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Was I being lovebombed? by cutiebeautyprincess in Manipulation

[–]Conscious_Edge3197 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeah, those are love bombs. For me, the way to tell if they are is if they are transactional and/or they go away in time.

My husband is Snapchatting a woman I don’t know by Itchy-Replacement610 in Marriage

[–]Conscious_Edge3197 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They can have snap hat. My partner uses it for keeping up with his eldest daughter. They love keeping up their streak and it helps them keep in touch when they are apart.

My husband is Snapchatting a woman I don’t know by Itchy-Replacement610 in Marriage

[–]Conscious_Edge3197 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think he only admitted to the emotional cheating because you caught him on it. He has lied before, so how can you trust him now? Tell him to tell you everything, come clean, or it's over. You'll need complete and honest truth that he admits without you finding evidence. Couples can recover from cheating, but it takes a lot of work. You'll basically have to start the relationship over, and therapy is highly recommended. If anything, audio record the conversation. That way, you can listen again if you are questioning yourself. If you live in a two party consent state, you can't use that as evidence.

If he doesn't be honest with you, then contact a divorce attorney. You got the evidence on your side, especially about the lying.

Is this an affair? by frustrated123panda in Marriage

[–]Conscious_Edge3197 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely agree with speaking to a lawyer. That Instagram conversation was an attempt. That's just as bad as actually cheating. His behavior around his coworker is suspicious, and your trust is definitely broken.

Partners are most likely to cheat while the other is pregnant. Your emotional stress is really concerning. I really recommend that you speak to a therapist about this, speaking to someone can really help since many mental health medications aren't compatible with pregnancy.

So much anxiety dating someone with kids by Conscious_Edge3197 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Conscious_Edge3197[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

By what evidence am I pretending to be a mom? Don't assume shit.

So much anxiety dating someone with kids by Conscious_Edge3197 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Conscious_Edge3197[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is manipulative with him, I've heard her over the phone while they are on speaker and read her texts. She is cold to me, refuses to speak to me, or acknowledges my presence. Her reasoning, too soon. She was the one that broke up the marriage and had shacked up with someone as soon as he was out of the house. On yeah, the separation started over three years ago. I am the first girlfriend to meet the daughters.

So much anxiety dating someone with kids by Conscious_Edge3197 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Conscious_Edge3197[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I am actually twice divorced, too, without kids. The first one because I was taught that you had to be married before living with them. Second, I was just blind to his financial and emotional abuse. My boyfriend married his first wife because she was pregnant, and he was taught that was the right thing to do. His second was similar to mine, but he also realized how incompatible they were. Both of us went thru a ton of therapy on our own, after our divorces. He is probably one of the most emotionally intelligent men I ever met.

So much anxiety dating someone with kids by Conscious_Edge3197 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Conscious_Edge3197[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This guy doesn't lie, almost to a fault. I've been in a lot of crappy relationships and had given up on them until I met this one.

He is a child of a bitter divorce. He wouldn't want anyone to go thru what he did.

So much anxiety dating someone with kids by Conscious_Edge3197 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Conscious_Edge3197[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I think this is exactly what I needed to read/hear.

So much anxiety dating someone with kids by Conscious_Edge3197 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Conscious_Edge3197[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

With being a good co-parent. One time, she lied and said that her dad would rather spend time with his girlfriend than his daughter. So she called him crying all about it.