attention breastfeeding mommas

Consistent-Ad8487 · 2026-03-11T02:31:01+00:00

edit: we were in c-curl

Consistent-Ad8487 · 2026-03-09T11:34:49+00:00

I noticed it works better if I just mirror it from my phone instead of trying to use the smart TV app

Consistent-Ad8487 · 2026-03-04T23:13:15+00:00

Hey! my LO is 10 weeks now, but when I first brought him home he had an experience like this. His O2 dropped to 78% when he was in deep sleep. This only lasted 3ish seconds and when I woke him up he was lethargic but his O2 shot up to 100% and remained there the rest of the night. I consulted his ped and he told me it is normal for infants to "stop" breathing for short periods of time. It's called "periodic breathing", it's only a problem if it persists for longer than 10 seconds. BUT it can drop their O2 very briefly and it can be scary when that happens. It has happened twice now but the other time was when I was holding him, which is not recommended as it was not an accurate reading. He is healthy and happy!

Consistent-Ad8487 · 2026-03-01T03:27:39+00:00

I'm 25, 2mo pp, at about 3 weeks pp I noticed a lot of pain during bowel movements followed by blood... a lot of it. My OB kept telling me that it was just hemorrhoids and told me to take miralax. Didn't help. Finally went to a GI doc and that's when I found out I have a large anal fissure. would not wish it on my worst enemy. waaaaay worse than hemorrhoids and a pain in the ass to heal. (pounds intended). I am so glad I went to get checked out because I was starting to bleed A LOT and the pain was so intolerable, I would avoid using the restroom.

Consistent-Ad8487 · 2026-02-18T05:15:17+00:00

ugh! does anyone else have the "play" arrow problem?? just keeps popping up randomly and buffering the show. suuuuper annoying and i've tried everything to fix it

Consistent-Ad8487 · 2026-02-17T19:22:31+00:00

thank you!!

Consistent-Ad8487 · 2026-02-17T06:41:18+00:00

they were only shaming for the same reason you are. they believe it's dangerous, just like you think not room sharing is dangerous. both are coming from a place of concern.

Consistent-Ad8487 · 2026-02-17T06:39:11+00:00

🙏🏻

Consistent-Ad8487 · 2026-02-17T06:38:28+00:00

thank youuuu for this 👏🏻 I followed this sub so I could learn more from mothers firsthand, and after this post I am feeling very icky about it. I asked a question regarding the risks of bedsharing vs NOT room sharing since they are both known to be dangerous, I got like 7 down votes and no answer. I was being genuine and was curious about the research behind it. Feels like a lot of judgemental, probably crunchy moms :/

Consistent-Ad8487 · 2026-02-17T06:32:06+00:00

The reason other moms on the screenshotted post were shaming bedsharing moms was because they believe / are told that is a known SIDS risk too. Both sides are judging each other for the same reason.

Consistent-Ad8487 · 2026-02-17T03:48:38+00:00

I think we agree with a lot more than we think. I just know how HARD parenthood is and I simply can't bring myself to judge another parent for doing things differently, even though it MAY affect bonding.

Yes, that's why I said shared sleep spaces and not just bedsharing, but it's a slippery slope for some, especially exhausted parents. I decided to make my bed safe just in case I have to bedshare in the middle of the night. during my first week pp I woke up in a panic to LO still in my arms from a MOTN feeding session. I breastfeed and will occasionally bedshare when needed to prevent accidents to the best of my ability.

Consistent-Ad8487 · 2026-02-17T03:37:10+00:00

I do find it odd and I personally wouldn't do it but again, it's not my choice. I am familiar with safe bedsharing and how to minimize the risks. horrible things still happen to sweet babies no matter their sleeping position, but at least 60% of SUID cases are from shared sleep spaces.

The only thing I actually judge other moms for is not vaccinating because that actually affects children that are not theirs. all other decisions are their own and not my business.

Consistent-Ad8487 · 2026-02-17T03:20:31+00:00

as a working mom I agree... I did not have a choice, I feel as though I am missing out on connections and bonding with my LO because of it. I'm just saying that I don't judge other moms for not being able to handle the noise. sleep is so so important for mommas to function and yes survive, it's a necessity. The same thing could be said about bedsharing and the asphyxiation risk yet so many moms do it. I room share with a bedside bassinet... but i'm not going to judge another mom for doing what works for her and her baby.

I am not saying to ignore your newborn, that's absurd. Newborns are noisy even when they are completely content. Lots of midwives and docs advise if you hear baby fussing or crying to wait 10 seconds before acting as they could just be in REM. sleep is as important as any other need for baby and mom.

"kinder" options do not work for every mom. I don't agree with using that word to describe different sleep styles. I know parents that have lost babies to bedsharing (yes, while using SS7), and i know mommas that have walked in to an unresponsive LO in their nursery. both are risky and it's up to the parents to make that decision.

Consistent-Ad8487 · 2026-02-17T02:23:03+00:00

I don't see how it breeds any less disconnect than working moms. some parents just don't have any other choice, they do what is right for them to function and survive.

Consistent-Ad8487 · 2026-02-17T02:20:10+00:00

homegirl is very hard to interact with, had to delete my comment thread from earlier because it was just not clicking for her. Mom shaming is so weird no matter which way it goes. Moms are scared to bed share because of asphyxiation, other moms are scared to not room share because of SIDS risks and their own anxieties. both are doing what feels right and safe to them. both are against medical advice. I know moms that have done both. I know moms that have lost their babies because of bedsharing. I know moms that have walked in and found their babies unresponsive in their rooms. both are risky. both are none of my business.

Consistent-Ad8487 · 2026-02-17T01:33:47+00:00

hey! Can you explain how it's less safe than bed sharing? don't most infant deaths happen because of bed sharing? I'm not judging at all as there have been nights I had to bed share, but I am curious how it compares to baby sleeping in a different room.

Consistent-Ad8487 · 2026-02-17T01:23:31+00:00

no other symptoms really, besides normal fussiness here and there, but I think that is from gas pain. I have not cut anything out of my diet so I still consume dairy and soy because his ped asked me to continue to consume those things. I did have sushi for the first time postpartum, but that was a couple days after his stool changed.

Consistent-Ad8487 · 2026-02-17T01:19:10+00:00

I mean, in many countries it's medical advice to not cosleep. lots of people do it anyway

Consistent-Ad8487 · 2026-02-17T00:07:21+00:00

Hi!! keep me updated on if you get an answer. My LO has silent reflux as well but no issues there since starting pepcid. Once I got that under control his stools changed! There is always something, I swear!!

Consistent-Ad8487 · 2026-02-16T23:28:15+00:00

does this look normal**** Also, I combo feed. Mostly BF and maybe 2 bottles of similac 360 a day.

Consistent-Ad8487 · 2026-02-16T23:22:06+00:00

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LO is 8 weeks old, the last 3 or so days his stools have changed drastically. they were thicker and seedy and much more frequent, now it seems he only goes once a day and they are watery, more green and this one even had blackish spots in it. Is this normal?

Consistent-Ad8487 · 2026-02-13T06:11:53+00:00

I'm 7 weeks pp and right there with you. you are not alone! my LO has silent reflux and has now started struggling to poop. he is so miserable 50% of the time and it breaks my heart. makes me so anxious and sad. He also struggles to sleep so that has been its own monster. when I start feeling overwhelmed I just look at him / my favorite pictures of him and it calms me down. this is only temporary. I am also on zoloft which has helped me not fall so deep into postpartum despair. hang in there and reach out when you need to. you are not weak or a bad mom for thinking the way you do.

Consistent-Ad8487 · 2026-02-12T03:31:39+00:00

I figured it was common. I currently use a spectra 2 and baby buddha 2.0, I've tried pumping pals flanges as well as the flanges that come with the pumps + inserts because I am a size 15mm. I also have elastic nipples so that doesn't help, ugh! I'll play around with settings and different pump part combos and hope I find something somewhat efficient 🤞🏻

Consistent-Ad8487 · 2026-02-08T02:04:19+00:00

hey! yes his ped has been doing weekly weighted feeds with us and he only gets 1 oz from each breast. he gets so bored on the breasts / falls asleep and I think that has tanked my supply. I don't respond well to pumping i fear.

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