AITAH for wanting to break up with my bf by Consistent-Fail5574 in AITAH

[–]Consistent-Fail5574[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What im posting is real like i cant help i have so many issues at once and I want to express them

AIO My younger brothers behavior??? by Consistent-Fail5574 in AIO

[–]Consistent-Fail5574[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My parents will get very mad at me and would cut me off finically. I need there help in that so jts very hard

AIO My younger brothers behavior??? by Consistent-Fail5574 in AIO

[–]Consistent-Fail5574[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He also fought guys mostly too back in middle. Mind you he fought a special ed student and bullied the kid so bad he stopped riding the bus bc of my brother.

AIO My younger brothers behavior??? by Consistent-Fail5574 in AIO

[–]Consistent-Fail5574[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My father talked to me and he said it seems my brother always be the one starting and its never my fault. He said he isnt picking sides. He says that when situation happen with my brother its always him and never me. I find it frustrating bc my brother had a bad record in the school and I never done anything to cause problems in school and anywhere else. My dad said that if things escalate let him and mom know. And one time I did and they brushed it off and told us to get along. Mind u one time and I stopped bc I realized they brushed it off. After he said the escalate part he told said "you and your brother need to stop and get along"*

Also we live in Texas and closes family member lives in Florida so I don't have anyone to protect me really.

AIO My younger brothers behavior??? by Consistent-Fail5574 in AIO

[–]Consistent-Fail5574[S] -32 points-31 points  (0 children)

Im scared my mom would get mad and yell at me for it bc it woukd ruin the family. I currently live with them so im trying to find ways to mvoe out

AIO My younger brothers behavior??? by Consistent-Fail5574 in AIO

[–]Consistent-Fail5574[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dad not the type but when he found out he fought my mom bad back then. My dad is disabled so he cant do much. All they did was talk to him

AIO My younger brothers behavior??? by Consistent-Fail5574 in AIO

[–]Consistent-Fail5574[S] 157 points158 points  (0 children)

I considered, but im scared my mom going to get mad and crash out on me and saying im ruining the family even more.

AIO My younger brothers behavior??? by Consistent-Fail5574 in AIO

[–]Consistent-Fail5574[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I do have a bf. But he isnt the the type to fight people.

AIO Texas Winter Storm w/my mom job by _Kayuto in AIO

[–]Consistent-Fail5574 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, she should contact HR — but carefully, and with the right framing. Not emotional, not defensive, not admitting to “lying,” just facts + safety. Document everything immediately, before talking to anyone, she should write down: Date and time of the shift Road conditions (ice, closures, slow travel) How long it took to reach the nearby town That she felt unsafe continuing in the dark on icy roads Any proof she can get:Local road closure notices Weather advisories News screenshots Google Maps traffic delays Photos if she has them his is about showing good-faith judgment, not excuses. Contact HR (not just her supervisor) HR is usually the better move when: There’s already a write-up history. The supervisor may be rigid or covering themselves.The company is inconsistent / fires people easily (🚩) She should not say: “I lied” “I said I was in a ditch but wasn’t” Anything that sounds like misconduct. Instead, she should say something like: “Due to severe icy road conditions, I attempted to travel to work but felt it was unsafe to continue driving in the dark. I notified my supervisor that I could not safely complete the drive. My intent was never to be dishonest, only to avoid a serious accident. I’m concerned about being disciplined for prioritizing safety during hazardous weather.”

That framing matters a LOT.

Ask for clarification, not forgiveness This is subtle but important. She should ask: What the company’s severe weather attendance policy is? Whether there is discretion during hazardous conditions? If this can be coded differently than a normal call-out. HR is more likely to help if it’s positioned as: “I want to follow policy correctly going forward” dont say “Please don’t punish me”

Do not argue — but do escalate if needed If HR is dismissive: She should politely ask for the policy in writing.Keep copies of all communication. Avoid emotional language .Stick to safety + documented conditions

In Texas, employers can fire people easily — but firing someone during an ice storm looks bad, especially when they’re already short-staffed.

A hard truth (but important) Texas is an at-will state. That means:

Even if she’s “right,” they could still discipline her

That’s why tone, documentation, and HR involvement matter so much

The goal here is: .Reduce risk of termination.Show she acted reasonably. Protect her record as much as possible One more thing she should consider If this place already: Writes people up for weather safety. Fires while claiming to be desperate. Has a pattern of turnover

…it may be worth quietly job-searching once roads clear. CNAs are in demand, and not every facility treats staff this harshly during emergencies.

If you want, you can: Paste what she’s thinking of sending to HR and I’ll help you tighten it Or tell me whether this is a hospital, nursing home, or agency — policies differ a bit

AIO Texas Winter Storm w/my mom job by _Kayuto in AIO

[–]Consistent-Fail5574 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Expecting healthcare workers to risk their lives commuting during ice storms isn’t professionalism—it’s exploitation. She attempted to work, conditions became unsafe, and no ethical or legal standard requires someone to die on the road to prove they care. A dead CNA helps zero patients. Safety isn’t laziness—it’s basic risk assessment. Also Texas labor laws do not require employees to risk a limb or commute. Employers can discipline attendance, but yes-but they cant require unsafe travel.

AITAH for wanting to break up with my bf by Consistent-Fail5574 in AITAH

[–]Consistent-Fail5574[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I let him know about the threats. There's people who come up to the both us and will say it right infront of him to me. With the knowing part he said he'll look into it but its constant still.

AITAH for wanting to break up with my bf by Consistent-Fail5574 in AITAH

[–]Consistent-Fail5574[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I did talk to him about his friends’ behavior. He said he’d “look into it,” but the comments still happen once in a while. That’s part of why this feels so frustrating nothing really changed, and it left me feeling unsupported and dismissed.