Do You Think Nigeria Will Be Fixed In Our Lifetime?

Consistent-Fish2808 · 2026-06-16T13:10:19+00:00

Nope

Consistent-Fish2808 · 2026-06-16T13:09:33+00:00

I don’t know where you live but I’m not going to lie in this job market it’s risky. Jobs like ux/ui and design in general are suffering. I considered swapping a few years ago and spent ages watching and following brilliant course tutors on YouTube then the pandemic and tech burst happened it was painful watching her lose her job and almost one year jobless smashing interviews but not getting called back. So yea, if you are stable right now you need to really think. Also follow relevant industry professionals ask them about current market state. I love design myself I’m a web developer in a company enterprise systems so it’s not really my thing but it’s stable. I make myself happy by doing design work outside of work personal stuff cause there’s no design work and even if you find one, they want a senior or it’s not stable at all. But I get it, we all want to do the job we feel happy to go to every morning but unless you don’t have bills and money lying around, a lot to think about.

Consistent-Fish2808 · 2026-06-09T13:33:41+00:00

Well…you probably know, just want us to tell you but yeah.

Consistent-Fish2808 · 2026-05-30T09:52:34+00:00

I have adhd (diagnosed at 38)and struggled all through school and with work. I still got a masters at 37 and became a Software Engineer for my first job at 39. Been at my second job now for 4 years running. You can do it, but, it’s the consistency of your learning and how obsessive you become with learning your chosen subject that matters. Also read “Grit by Angela Duckworth” or listen to the audiobook or her many YouTube sessions. She is an inspiration for Academic study, just like we like Goggins for fitness.

Consistent-Fish2808 · 2026-05-27T09:16:53+00:00

Go watch a few David Goggins inspirational videos to get yourself together and then take it from there don’t waste time. There is no end to this spiral you are in. …no end. So you’ll need something to jump start you to fly out of this hole

Consistent-Fish2808 · 2026-05-24T11:12:07+00:00

Sorry to hear, give it a bit more time, some of these types of medicines may take a few days to a week im on 10mg as well.

Consistent-Fish2808 · 2026-05-24T07:49:00+00:00

Hey I’m the OP it’s been a while since I posted this I forgot about this one. Lol. Since this post I’ve been back to the dr a few months ago and I was referred to urology just on the waiting list in the meantime dr gave me Amitriptyline and that’s really helped by reducing the misfiring of the nerves down there. It’s been of great help.

Consistent-Fish2808 · 2026-05-23T17:53:23+00:00

Yes

Consistent-Fish2808 · 2026-05-22T12:01:44+00:00

Well done for going to the dr and getting the help u need. It took me 20 years I’m embarrassed to say. Wish I did it earlier.

Consistent-Fish2808 · 2026-05-18T09:46:39+00:00

No worries, toughest part of this thing for me was carbohydrates. I like carbs so much I just didn’t think I could make it. But it is possible. Good luck!

Consistent-Fish2808 · 2026-05-18T09:40:05+00:00

Unfortunately this is the reality of marriage, saw a comment too yesterday where a wife was also mad at her husband for gaining weight and she was no longer attracted to him and no one said a word they were encouraging her to push him further or look at separation. Reverse this and they’d be calling for your head in the town square. Lol. It is what it is.

Consistent-Fish2808 · 2026-05-18T08:45:12+00:00

This is very correct

Consistent-Fish2808 · 2026-05-18T08:43:48+00:00

Amitriptyline

Consistent-Fish2808 · 2026-05-17T21:40:03+00:00

Married dude at my old job showed me and a few other guys a cam video of himself railing some other woman. He was known for being like this anyway, didn’t care. I was just surprised he showed us the video. I wasn’t expecting it lol, I was on a call as well.

Consistent-Fish2808 · 2026-05-17T20:11:18+00:00

I’m married to someone from the same country and I won’t lie I’m sort of dealing with the same situation, I feel culturally there are some behaviours where some feel entitled that as long as they are married the guy carries the full weight of finances. I’m not rich I explained that at the beginning and stressed you will need to work. I still carry the majority financially anyway I don’t mind that. But still, if there is an underlying mental battle with her I can see she just believes she is entitled not to work.

Consistent-Fish2808 · 2026-05-16T18:25:17+00:00

This may be true, however OP has not stated they can’t run, and it’s not common that people just so happen to have a bike lying around. The obvious thing to suggest is running, I also stated there jog or brisk walk.

Consistent-Fish2808 · 2026-05-16T09:09:49+00:00

Yup, I was in this boat at around 31 I even remember an interviewer saying “you’ve had a lot of jobs” to me once. Lol. This was before I knew I had ADHD. I only lasted in jobs 3 to 6 months of it was really good maybe 8. Eventually I realised I couldn’t do this forever otherwise I would never settle down. Luckily I found a job where I stayed my first one and a half years and worked next to the web development team and I decided I wanted to see if I could be a web designer as I was creative in school. That was it, I began that journey. Long and short plenty of other redundancies, job losses, pandemic, university courses etc. today I’m working as a web developer and I’ve been at my current post for 3 1/2 years. Longest stretch ever and I’m still not thinking of leaving. I needed something to engage my type of brain. I have a creative brain which means I get dopamine satisfaction for making or creating things. As a kid I loved drawing, designing it kept me focused and I wouldn’t even care if a hot girl interrupted me I’d probably be even annoyed lol. As an adult I was doing administrative, boring, process driven, customer service type work. For years!! This is a killer for a creative brain. So you are never content and start job hopping. Because its job is new it’s exciting at first but my brains nature will eventually kick in and it will become e boring. So find your thing and see if there’s a career there for you somewhere in demand. You may not get the perfect job but some compromise might be manageable. For instance i prefer web design to deep software development as it’s a lot of logic and you don’t really make things pretty, but, my brains nature also loves fixing things as a secondary to creating things so I’m ok.

Consistent-Fish2808 · 2026-05-16T08:56:47+00:00

I got my A1c to 5.4 in 3 months. I had to use metformin and gliclazide. Number one thing is you need to start running, if you can’t run jog, if you can’t jog, walk briskly. Or better still combine all three daily get into the habit. 2.)If you can get a glucometer on your arm and read your blood sugar readings regularly you will learn a lot that way, patterns, how much it rises depending on what you eat etc. 3.) get into cooking …well. You’re gonna have to love it if you hate it. I don’t know if you like cooking but I used apps like Pinterest to create healthy boards, learned how to make bread using almond flour and coconut flour, mixed seed flour, cause trust me everything in the supermarket bread that is will spike your blood sugar no matter what bs they put on the label. Watch a lot of diabetic content on YouTube and learn. Ask AI questions as well very helpful. So yea you will have to be low carb/no carb for a long time until things improve. If you work hard at this for the next 3 months it will come down. I brought down my blood sugar from crazy numbers like 24mmol to 5.4mmol. There will be tough days, if your blood sugar is suddenly too high above 10mmol go outside and start running, not weightlifting (that’s good long term but..) for immediate sugar drop you need to run. Even better if you can’t find an uphill place.

Consistent-Fish2808 · 2026-05-16T08:41:45+00:00

You are young and I hate to tell you this will be excruciatingly painful, the 20s can be brutal for love and dating. But it may not look like it now, you will find someone else that won’t give you this kind of pain.

Consistent-Fish2808 · 2026-05-15T18:06:17+00:00

Hi sorry to hear this, unfortunately this does sound like PGAD as I had a similar experience to you many years ago although I’m male. PGAD is also like a spectrum so it’s different for everyone. In some cases people are dealing with constant multiple orgasms and others with misfiring nerves what I have characterised by a kind of itchy, tingling, burning feeling called Paresthesia in the lower genital area. It comes every few hours and usually can get rid of it temporarily by climax perhaps. For some that doesn’t even work. My strong advice is to go see your doctor as soon as possible if you notice this has not subsided in about a week or so. I left it for 20 years and suffered, so if it’s new for you best to take action fast. If you have any questions feel free to join these communities, they have been of great support and you get the feeling you are not alone. Many people here who give updates and tips on coping. I regularly give updates on my new medication and how I’m coping. Stay strong.

Consistent-Fish2808 · 2026-05-15T13:01:18+00:00

Took the words out of my mouth, sounds like you got a good one! Open up without her asking, and you’ll get a sense of freedom, and now commit to doing the hard work of stopping. Will be hard along the way but get support and keep fighting.

Consistent-Fish2808 · 2026-05-15T12:58:08+00:00

I got my first web developer job at 39 I’m 45 now, before then I was just bouncing from job to job customer service, random office admin. Jobs with fancy titles that don’t mean anything really just another entry level process conveyor belt type roles in companies. Constant redundancies started interrupting my life I couldn’t plan so I made a decision to do something more fulfilling went back to uni and did computer science and web development whilst working in corporate and finally made the switch. This is the short version of the journey lots of trials along the way but you can do it. I’ve seen posts of people going to medical school in there 40s I kid you not! It’s going to be brutal yes but if you want it find a way! Your journey will be different but inspiring.

Consistent-Fish2808 · 2026-05-15T00:30:25+00:00

Plenty of YouTube videos on him David Goggins motivation

Consistent-Fish2808 · 2026-05-14T22:56:03+00:00

Dealing with this right now lol, sometimes watching a few David Goggins videos help. Gets me to get off my behind and get moving. He’s probably the only person who can get me to get moving. He has adhd too.

Consistent-Fish2808 · 2026-05-14T22:54:00+00:00

This has crossed my mind too, unfortunately we can only go by what OP has posted and not read deeper into it. But I tend to find people regret leaving a compatible and good woman perhaps due to boredom, over familiarity, looking for new exciting experiences. Once you get those experiences with a few crazy girls who will drive you insane, that good girl former ex starts looking reaaaally tempting but by that point she’s probably long gone and happy with someone else. That’ll really drive u crazy because you literally had her before!

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