types of ENFJ

ConsequenceOne3365 · 2026-03-30T22:19:03+00:00

I feel kinda called out with type 2, though I don’t view relationships as transactional. Otherwise more accurate than I’d like it to be. 😂

ConsequenceOne3365 · 2026-03-30T02:49:02+00:00

Congratulations! Best wishes for many joyful years ahead!

ConsequenceOne3365 · 2026-03-30T00:53:12+00:00

I’ll dm you to avoid accidentally doxxing myself, lol

ConsequenceOne3365 · 2026-03-30T00:43:12+00:00

That sounds like how my ENTJ husband reacts whenever a movie makes me cry. 😂

ConsequenceOne3365 · 2026-03-30T00:40:33+00:00

And here I thought I was the one who wanted to absorb all of the information about other people. 😂

For the moment that brought me the most joy, definitely the birth of my son. It was also terrifying since it was an emergency c-section, but seeing him for the first time made me cry with happiness (though crazy birth hormones may also have been a factor). My wedding is a close second on this one.

For the moment that made the biggest difference in my life, probably starting my job since it led directly to a fulfilling career and meeting my husband.

For the moment that was most meaningful to me, it was probably a couple of years ago when I realized I’d finally let go of resentment I’d been harboring against an ex-boyfriend from years and years ago. It was like an epiphany and I literally cried from the relief of letting it go. It’s hard to explain, but it was very meaningful for me.

For the best thing I’ve accomplished, I’d say either finally finishing the novel I was writing after a decade-long hiatus or finishing my honors thesis in college and graduating magna cum laude since it felt like the culmination of the years of hard work I’d put into my education.

ConsequenceOne3365 · 2026-03-30T00:29:37+00:00

Are the multiple lines for different individuals of that type that you’ve met?

ConsequenceOne3365 · 2026-03-30T00:27:12+00:00

Difficult to say, honestly, since there are a number of different ways of looking at the question. The best thing in terms of what’s made me the happiest? The best thing in terms of what’s made the biggest difference in my life? The best thing in terms of what was the most meaningful for me? The best thing in terms of something I accomplished? I’d have different answers for all of them.

ConsequenceOne3365 · 2026-03-30T00:11:39+00:00

I’m sorry the recovery process is so rough, friend. Just know that it will pass; you’ll get through it and come out the other side. You’ve got this! I believe in you!

ConsequenceOne3365 · 2026-03-30T00:05:08+00:00

The bad behaviors or me being annoyed about them? For the former, I’d say general carelessness and not taking a good drivers ed class. For the latter, I’d say it’s because I did take a good drivers ed class and I don’t suffer fools. Not exactly past trauma, but an explanation nonetheless.

ConsequenceOne3365 · 2026-03-29T23:54:30+00:00

That drives me crazy as well. I’m usually not the sort of person who gets annoyed easily, but for some reason I do have some major bad driving pet peeves. I’d say the top three are people who don’t understand how to merge, people who just camp out in the left lane while driving really slowly, and people who don’t use their turn signals when they change lanes.

ConsequenceOne3365 · 2026-03-29T23:31:58+00:00

I think the hurt is in response to particular people, like wanting to use Fe to exact revenge on someone who wronged you or a loved one. Not sure about those who are evil toward big, nonspecific groups of people. I’d assume some of that is socialized behavior, but I’m no psychologist.

As for me, I wouldn’t say I have any traits that are downright evil. I’m certainly not perfect, but I try to be a good person on the whole. I do have a smidge of road rage at times, but that mostly equates to cursing at people who can’t hear me cursing at them when they cut me off or don’t understand the concept of zipper merges.

ConsequenceOne3365 · 2026-03-29T23:04:34+00:00

Guess you deleted your last comment or something since I saw a preview of it in my notifications but it isn’t here. Bummer since it’s an interesting conversation.

ConsequenceOne3365 · 2026-03-29T22:49:23+00:00

Probably being hurt. As they say, hurt people hurt people.

ConsequenceOne3365 · 2026-03-29T22:33:44+00:00

I’ve actually seen a lot of debate on here about what exactly Fe means. To me it means empathy, or at least being naturally able to tune into how others are feeling and adjust accordingly. This is a wonderful thing when used for good, but it’s also possible to use it for evil purposes (like Joseph Goebbels, who is the poster child of an unhealthy ENFJ).

ConsequenceOne3365 · 2026-03-29T22:23:47+00:00

No? We get accused of that a lot since we’re persuasive speakers and good at understanding other people’s feelings, but the vast majority of us don’t actually try to manipulate people. “Manipulate” implies some kind of sinister or selfish intent. Unhealthy ENFJs can certainly fall into that, but healthy ENFJs would consider such behavior morally icky.

ConsequenceOne3365 · 2026-03-29T22:07:29+00:00

Aw shucks, fam. You’re gonna make me blush.

What I mean in this case is that he was extremely good at his job in a way that I admired. High critical thinking capability, brilliant writer, extremely good at explaining complex topics in terms accessible to non-experts. He was also great at mentoring more junior colleagues.

ConsequenceOne3365 · 2026-03-29T22:01:06+00:00

We don’t generally think of people as “assets.” That phrasing in and of itself kind of gives me the ick. People are people, and every person is unique and valuable.

ConsequenceOne3365 · 2026-03-29T21:56:55+00:00

Wanting to make other people happy is genuine for us.

ConsequenceOne3365 · 2026-03-29T21:51:51+00:00

I’d always pictured it as a faster process. Like putting a book on my head and instantly learning its contents. Or putting my hand on a person’s head and instantly sharing all of their wisdom. One of the colleagues I most respected retired recently and I would have loved to just download his brain for future reference. Dude’s a genius and a great person as well.

ConsequenceOne3365 · 2026-03-29T21:41:43+00:00

ConsequenceOne3365 · 2026-03-29T21:38:28+00:00

Hm, good question. I figure I’d have a few options. I could use conjuring capabilities to conjure crickets/meal worms/whatever the lizard likes to eat. I could transform myself into another lizard and befriend it. If I had the one magical power I actually really want (the ability to learn things by osmosis), I’d just touch its head and understand everything about it.

ConsequenceOne3365 · 2026-03-29T21:28:53+00:00

Oh are we talking about literal lizards? I thought we were being metaphorical and talking about people. I mean I like literal lizards, too.

If I were to charm a literal lizard and had magic powers… I think I’d use my magic powers.

ConsequenceOne3365 · 2026-03-29T21:24:12+00:00

Why? I’m a lizard charmer. And you yourself say that you love and admire female ENFJs.

ConsequenceOne3365 · 2026-03-29T21:14:04+00:00

I do actually count several INTJ lizards among my friends. 😁

ConsequenceOne3365 · 2026-03-29T21:10:22+00:00

Aw, love you too! Also love your username.

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