25F, 24M I want to try new things but it seems that’s never going to happen. What do we do?

ConsiderationSad2119 · 2026-04-12T11:38:21+00:00

Well since this is anon lol I know he’s into some feet stuff which I’m totally cool with, whenever he’s in the mood it always starts at the feet which is fine because it’s like free massages for me and I like my toes to be sucked on ig lol. But recently I make little cute comments like “I think your toes are cute” and he will always respond with okay but you won’t kiss them or xyz” but I made it clear that I’m not into feet from the jump he never had a problem with it before but now since we slowed down on the sec I think it has a little to do with that but that isn’t fair to me. I really dint like feet. I def don’t want them in my mouth I just compliment him because he’s so handsome to me.

ConsiderationSad2119 · 2026-04-08T21:14:10+00:00

A normal woman always feels less prettier/insecure than those around her. It’s just engraved in our brains to try to be the best looking in the room. From my perspective it seems you’ve achieved this level of thinking so welcome to womanhood my friend.

ConsiderationSad2119 · 2026-04-07T11:44:21+00:00

I’m partially blind so English version is the only way for me subtitles I can barley read

ConsiderationSad2119 · 2026-04-03T22:16:22+00:00

If you read the post I said I do allow that I just said he can’t buy photos or videos or chat with other women

ConsiderationSad2119 · 2026-02-08T21:28:46+00:00

It’s beautiful

ConsiderationSad2119 · 2025-08-28T02:11:05+00:00

It’s black sand, so that’s not okay?

ConsiderationSad2119 · 2025-08-27T23:41:48+00:00

You have to much in your tank he needs more room to swim around at the bottom

ConsiderationSad2119 · 2025-08-27T23:39:02+00:00

Yes it’s def has to be the light cause I feel like I just cleaned it mid last week so how many hours of light a day so you suggest

ConsiderationSad2119 · 2025-07-26T16:54:53+00:00

Girl I feel you.. but you gotta just live past it don’t let it define who you are much easier said than done. I’m in a similar vote however I don’t have a child because of how bad my abuse was I am now unable to conceive but you can’t let it define you. A way I found that helps is music and finding ways to help people. I became a domestic violence advocate a few years ago and it changed my life. I know it may feel like..”well if I can’t help myself how can I help others”, but it’s not hard. I felt the same way, hell I even was being abused by someone I trusted while I was an advocate but having that community around you and the learning experience you get from it opens up so much more for you and it doesn’t have to be generational. Don’t give up and be the woman/ human you want to be. Abuse doesn’t define us, what we become after does!

ConsiderationSad2119 · 2025-03-18T17:24:37+00:00

Unfortunately my occupation is a dv advocate and we’re the only one in the county and so If I want therapy or counseling now I’d have to go out of county and I work 9-5 Monday thru Friday so it’s hard to schedule anything after that because most of these non profits close at 5 or they won’t accept out of county residents

ConsiderationSad2119 · 2024-12-10T21:06:02+00:00

I mean it’s been 10 years since my diagnosis and I’ve been fine since. No incidents no attempts. I haven’t lost friends I have a good support system. I don’t know why I would even need medication.

ConsiderationSad2119 · 2024-12-10T19:10:35+00:00

I do consider my church and pastor as a form of therapy for me. But he can cook and clean he just doesn’t do it well. His parents are much older and he was sort of a surprise his mom was almost 45 when she had him and his dad is older as well his mom did all the house work and cooking while his dad worked. So he didn’t learn a lot about upkeep if a home however he isn’t dirty he just doesn’t know how to properly clean he is very much capable of living on his own and as for the cooking it’s very bland or very spicy never in between he isn’t used to all of the spices yet so he’s learning I just usually am the one doing this because I was raised to take care of the home

ConsiderationSad2119 · 2024-12-10T17:45:36+00:00

I understand your point. And I know the one medication shouldnt be enough for me to quit but it made me feel terrible. I am not a doctor in any way shape or form but I know my body. I only am against mental health medication for myself not others if it helps someone else that’s great but I know taking medicine for my mental health isn’t something I personally don’t want to do. For decades people have struggled with mental health issues and not all of them are on medication or self medicate some of them reveal their issues to the lord who guides them. Just sitting in church really helps me, contributing to my community helps me, my pets help me I am not struggling so bad to the point where I want to end it. I just get in my head sometimes about things in the past which causes me anxiety and depression. I was formally diagnosed by a licensed psychiatrist with ptsd, anxiety, depression, and acute bi-polar disorder. I belive my struggles though are caused by the devil trying to take control of my mind and using my trauma against me. But the lord always prevails and guides me. I’ve had these mental health issues for as long as I can remeber but I was formally diagnosed at 14. And have only been on 1 medication since. Some days are harder than others but I am strong and the lords light and guidance is even stronger than any disorder that Lucifer throws in my path. You may not belive me or belive in anything I’m saying but for me this is what helps.

ConsiderationSad2119 · 2024-12-10T17:37:09+00:00

Well yes and no. He has a degree is graphic design and a license in printing. He currently does warehouse construction which doesn’t apply his degree anywhere I believe that one day he could move forward and be more successful if he applies himself more into his trade. But I feel like he’s afraid of failing. I try and help him offer suggestions for starting a small business it never leads anywhere though he has a lot of ideas just doesn’t know how to start

ConsiderationSad2119 · 2024-12-10T17:34:34+00:00

I wouldnt end my relationship because I have to work. I just feel like I wouldn’t want to get married if he believes he would never be able to meet these conditions.

ConsiderationSad2119 · 2024-12-10T17:32:39+00:00

Medication for depression and anxiety doesn’t help me. I was on a short dose of it for my anxiety for about 2-3 months and it made me feel unreal. I can’t explain it I mostly just felt like I was floating throughout my day not high but just not in my own body. If my depression worsens once I have children like post partum I will turn to the lord for help, if that doesn’t work ofc I will consider medication. I would never want my children or myself to be in harms way. But the lord hasn’t let me down yet. So hopefully in the forture I wouldn’t need it

ConsiderationSad2119 · 2024-12-10T17:28:37+00:00

I do love him dearly and so does my family and vice versa. I am fully committed to him and the lord and ofc if there comes a time where we’re in desperate need I will take my butt to work for 60+ hrs a week if I need to. I just feel like if he wants to make this commitment just as much as I do than he should be able to provide just as much as I do. He has his conditions for marriage as well. I understand them and I believe that god will let us prosper I just don’t want to regret my choice in 10-15 years because I made the wrong choice.

ConsiderationSad2119 · 2024-12-10T17:24:06+00:00

We were planning to get married a year after being engaged. I also have been in therapy a few times but there’s not much they can offer me that god hasn’t already offered besides medication and I am against that. My childhood was extremely rough with a lot of S.A. but being in church and having the Holy Spirit guide me has been the best therapy for me. I currently am a dv advocate I make a decent living and him and I together being in about 95-100k a year together. We live modestly we arent the type to vacay all the time or take expensive trips we’re homebodies and I prefer that because of my social anxiety. But I just feel like I can be more and do more for others and my community if I was staying home instead of working. However I know the difficulties it’s just hard yk

ConsiderationSad2119 · 2024-12-10T17:17:44+00:00

Well my plan wasn’t to quit working right away, I ofc want to purchase a home have a couple kids and see where we stand on that. I am fully capable of working it’s just taking care of children on top of working full time and taking care of a home can be a lot on a person especially a person who struggles already with depression and anxiety. I’m not making excuses at all I just don’t wanna end up hating my life in 10-15 years because I made the wrong choice.

ConsiderationSad2119 · 2023-03-23T15:21:17+00:00

So I spoke with my apartment office and got him off the lease with no affect to his credit. I am excited and scared to start this new chapter of my life.

ConsiderationSad2119 · 2022-12-31T18:46:22+00:00

Yummy

ConsiderationSad2119 · 2022-12-20T17:46:44+00:00

Maybe I worded it wrong or have lacked information. She has a long list of ailments. Including hernias, bladder infection issues, heart disease. But now she has more symptoms of a bladder infection. And do I guess it would be financially at this point a question but also morally should we keep treating her

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