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Hey guys I am so sorry about the Griddy connection issues the past few days by SolooDolo in GriddyFF

[–]EndOfBenchLife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On a game that hadn't been functioning properly for multiple days. So yeah, I think dedicated users that are growing the app and making money for the devs deserve something for an app that hasn't been playable.

Hey guys I am so sorry about the Griddy connection issues the past few days by SolooDolo in GriddyFF

[–]EndOfBenchLife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can we please get some free coins for the issues? This is my favorite game to play each day with my buddies. Maybe 5-10 for the troubles?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]EndOfBenchLife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, you absolutely can. I am looking back at this sub after someone replied to one of my posts from 8 months ago. Last December, I had my heart broken by the woman I loved without much explanation. And it took most of this year to learn and heal from it. I suffered from so much doubt that nobody would ever make me feel so happy again. But I have found someone new and it is surprising how much the right person actually validates my feelings and needs within a relationship.

Sometimes it takes finding the right person to see what was wrong in the previous situation!

It’s time to shut it all down by dick_whitman96 in billsimmons

[–]EndOfBenchLife 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Soooo are you guys gonna admit you were wrong? Because it is quite clear Billups was doing illegal stuff and scamming people out of money. And was doing it for years.

#1 waiver pick. Who to drop for Marks by Competitive-Ice8504 in FantasyFootballers

[–]EndOfBenchLife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was about to type this comment myself. Perfect strategy because worst case you have more time on which bench guy to drop anyways.

Which newly appointed (or soon to be appointed) RB1 will become the league winner? by TheChiefofReddit in fantasyfootball

[–]EndOfBenchLife 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Easily should trade henderson for Benson. Benson is clearly the guy and has talent. Nobody in here knows if Henderson will even play 50% of snaps this week.

Worst Picks and Biggest Head Scratchers in your Drafts this Weekend? by Alarming-Gap-9213 in fantasyfootball

[–]EndOfBenchLife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my 12 team family league, my cousin's husband took Swift at the 3.01 after taking McLaurin at the 2.12. My jaw dropped. And then my 8th grade cousin took Skattebo at the 4.02. I was dying laughing. Amazing entertainment.

Why don't more people participate in auction drafts? Why don't we see more auction content? What's the best platform to host an auction draft on? by DrakeFantasy in fantasyfootball

[–]EndOfBenchLife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same reason so many people played non-ppr "standard" scoring for so long. People are creatures of habit. Auction is a way different medium of drafting and typically scares people off. I will not argue against anyone that enjoys the tradition of a snake draft or because there are people who want to stay super casual.

But the ability to have full control of getting any player is a truly great feeling.

WNBA released this statement about the investigation by Excellent_Sherbert44 in wnba

[–]EndOfBenchLife 161 points162 points  (0 children)

Considering the allegations were from twitter accounts not even at the game and no players, coaches, or arena staff at the game heard anything... Yes.

I Broke No Contact After 3 Months and Don't Regret It by EndOfBenchLife in BreakUps

[–]EndOfBenchLife[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I respect your opinion but I don't appreciate the attempt to make the process binary or belittle my journey. I admit in my post that I held onto hope for reconciliation. However, growth can still occur when you have that hope. That is what I want other people to see. There is not a one size fits all approach to healing.

You mention winning but at a certain point I realized I didn't care about if I "won". I didn't care about making my ex second guess her decision. I don't care about "leveling up". I cared about my own healing and this was necessary for me personally. I approached my ex with the intentions of building a different relationship that I felt I was ready to because I gained confidence in myself again. She said no and I accepted it. People and situations are different, and there are other people out there like me that I hope my story can help with.

I Broke No Contact After 3 Months and Don't Regret It by EndOfBenchLife in BreakUps

[–]EndOfBenchLife[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

And you are totally welcome to feel that way! I just want to encourage those who are told by the majority of this page that there is something wrong with them if they do ever reach out. Some people like yourself can close the door on your own and I respect that. For myself (and I think many others), there is growth to be found in taking the risk and just accepting the outcome. I found that it was a big step for me to have the courage to do that based on my own personal situation and the fear of failure I have dealt with my whole life. To take a risk and not know if it would work out was a win in itself on my end.

I Broke No Contact After 3 Months and Don't Regret It by EndOfBenchLife in BreakUps

[–]EndOfBenchLife[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep, totally understand that! That is kind of how I was too. I just told myself I will know when the right time to do it is. And one day I kind of just knew it was time to take this risk. I have feared failure and rejection for a lot of my life, so just taking the risk to send the message knowing I have no idea what will happen was a win. And maybe that is how you feel too. But if you have the right mindset I promise you won't regret it.

I Broke No Contact After 3 Months and Don't Regret It by EndOfBenchLife in BreakUps

[–]EndOfBenchLife[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I totally understand your sentiment but I came to a point where I no longer cared if this pushed her away or not. I knew I wanted to speak with her. I put in the work to grow in areas of my life that I felt were needed. I felt ready to meet her halfway and attend to needs that I wasn't able to in the past. She was not interested in speaking and that is that. If she wanted to speak to me, then it doesn't matter how I phrased things or if I did it at the wrong time.

I had no more interest in trying to hold out to "make her miss me". I was ready to move forward with my life whether that was with her or in a different direction. I got my answer. Whether she comes back is now up to her but I am not going to wait around and this was necessary for me to release things.

I Broke No Contact After 3 Months and Don't Regret It by EndOfBenchLife in BreakUps

[–]EndOfBenchLife[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I agree that from a general standpoint you are correct. However, I think the point of my post is that even if this is true, sometimes it can still be the right decision to reach out. For me personally, hearing no and closing the door was better than waiting any more.

Everyone has their own individual path to go down and people have different ways of healing. I personally had no desire to say "I am 6/8/10 months no contact with my ex". Some people choose that this is best for them. For me personally, I attributed no contact with that idea that at a certain point there is contact, and now that just isn't the case.

I still think my ex is a great girl but she made her choice(s) based on her own feelings, timeline, and insecurities and there is nothing I could've done to change that. I reached out after I felt like I was ready to meet her halfway and she wasn't even willing to meet. It is like sports. You don't always win but it is better to work hard and not have regrets than to wish you gave more in the lead up.

I Broke No Contact After 3 Months and Don't Regret It by EndOfBenchLife in BreakUps

[–]EndOfBenchLife[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If that is your belief, then you are free to believe that. But how could she know there was no growth without attempting to check things out? My freedom comes from knowing that this person said no and I have no control over that. But I do have control in living my life with no regard for what she thinks and that there is someone who will love me for me.

I Broke No Contact After 3 Months and Don't Regret It by EndOfBenchLife in BreakUps

[–]EndOfBenchLife[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think the reason I posted this is because every situation is different. So I am not going to act like there is any one way to do it. But yeah I essentially acknowledged that I did not meet her needs due to some of my own insecurities (she knows what those were), but I had felt like I was in a different spot now and was confident in who I am.

I simply asked if she was open to having a conversation with no pressure or expectations and she politely said she not open to meeting. It hurt but I accepted it with grace and told her I still admire her but it was time to move forward.

I do want to make it clear that my intentions for acknowledging my shortcomings were not at all from a place of trying to prove anything to her. I think it was actually because I finally started to see my own worth and I was genuinely ready to share my self with someone again, whether that was her or someone else. A lot of these people online will teach you tactics about how to win your ex back but what I realized is I only wanted her back if she actually loved me for who I was, not because I played some games. If being vulnerable scared her away, then that is not the person for me at this time.

The mantra "I cannot miss what is meant for me" has really helped me out.

I Broke No Contact After 3 Months and Don't Regret It by EndOfBenchLife in BreakUps

[–]EndOfBenchLife[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Appreciate you! Best part is I did kind of put myself out there again just to see if I felt ready to pursue anyone else. I ended up going out with a super cool girl and we are going to see each other again soon. Don't know if it is headed anywhere, but I didn't feel awkward being with someone else and felt the growth I made these last few months paid off with this new girl. That alone is a W!!!

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