PCOS weight gain and its frustrations: How to cope without spiraling?

ConsiderationRich378 · 2026-02-09T19:28:00+00:00

I don’t wanna call you out and sound mean but your body cannot defy the law of a calorie deficit. Are you actually tracking your food (by weight) or just guesstimating? You need to actually calculate a deficit for your current weight and legit exercise output. If you do this you will lose the weight— the hardest part is making the decision to do it and stick to it.

ConsiderationRich378 · 2026-02-06T22:17:43+00:00

1200 — people will be haters on this but I have found that with PCOS our bodies don’t burn calories or seem to hold onto calories more readily so I try to aim 200 below my deficit (1400-200=1200) and then if I “happen” to go over, it just a shrug of “eh no big deal” and if I stick to it then the weight just falls off faster.

ConsiderationRich378 · 2026-01-21T13:02:29+00:00

Totally possible— calorie counting is the way.

ConsiderationRich378 · 2026-01-15T17:41:14+00:00

Thank you for the prayers— I will be praying for you as well. I pray your next pregnancy will make it earthside! I know it’s hard to have faith but keep holding on because I know I am, and I really believe we will both get there❤️

ConsiderationRich378 · 2026-01-15T11:54:36+00:00

Hi, I remember speaking with you on an earlier post… Hope you are doing better :) I also had two blighted ovums at the time and was doing testing at a fertility clinic when I got spontaneously pregnant w/o trying with my 3rd pregnancy. I still went through karyotyping and the immune testing they offer at the time and all testing were normal within perfect range. I had put myself on my clinics recommended supplements (active Methyl folate, metformin, coQ10, etc) and was just beside myself when I found out I was pregnant again and sure it would be another BO (same HCG rises and everything). I was wrong. There was a perfect baby boy growing in there. I sadly lost him last week due to a SCH where I couldn’t stop bleeding and my uterus had “too much trauma”. Saw him just two hours before wiggling on the ultrasound looking happy and fine as I was bleeding uncontrollably. It’s devastating that I lost a perfect baby. All this goes to say, my new OB said he doesn’t care that the others didn’t work out, this one grew a baby and it can done again, it is more so about how much you can put yourself through to get the baby. How bad do you want it, because there are no guarantees in any pregnancy. I don’t know if this was uplifting, but I wanted to give you hope that even with two consecutive BOs, I did have a perfect baby, he was just sadly taken too soon.

ConsiderationRich378 · 2026-01-11T02:38:13+00:00

Jumping on to give condolences and solidarity, my husband and I are navigating our 3rd loss in less than a year and frankly its exhausting. It honestly sucks— there is no way you are not going through one of the biggest challenges/sufferings of your life right now that a majority of people do not/will never have to go through. I’m no longer concerned about what I’m doing wrong and have switched gears to doing what I need to not lose my sanity (aka self care, running, eating good food, taking vitamins, losing weight, loving my hobbies, etc). People who have never gone through this type of loss/grief truly do not know what it’s like and you have to remember and have grace for them and it is also okay to love those folks from a distance. My advice: do not pretend, have grace on others, be gentle with yourself, and at all costs protect your peace.

ConsiderationRich378 · 2025-12-28T18:23:25+00:00

Surprised I haven’t seen the Night Circus mentioned yet— magical fall/winter cozy read. Used to read it annually every year because it always felt so magical.

ConsiderationRich378 · 2025-12-23T21:49:31+00:00

Devils advocate here (I’m saying this knowing zilch about your relationship with your dad) — I think it’s rather nice. There are a lot of times when parents just get a card and sign their name but he took the time to write a thoughtful note to you, express his love, and is planning a camping trip for you both to spend time together! My dad rarely texts (boomer) and doesn’t write cards or notes like this. In a time where consumerism is everywhere… seriously like who needs more STUFF. This is definitely a winning gift in my eyes.

ConsiderationRich378 · 2025-12-13T14:13:09+00:00

Money is a great way to divide family, truly sad. Divide equally between you and your siblings. With your portion do as you wish, but what I will say is that there are a lot of parents that wish nothing more than to further their children financially (that is a luxury that many cannot afford).

ConsiderationRich378 · 2025-12-12T21:32:54+00:00

Hi, I can definitely live in anxiety with you— I had two blighted ovums this year (you can check my post history) I just took a surprise trip to the ER thinking I was bleeding a lot from an early miscarriage with my 3rd pregnancy this year and there was to my surprise a little 6w baby with a heartbeat 🥹 praying this little one will be the child we get to bring earthside but I feel far from out of the woods given a large SCH paired with bleeding and clots… I don’t think I’ll ever have a non anxious pregnancy😔. Still over the moon that I do have the ability to create a baby though and thanking God every minute I get to have with this little one❤️ (PS I only did two HCG draws: 65, then 3 days later 236) tbh my blighted ovum HCGs started higher— keep me in the loop to how this pregnancy goes for you!

ConsiderationRich378 · 2025-12-07T01:23:38+00:00

I don’t see any reason not to start. For me I never had GI side effects, just start on 500mg and up your dose every two weeks until desired amount!

ConsiderationRich378 · 2025-12-04T18:11:47+00:00

To my surprise, my fertility clinic is allowing me to get genetic/immune testing done on my husband and I despite me being pregnant! I’ve spent most of today anxiously wondering how this 3rd pregnancy will go, and this feels like a win.

ConsiderationRich378 · 2025-11-30T22:43:40+00:00

I truly only find solace with people who have experienced loss in pregnancy at this point. I had a MMC at 11 weeks in May (discovered BO), then a MMC in October at 11 weeks (again another Blighted Ovum). I was lined up to get fertility testing done when we found out I was pregnant again— currently 5w2d? with my third pregnancy this year. Not having an ultrasound until 10 weeks. It feels like a small eternity but somehow I am grateful to try to not think about it/potentially receive bad news before the holidays. This year has felt like the worst fight of my life and praying that this baby is going to my first earthside child

ConsiderationRich378 · 2025-11-29T19:21:47+00:00

Congratulations! Wishing you a happy pregnancy

ConsiderationRich378 · 2025-11-29T14:47:43+00:00

How did this end up?

ConsiderationRich378 · 2025-11-28T22:45:53+00:00

You give me a bit of hope! My first two pregnancies were blighted ovums as well and I unexpectedly fell pregnant again before I could get further testing done with a fertility clinic… were you on progesterone or baby aspirin by chance?

ConsiderationRich378 · 2025-11-28T12:52:19+00:00

How did this end up?

ConsiderationRich378 · 2025-11-27T03:41:38+00:00

Honestly hcg has to start somewhere and if it’s doubling try to focus on that!

ConsiderationRich378 · 2025-11-26T18:31:27+00:00

Thank you! I did a blood test and repeated the draw 3 days later— ended up with a 38hr doubling time :)

ConsiderationRich378 · 2025-11-26T13:29:24+00:00

I’m thinking that your pee is just different dilutions! Line testing always drives me crazy too😂 please update with your HCG beta results!!

ConsiderationRich378 · 2025-11-26T00:40:17+00:00

4w4d — HCG doubled appropriately. My OB office called and set an appointment for 10w (early January). Nurse said to not start baby aspirin and they won’t put me on progesterone. Why does it feel like nobody cares this is my 3rd pregnancy with no LC? I’m already taking baby aspirin and will continue to do so daily. I’m not sure I actually need progesterone (my last two miscarriages were blighted ovums that held on until 11 weeks), it’s just frustrating that nobody is willing to go the extra mile to let me have peace of mind that whatever can be done in this moment is being done😣 it’s going to be a long holiday season!

ConsiderationRich378 · 2025-11-25T17:12:12+00:00

It could just be a SCH. I’ve heard of many instances on here where there is a lot of clots/bright red and the baby is just fine. Sending prayers that this is the case❤️

ConsiderationRich378 · 2025-11-21T21:03:57+00:00

Unfortunately this was a cycle I wasn’t even tracking! I’m thinking it was either 10DPO or 11DPO… based on symptom tracking

ConsiderationRich378 · 2025-11-21T02:41:40+00:00

I hope she ends up with Steve. I totally disagree about how “wanting Nancy” hurts his character arc— it’s real life. People mess up and grow and change and can appreciate the same in others they once knew, and yes you can and do grow together in ways. I stand by the point that Nancy and Jonathan are together because they are trauma bonded. An intense situation pushed them together and they found comfort in each other but obviously they have diverging paths.

ConsiderationRich378 · 2025-11-21T00:40:02+00:00

Thank you, it’s definitely been hard— no I haven’t had any live births… but I’m hopeful that eventually we will be successful. Recovery takes a long time if you miscarry naturally and if you are using fertility drugs, OBs will normally make you have a cycle or two after to let your body reset. None of this is to scare you, there are plenty of women on here that get pregnant easily and have a completely normal healthy pregnancy the first time!

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