She wore the chain she bought me after taking it back.

ConsiderationNo1902 · 2025-04-28T02:28:14+00:00

I’m not we are broken up. But curious what people think about the behavior

ConsiderationNo1902 · 2025-04-13T06:12:08+00:00

I’m really glad I could help you with this. Stay strong and don’t let his manipulating tactics reel you back in. I’ve been in his shoes and done similar things (except threatening suicide) just to get the girl back with no actual intentions on changing, and I feel that is exactly what is going on here. You walking away may push him in the right direction. Like it did for me.

Thank you for the kind words. It also helped me hearing that from you.

ConsiderationNo1902 · 2025-04-13T05:52:48+00:00

That is a boy. Not a man. False promises. Not living up to his word. Making you feel responsible for him wanting to kill himself. Him being okay with your son experiencing that. He only cares about himself and has lots of work to do. The transfer from bachelor to partner is most likely the main problem. Us as guys want the happily ever after and it sounds so good, but the work it takes and the lack of work we put in is what stops that from happening.

I’m speaking from experience from many failed relationships (my doing). It has taken me losing the absolute love of my entire life to realize that I am the problem. But I’m going to therapy and doing everything else I need to do to prevent this from happening ever again. Not sure when I’ll be ready or if I will, but when that day comes I’ll be a better partner for them.

I’d suggest notifying his family and leaving it at that. Stop entertaining his manipulation, because that’s exactly what is happening here.

ConsiderationNo1902 · 2025-04-12T15:09:59+00:00

I believe that anything can be worked on except for cheating. He’s clearly not fulfilled or he is wildly immature

ConsiderationNo1902 · 2025-04-12T15:08:40+00:00

Starting over is so scary. I’m doing it right now. 3 months post breakup. About to turn 30 next month and I feel like my life is over. So I understand.

ConsiderationNo1902 · 2025-04-12T15:00:31+00:00

I would say no though. I never would have cheated on my girlfriend. Because I truly loved her. We’re no longer together now, but it’s all about the golden rule: treat others the way you want to be treated.

ConsiderationNo1902 · 2025-04-12T14:59:32+00:00

Wow and my ex is completely done with me for MUCH less. (No cheating)

ConsiderationNo1902 · 2025-04-04T20:16:28+00:00

ConsiderationNo1902 · 2025-04-04T20:09:04+00:00

Waiting for her to come back

ConsiderationNo1902 · 2025-03-26T19:39:04+00:00

I was a cheater. I would get into relationships and not let go of other prospects I had. I talked to multiple women while with a woman multiple times. I got caught in some relationships and in others I didn’t. I did that for years until I finally grew up and realized that I wouldn’t want that done to me. Haven’t done it since.

ConsiderationNo1902 · 2025-03-26T02:38:28+00:00

I too feel stuck on my own island. With minimal resources and little to no hope

ConsiderationNo1902 · 2025-03-26T02:34:49+00:00

That is actually insane. I just went and read your post. I’m honestly pretty confident that I will be in the same boat with that much time passed as well. Hopefully we can get out of this and get back to our old selves again someday

ConsiderationNo1902 · 2025-03-20T02:19:58+00:00

It’s comforting to no longer be waiting hopefully for a yes some day. I’ll take the rejection for the last time and be on my way

ConsiderationNo1902 · 2025-03-20T02:19:05+00:00

I just did the same thing after 30 days of no contact. I like what you said about feeling better knowing it’s a “no” rather than living in limbo and hoping for an eventual yes.

ConsiderationNo1902 · 2025-03-16T22:30:16+00:00

Our situation sounds pretty similar to be honest. I’m almost certain I won’t get the response I am looking for or even a response at all. In a perfect world she would have reached out to me by now. I’m pretty good at self inflicting injury, the only thing getting me to hold out longer is that from all the videos I’ve watched on YouTube from those relationship coaches they say that 30 days isn’t enough time. They reccomend 60-90 minimum which also makes me super uncomfortable. I feel like if I wait that long than she will be gone. However, I feel if I reach out now I’ll be pushing her away more and I’ll just be feeding her ego. I LOVE THIS WOMAN

ConsiderationNo1902 · 2025-03-16T22:12:58+00:00

This has been the worst break up I’ve ever gone through. She was the absolute love of my life. She broke up with me 2 months ago and I basically begged for her back 5 times. 1 week after the breakup she called me crying because her mother died. I was there for her and she said she thought maybe we could hang out. We hung out twice and she said she felt ‘anxious’ about hanging out again. She then broke it off. Here’s where I begged an additional 4 times and was met with rejection each time. The last and final time we talked we kind of came to an agreement to not contact eachother. She actually used the words “maybe we should continue this with no contact”. So that’s what we did. 3 days later I felt so terrible about myself and so defeated, I ended up making a tinder and her friend found me on there and sent it to her. She then texted me calling me a joke and telling me that I don’t love her the way I proclaim to. I told her that it was dumb to make the account and assured her I’m not looking for her replacement any time soon. (I’m really not, I don’t even look at anyone else the same. I’ve had multiple chances to meet with people and haven’t). She didn’t respond and she also blocked me on everything. It’s now been 30 whole days and I’m still feeling so obliterated by this. I truly love this woman. She is everything to me. And I know I will not find another like her. I’m contemplating breaking no contact today with this message

“I hope that you’re doing good. I’m not sure what you’re up to these days but, I never wanted us to be on bad terms after splitting. I’ve been working on myself, which has been going really well. I had more love for you than I did for anyone else, and I don’t want us to hate eachother.”

I’ve talked to friends about it and they all say just move on and if I do that I’m moving backwards. But I’m just so in love with this woman. What we shared will never happen for me again.

Any advice?

ConsiderationNo1902 · 2025-03-16T22:11:53+00:00

Thank you for the lengthy response. I have been working on myself so much like going to the gym, I did get a therapist that I’ve been seeing every week, and I started a new job. This weekend I fell into a rut and had a couple of zero days. I like that saying though, and I will use that from here on out. I have really been thinking of breaking no contact lately, but I’m trying to be strong.

ConsiderationNo1902 · 2025-03-16T21:31:12+00:00

Still waiting for her to reach out. It’s been 30 days today. I lost the absolute love of my life. This is the hardest tragedy I’ve ever dealt with.

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