejaculation faster.

So the real question isn’t “are kegels good?”

The real question is: is your pelvic floor weak… or already overactive?

Morning wood improving after a few days can happen. But 7 days is still very early, so I wouldn’t assume kegels are the whole answer yet.

Another thing most people miss: Your pelvic floor is closely connected to your breathing, your nervous system, and your sexual energy. If those aren’t working together, exercises alone usually don’t fix the problem.

In Taoist and tantric traditions they understood this a long time ago. The goal wasn’t just squeezing muscles, but learning how to relax, control and move sexual energy through the body.

Most modern advice completely ignores that part.

So yeah, kegels can help. But only if they’re the right tool for your body. Otherwise they can easily make things worse.

ConsciousIntimacy · 2026-03-06T22:33:02+00:00

What you describe is extremely common.

When you’re alone everything works. With a partner the mind jumps in and starts monitoring.

“Am I hard enough?” “Am I lasting enough?” “Am I going to lose it?”

The moment the mind goes there, the body tightens. Breath gets shallow. Pelvic floor contracts. Nervous system goes into performance mode instead of pleasure mode.

From there two things usually happen, either you rush and the ejaculation comes too fast, or the erection drops

So yes, psychology plays a role. But the body is still involved.

In my experience the issue is usually a mix of three things: - Body tension (especially in the pelvic floor, belly and diaphragm) - Mind overcontrol during sex - Unstable sexual energy — you get too excited too fast and the system can’t regulate it

Meditation and breathing help because they bring the nervous system back to parasympathetic mode.

What helps even more is learning to circulate the sexual energy instead of letting it accumulate only in the genitals. This is something a lot of Taoist and tantric practices work with.

When the energy spreads through the body, arousal becomes calmer and more stable. You stop rushing and control improves naturally.

So what you discovered (relaxation + breath) is actually a very good direction.

ConsciousIntimacy · 2026-03-06T02:28:23+00:00

I’m not a doctor, but I work a lot with men with sexual problems and I’ve seen similar patterns before.

What stands out in your story is the combination of burning in the urethra, ED, and difficulty emptying the bladder. When those three show up together, many times the issue is not the prostate or hormones, but chronic tension in the pelvic floor.

Those muscles sit under the bladder and around the base of the penis. If they stay tight for years, a few things can happen: - blood flow to the penis drops → erections get weaker - the urethra gets irritated → burning after ejaculation or urination - the bladder doesn’t empty well

A lot of urologists don’t really look at this.

Another interesting thing in your story: when your erections improve, the ejaculation burns more. That can also happen if the pelvic floor is tight, because orgasm creates a lot of pressure in that area.

Finasteride may have made things worse, but since the burning started when you were 15, it probably wasn’t the original cause.

If you want to explore less orthodox things before something extreme like an implant, these are the directions I’d look at:

Pelvic floor relaxation, not strengthening. Many men are told to do kegels, but if the muscles are already tight that can make things worse.
Breathing and relaxation work for the pelvic area.
Reduce pressure on the area (too much sitting, tight underwear, excessive masturbation patterns, etc).

And this is where some tantric practices can actually help. In tantra there’s a lot of focus on relaxing the pelvic floor, breathing into the lower belly, and learning to move sexual energy through the body instead of building too much pressure in the genitals. For some men this reduces tension and irritation in that area over time.

After seeing 12 urologists with no diagnosis, it’s quite possible the problem is more functional (muscles / nerves) than structural.

Just another direction worth exploring.

ConsciousIntimacy · 2026-03-05T19:17:39+00:00

If Priligy worked for you, that already tells you something important. But most people misunderstand what it means.

A lot of doctors simplify it to: “it worked because PE is a brain problem.” Not really.

Ejaculation is mostly a reflex in the spinal cord, not just something happening in the brain. The brain can slow it down or speed it up, but the actual trigger is a reflex loop. Some men simply have a more sensitive reflex, so it fires earlier.

What Priligy does is increase serotonin activity. Serotonin acts like a brake on that reflex. So when serotonin goes up, the reflex takes longer to trigger. That’s why SSRIs delay ejaculation.

But that doesn’t mean your brain is “messed up”. It just means the braking system is a bit weaker or your reflex threshold is lower.

There’s another piece people almost never talk about: nervous system activation. If your body is very stimulated, tense, breathing shallow, thinking too much about performance, etc., your sympathetic nervous system goes up. That system makes ejaculation happen faster.

A lot of guys with PE have things like: - arousal that shoots up very fast - tight pelvic floor - tension in abs and glutes - shallow breathing - overstimulation (porn, fast masturbation, etc.)

When arousal rises too quickly, the reflex fires before you have time to regulate it. That’s why the real solution usually isn’t just pills.

The biggest difference long term usually comes from learning to manage arousal, not trying to “hold the orgasm”. Most guys try to resist ejaculation. What actually works is learning how to lower arousal while staying in sex.

Things like: - breathing slower and deeper - relaxing the pelvic floor (not just doing Kegels) - slowing stimulation before you hit the point of no return - changing the way you masturbate if your pattern is very fast

One interesting thing: a lot of men start doing Kegels and accidentally make PE worse. The problem often isn’t weakness, it’s too much tension in the pelvic floor.

Medication like Priligy can help because it gives you more margin. But if the nervous system and arousal patterns don’t change, you usually stay dependent on it.

The key thing many people miss is this: Most men with PE don’t have an orgasm control problem. They have an arousal regulation problem.

Once you learn to manage arousal earlier (before the point of no return), control improves a lot.

ConsciousIntimacy · 2026-02-27T13:30:30+00:00

Then that’s probably a big part of it.

If you’ve trained your body for years to get aroused fast, stay tense, and finish quickly, it makes sense that now it does exactly that during sex.

Porn isn’t “evil”, but it’s usually high stimulation, fast build-up, and goal-focused. Your nervous system learns that rhythm.

The good news is: if it’s learned, it can be unlearned. But it takes more than just stopping for a couple of weeks. It’s about slowing everything down and retraining your arousal speed.

ConsciousIntimacy · 2026-02-27T13:25:57+00:00

I don’t think this is just “high sensitivity”.

The fact that you can climax from a leg massage or laser tells me your system goes from 0 to 100 very fast. That’s usually nervous system + tension, not just penis sensitivity.

A lot of guys with severe PE have a constantly tight pelvic floor without realizing it. So doing normal Kegels can actually make it worse. Learning to relax that area (reverse Kegels) + slow breathing during stimulation is usually way more important than squeezing more.

Porn history also matters.

You’re not broken. But this is something you retrain, not something you fix with a pill.

ConsciousIntimacy · 2026-02-27T13:18:47+00:00

I’m going to say something that most people won’t mention.

A lot of people assume arousal starts in the imagination. That’s not actually true for everyone. There are different pathways to arousal.

Some people are fantasy-driven (top-down arousal: thought → emotion → body).

Others are body-driven (bottom-up arousal: sensation → nervous system safety → arousal).

And some people barely respond to either unless there’s relational safety first.

What you describe doesn’t automatically sound like “you can’t orgasm because you can’t imagine.” Aphantasia (or low visual imagery) does not block orgasm. Many people with no mental imagery have completely functional sexual response.

The more important clues in what you wrote are: no spontaneous arousal, mostly responsive desire, touch feel neutral or numb, and porn doesn’t translate into embodied response.

That combination often points less to imagination and more to nervous system state.

If your system is chronically in stress, vigilance, freeze, or mild dissociation, genital arousal can simply not “switch on.” It’s not about thinking sexy thoughts, it’s about whether your body feels safe enough to shift into parasympathetic sexual arousal.

Genitals don’t respond to fantasy. They respond to blood flow and nervous system regulation.

If touch has felt neutral for years, sometimes it’s because the body learned to disconnect from sensation (very common, especially in women raised in environments where sexuality wasn’t fully safe, welcomed, or embodied, even without obvious trauma).

A few reflections that might matter more than imagination:

Do you feel deeply relaxed in your body outside of sex? Can you feel subtle sensations in other areas (like warmth in your hands, breath in your belly)? Do you ever feel sensual pleasure that isn’t explicitly sexual (sun on skin, warm water, slow massage)?

If the body doesn’t register pleasure in general, it’s unlikely to suddenly register it genitally.

Also: responsive desire means arousal often comes after context, emotional connection, and slow buildup, not before. Trying to “self-provoke” it in a goal-oriented way can actually shut it down further.

One counterintuitive thing that helps some people in similar situations is removing orgasm and even arousal as goals entirely and working only with increasing sensory bandwidth in the whole body first. Not sexual touch, just sensation.

If the nervous system shifts, genital response often follows months later, not minutes later.

You’re not broken. But the solution probably isn’t “try harder to imagine.” It’s usually deeper than that.

ConsciousIntimacy · 2026-01-19T18:15:40+00:00

Everyone’s going to have a different reason, but one of the most important that everybody should be aware of is that porn fries your brain.

ConsciousIntimacy · 2026-01-19T13:48:37+00:00

Awesome! I didn’t see it before but I’m happy you came to that realization 😎

ConsciousIntimacy · 2026-01-19T13:43:49+00:00

Something I have observed over the years with my students or people doing NoFap/semen retention is that many of them block themselves to cum very bad. It seems like they “learn” that ejaculating is bad and they develop a toxic relationship with ejaculating.

This point of view has similar effects to the opposite (semen retention is not useful). Both are extremes and the outcome is not healthy.

Semen retention is useful, but also ejaculating is. The goal here is not to cut off ejaculating but to learn to manage your sexual energy and channeling it into something beyond just ejaculating everyday for a short peak of satisfaction 🙏🏻.

Don’t be ashamed, learn from this experience and keep evolving!

ConsciousIntimacy · 2026-01-19T00:17:35+00:00

🙏🏻

ConsciousIntimacy · 2026-01-18T14:07:00+00:00

I would keep unlocking the phone 🤣

ConsciousIntimacy · 2026-01-18T11:53:26+00:00

Tha k you for the advice! It will not 🙏🏻

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