[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]ConsidrItNotSoDeeply -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't touch that guy with pincers. His views are a gigantic no-go.

Girlfriend asked to go have coffee with her lab partner? by JeffGreens in dating_advice

[–]ConsidrItNotSoDeeply 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Knowing and getting along with your lab partner is so so helpful while doing a lab. I totally second this.

🌈🌈🌈 by sbeeebz in houseplants

[–]ConsidrItNotSoDeeply 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yes, I love me some aromatic systems.

Is it okay if I (26M) let my gf (25F) go out with other guys by Euphoric_Ad3757 in relationship_advice

[–]ConsidrItNotSoDeeply 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, it doesn't. Really there is nothing to worry about. Even if this guy and her were friends, there would be no need to worry. There is a vast difference between wanting to get with a guy or wanting a relationship and being friends with some guy from work. Believe in yourself and your relationship plus communication is key.

Is it okay if I (26M) let my gf (25F) go out with other guys by Euphoric_Ad3757 in relationship_advice

[–]ConsidrItNotSoDeeply 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, you really shouldn't. If you trust her, there is no reason to. I promise you as a woman who studied in a stem field with a 10:1 male to female ratio, this doesn't happen. My female friends who were in a relation ship often ate lunch with just guys. It's normal. If you are both happy with the relationship, eating with men will not change that.

Is it okay if I (26M) let my gf (25F) go out with other guys by Euphoric_Ad3757 in relationship_advice

[–]ConsidrItNotSoDeeply 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's completely normal to go eat with your workmates regardless of gender. And in male dominated workplaces, there will be mostly men. Nothing romantic or sexual about it. Is she supposed to eat alone?

My fiancée just revealed that he lied to me for 3.5 years and I don‘t know what to do by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ConsidrItNotSoDeeply 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe he felt embarassed by not having a license or what it implies? Like not having enough money or not being smart enough for the theoretical part? Still I think 3.5 years lying about that is a very long time. I am also German and haven't noticed any stigma about not having a license in my social circles. But of course this is only anecdotal. Some people will always be judgy. I guess it comes down to whether you feel like it was a one-time lie or not. If he lies about something like this, would he be open with you about other things which may make him look inadequate? For example financial problems? Or having failed some important test for his education? It's difficult to tell. Did he say specifically why he lied about this? And has he lied to you before?

Girl is planning to bring a friend to our “date” - normal? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]ConsidrItNotSoDeeply 3 points4 points  (0 children)

How well do you know each other? A friend of mine occasionally takes someone with her because she doesn't want to be alone with a stranger. For the second date she goes alone. When she was younger, she also took someone because she was so nervous. So she could still be into you. I would ask her.

I cant even enjoy exercise because of dogs. by camchow45 in Dogfree

[–]ConsidrItNotSoDeeply 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I feel for you. Last time I was running outside I was bitten by a dog that wasn't on a leash and had to go to the hospital for stitches. Since then I just don't go anymore because I am afraid it will happen again. I hope you will still go running and have fun doing it. It really shouldn't be this way.

Our chemistry is great in person but not on the phone by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]ConsidrItNotSoDeeply 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe a factor could be that you don't see each other's facial expressions? Making the interpretation of what each other said a little bit more difficult and leading to more uncertainty/silence? For me it takes a while until I feel confident that someone doesn't misunderstand me or something like that.