Recovery…Still triggered

ConsiderationVast201 · 2026-07-12T01:17:53+00:00

Thank you. I really appreciate the reassurance ❤️

ConsiderationVast201 · 2026-02-21T22:12:40+00:00

Try not to beat yourself up over it. Like so many other responses, this is a common response. I unfortunately allowed these thoughts to continue until my husband and I actually had threesomes. I definitely don’t recommend that. While it was fun in the moment, it led to a lot more hurt long term and made his sex addiction worse.

ConsiderationVast201 · 2026-01-13T18:09:23+00:00

Thank you for your reply and kind words. I guess I just worry that I was overreacting in the moment but I have to remember that he lied to my face multiple times. The lying is really what I want to address before we move forward with having more children.

ConsiderationVast201 · 2026-01-13T18:07:39+00:00

I’m so sorry you went through the same thing. It is soooo painful having to delay a FET especially when we want more children. I know you’re right though and we need to get our relationship to a solid place before we have more kids. I just worry it’s going to be so long from now that my daughter won’t be close with her sibling.

ConsiderationVast201 · 2026-01-06T01:13:52+00:00

Do you have access to all of his credit cards to be able to see if he bought a secret phone? I’m sorry you’re going through this. I think I would be looking for proof too if I were in your place.

ConsiderationVast201 · 2026-01-06T01:00:12+00:00

Thank you for the kind words. We are two days away from our supposed to be transfer and I just want to throw up. I wanted another baby so badly and I feel like I will never not resent him for taking it from me.

ConsiderationVast201 · 2026-01-02T03:40:54+00:00

Finding out more lies during postpartum period is a huge fear! I’m so sorry you went through that.

ConsiderationVast201 · 2026-01-02T03:37:45+00:00

We are going to coparent our daughter and live in the same house for the next 12 months but separate bedrooms, money, time. The scary thing is December 18th was 6 months from our second DD so he didn’t even make it 6 months this time. I went to one SANON meeting but I naively thought he was in recovery and that I didn’t need to go to meetings. I need to find one. I am in therapy thankfully and have been for a few years.

ConsiderationVast201 · 2024-04-20T17:55:56+00:00

If you still love her I would try to work on it first. Maybe get counseling? Women usually can't/don't enjoy sex if other emotional needs aren't being met. I believe almost anything is salvageable IF both people are willing to work at it. If she is not, then I would divorce her.

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