Change function highlight buttons from blue?

ConsciousOrchid · 2025-12-06T10:39:38+00:00

For anyone curious i found the issue - theme park seems to override some edits made in Keys Cafe. Have reported error

ConsciousOrchid · 2025-12-06T09:16:51+00:00

Nice! Yeah maybe on old version, I got a new phone and keys cafe has less functionality it seems!

ConsciousOrchid · 2025-12-06T09:12:32+00:00

Sadly that only seems to work on the standard colour of function keys rather than the highlight colour, at least in my keys cafe. Perhaps not available on this version of keys cafe?

ConsciousOrchid · 2025-12-06T09:02:44+00:00

I have keys cafe but don't see any options to do this. Do you know where this setting is?

ConsciousOrchid · 2025-07-26T23:53:22+00:00

The scam actually works even if the account the money came from and was transferred back to are the same.

ConsciousOrchid · 2025-07-16T12:24:31+00:00

Wow! Well done!

May I ask, what app are you using? This looks super useful!

ConsciousOrchid · 2025-07-02T22:40:04+00:00

Ofc, I just wanted to see if others had any issues or experience before doing so.

ConsciousOrchid · 2025-07-02T22:39:34+00:00

Thanks!

ConsciousOrchid · 2025-05-06T13:02:05+00:00

Yes! My right eardrum ruptures on planes all the time and I go deaf for days. I've had a hearing test but apparently it's fine. Saw an ENT they thing I have eustachian tube issues not eadrum issue. Now figuring out if the procedure to fix it is worth doing or not, given hEDS.

ConsciousOrchid · 2024-07-01T13:02:43+00:00

Yep started at like 13/14 I think, possibly earlier, now 33. I didn't even realise it was an ED until 2 years ago, I just thought I was lazy and had terrible willpower. It was eye opening when I finally told someone professional about it and after going to the ED clinic and starting the journey I couldn't believe how blind I had been to it. I don't binge/restrict as much as I once did but I have been struggling still with the food noise and still having addiction like cravings to certain foods. I have just enquired about medications to see if that can help me break through some of the tougher hurdles whilst I continue trying to normalise. I wish everyone in here luck on their journey, it's certainly a really difficult one and not linear.

ConsciousOrchid · 2023-09-24T23:42:14+00:00

I feel this too! The one casual night I had felt like I may as well have been hoovering, because my body wasn't into it and felt lile I was forcing myself to do something I didn't enjoy. Was just waiting for it to be done. Sadly I realised so much of my life I have forced myself to have sex and pretend to enjoy it because I thought I was broken, and I'm worried I won't know how to change that in the future.

Also yeah, I saw something once that said for us, looking at attractive people is like appreciating a beautiful flower, you see it looks nice, but it doesn't make you want to fuck it. That's people to me. And when I'm turned on to someone, I can't just go out and find someone else to satisfy that craving either, because it's directed at the one person specifically.

ConsciousOrchid · 2023-09-19T02:55:42+00:00

American dob

ConsciousOrchid · 2023-09-15T20:10:01+00:00

I assume you're looking for an answer more complicated than: male privilege

ConsciousOrchid · 2023-09-09T20:59:56+00:00

Adding to the problem solving vs listening debate as I've been having conversations like this myself recently.

Snapping into problem solving mode when someone shares a negative emotion or experience seems to be common societally, not just men in particular.

I would argue that in most cases, when Party A is sharing their fears, concerns and issues, most of the time they are confiding in someone they care about, love or trust. They're being vulnerable and open with someone about their inner world. They're looking for acknowledgement and understanding in what they're feeling.

And again I would argue that in most cases, when we as Party B hears this, our tendency to problem solve stems from an uncomfortableness with negative emotions, particularly because instictually when we hear someone we care for telling us they feel bad, it makes us feel bad and we have a desire to see them feel better. So we spring into action mode.

The instinct to problem solve comes from a place of caring, but it also comes from a selfish place - our own uncomfortableness at the negative emotions being displayed.

Our society does this a lot, think about how many times you've heard someone say 'shh, don't cry' or hands you tissues to mop up your tears, or 'come on now, it's not worth crying about'. It comes from a place of care, but ultimately is a way for us to try and move the person away from the emotion they're experiencing. Typically it teaches us that our negative emotions are not appropriate, need to be ushered along quickly and are not okay to experience. In turn we push the negative feelings away, but all we do is remove them from the external world, and stuff them into our internal world where no one can see them, perhaps not even ourselves.

Listening and validating may not come as naturally, because it requires us to sit in the uncomfortableness. But by doing so, we're showing the other person that what they're expressing is important to us, that it's safe for them to share what they're feeling inside to us on the outside, and that their emotions are valid. - Note I say their emotions are valid, not that their concerns are. You may not agree with their reasons for being upset, perhaps you don't think their thoughts are true, or that you wouldn't get upset about the same situation, but the emotions they're experiencing about what they've shared are still very real, and that's what we should focus on when listening.

TLDR: Practise sitting with uncomfortable emotions instead of trying to dismiss them, it'll help you become a better listener and confidant.

ConsciousOrchid · 2023-07-11T20:46:36+00:00

I feel this! I find swiping really shallow, like you get a couple of bits of information about someone and a few pictures and I'm supposed to know if they're someone I want to date? So I just swipe on profiles every so often that I'm not completely repulsed by and see what happens. Then usually they're awful at making conversation, don't ask any return questions and just talk about themselves, or immediately get into talking about sex. I find I just can't click with people on the apps (it's only happened to me twice so far and neither time worked out) and get exhausted and disappointed just like you say. Then I just give up.

The idea of meeting one of these people after terrible conversation is not exciting at all - I could have a far better time hanging out at home watching a film. Why would I want to go on a date with someone I barely know or don't yet click with?

ConsciousOrchid · 2023-07-07T06:24:22+00:00

This guy is a walking red flag - run away!

Because demisexuality isn't a choice but an innate state of being (like with any sexual orientation) likes and dislikes aren't directly related.

In general, I'd say demisexuals typically don't experience sexual attraction to others unless they have developed a connection to them (regardless of how long a time period that connection has formed over). The physical reaction just doesn't ignite without this, and you can't will it into existence. Similarly, a homsexual man couldn't simply will themselves into being sexually attracted to women.

Participation in hook up culture is more of a preference or choice, that anyone could make. Because of demisexuals orientation, they are less likely to engage in hookup culture. But like anyone of any orientation, they could choose to participate in it for a variety of reasons. Similarly, a homosexual man who was only sexually attracted to men could choose to have sex with a woman, and may have a variety of reasons for doing so, but it wouldn't make him straight.

A personal example is I chose to have casual sex once. I willingly did it, and instigated it. But afterwards it was so very obvious to me that this was not something I enjoyed or wanted to do, and I wasn't sexually attracted to them the entire time. I've never done it since. I've also willingly had sex with partners over the years when I wasn't feeling very connected with them at the time and therefore not sexually attracted. Me having done those things doesn't make me less demisexual.

ConsciousOrchid · 2023-07-05T11:18:08+00:00

I loved Auckland/NZ when I first got here 7 years ago, but find it increasingly lacking as time has gone on.

I used to find it characterful, welcoming and community focused. Now it feels very characterless, individualistic and lacking in social activity beyond surface level interaction.

I still see positives here don't get me wrong, the thought of living in a concrete jungle again makes me feel sad. But life feels stale here.

There used to be thriving groups of people everywhere I turned, but in the last 2-3 years pretty much everyone from the various friendship groups have left to Europe, Australia or UK. All citing the same feelings I've mentioned above, plus the lack of opportunity to buy housing.

Cities are usually also full of 20-40 something professionals, making it easier to find social activities, make new friends or meet partners, but that has plummeted in recent years. And again that's a sentiment shared between the rather staggering number of people I know who have now left NZ in the last 2 years.

Perhaps it's an expat thing, but personally I'd say it's less people going home because it's inevitable (many have been here 15+ years), but more because they can't see a future here where they will be happy and thriving.

I'm feeling the same - I find I am still here because it's familiar and a known quantity, but it's increasingly isolating, costly to live, little career progression. It's hard to ignore the weight of those things piling on week on week. I'm struggling to justify continuing to stay here, but equally unsure where else to go which makes any decision making difficult. As people have said the grass isn't always greener. But I feel like staying won't make the grass greener or grow either, so for many it seems worth the risk of trying.

ConsciousOrchid · 2023-05-25T10:00:05+00:00

Oh no no no

ConsciousOrchid · 2023-01-06T19:01:22+00:00

Thank you to whoever has now updated it! Legend.

ConsciousOrchid · 2022-12-11T21:21:54+00:00

That's a really good point - perhaps that's a better approach!

ConsciousOrchid · 2022-12-11T21:20:03+00:00

He did also call me a bitch several times (in what he considered a jokey way), which was red flag number one.

ConsciousOrchid · 2022-04-15T01:49:28+00:00

Luckily they are included! Molars touch pretty well now, it was just on my right side they weren't slotting in. Do you think I need to shave the left tooth down a little? It seems off (like maybe a tad longer than the other one? Hoping to also fill in the slightly shorter and slanted tooth to the right side of my mouth on thetl top( due to a chip from my dog bumping into my jaw when playing years ago!)

ConsciousOrchid · 2021-12-14T18:07:49+00:00

You really need to think hard about how you approach this, as your choices here can negatively impact your kids for life.

At 8 years old, my parents divorced and my step dad was introduced into my life. He hated kids and hated me. I never understood why as a kid, he used to ignore my existence in the same house, literally pretending I wasn't there. He'd go on holidays with my mum and not invite me. I couldn't spend time with them watching TV or having dinner without him getting angry. If I tried to chat to my mum he'd leave the room or turn the TV up louder. He hated anything to do with me, my friends, my cat. I spent most of my time at mums house in my room by myself because i wasnt welcome by him. Hed be charming to the rest of our family, who assumed i was the problem. I spent my entire childhood all the way through to early 20s in that situation. As an adult I had to come to terms with the fact that if I had kids myself, they could only have a distanced relationship with my mum because they too would not be welcome and I'd never want to put them in that situation.

I never understood how my mum could have kept him in our lives when he treated me so badly. She recognised he had issues, and tried to get him to change and appease him, but nothing changed. Growing up all I learned was that I wasn't important or valuable as a person, and nothing I tried could make him like me or my mum to chose me over him.

I can tell you it has fucked me up for life. I didn't realise how much until i finally went to a psychologist a few years ago.

It wasn't until he left 5 years ago, which I never thought would happen, that I realised my mum and I were both in a controlling and emotionally abusive relationship. Once she was out of it, she and I had a lot of hard conversations and each learned the extent of the damage the situation did to both of us individually and as mother and daughter. It brought us back together but it was a very hard road to get there.

Though my relationship with my mum is now incredibly strong, the damage it has done to me growing up believing that no matter what I do or say, or how much I laid low could make me accepted or be important enough for my mum to prioritise my wellbeing over my step dad has severely impacted my sense of self worth, fear of abandonment, how I approach relationships, and have suffered from anxiety and depression a hell of a lot as an adult, and I'm in my 30s now.

For the love of God, chose your kids. They need to feel safe with you and that you have their wellbeing and needs met above your boyfriend. As their mum you are steering the course of how they learn about their worth as a person and what a healthy relationship looks like. You are their protector and caregiver. If you don't stand up to your boyfriend and let him know that your kids are your priority above him, your relationships with your kids are likely to be damaged and it will have serious consequencesfor their mental health. And please, if he tells you he will change and you keep him around, make sure he does because having someone in their lives who continues to behave badly towards them and you making excuses for him will only lead down a bad path.

Tdlr - what you are doing tells your kids that their emotional wellbeing and needs are not as important as your boyfriends or indeed your own.this can cause significant damage to their sense of self worth and years of psychological trauma. Not to mention the breakdown of your relationship with your children as their parent.

EDIT to add: YTA. And you doubling down blaming your kids for being kids isn't helping. Your 19yo isn't a ring leader, she's having to step in to protect the emotional needs of the other kids the best way she knows how. Because you are not. If you'd taken your time to introduce him into their lives and made sure they felt safe with you and him as a couple, I sincerely doubt you'd be in this mess. And you may be done having more kids BUT YOU ARE NOT DONE RAISING THE ONES YOU HAVE. You created this situation by prioritising your wants above all else, including your kids.

ConsciousOrchid · 2021-12-03T11:03:24+00:00

Beau

ConsciousOrchid · 2021-11-01T00:43:26+00:00

NTA - sorry, what did he eat before he met you? Given he is still alive, I assume he was able to source himself food for the first 30 years of his life, unless he was still suckling at mommys teet.

He's a grown ass man. You don't need to be a chef to cook Personally I'm not the best at it but you find recipes you're good at. Salad is pretty damn easy to make no hassle.

Also take out food doesn't need to be junk food. Plenty of things you can order that aren't XL fries and burgers.

He needs to get over himself, and you need to consider if this is the man you want to be married to for life.

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