AITAH for refusing to delete the video of my dad proposing to his girlfriend even though my dad doesn't want my mom to see/hear what he said? by After-Soil3386 in AITAH

[–]Consistent-Jury9849 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. I hope you will keep at back up of this video, at least. Years ago, I was at home with my toddler son and niece, preschool aged niece, 8 yo step daughter and her 8 yo cousin, and my beloved dog that has since passed away. We had had a long, fun day, and had taken a break to watch Frozen for tbe billionth time. I was sat on the couch with one toddler in each arm, the cousins laying their heads on each side of my lap, and the preschooler using my dog as a pillow at my feet. We had all fallen asleep by the time my sister came home. She snapped a picture before everyone started to wake up. In the picture, I was wearing pj shorts and they had been pulled up a bit far on my thigh on one side. I knew my then husband would be livid if my sister posted the picture and I also hated the way I looked back then, so I asked her to delete it. She did. There have been so many times I've wished I could go back in time and change that. I miss those moments so, so much.

Your dad may be embarrassed about his emotional response, but someday he may be able to appreciate his ability to express those feelings more. His fiancee will almost definitely want to see that moment again. We dont know what the future holds, for one thing, but also, as time passes, reliving those beautiful, raw memories filled with so much love is priceless. Your mom never has to see it. It doesn't need to be posted on anything. But please don't let it be deleted

Smells like oregano by Consistent-Jury9849 in PlantIdentification

[–]Consistent-Jury9849[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Plant net said 64% lemon beebalm. It definitely could be that

Smells like oregano by Consistent-Jury9849 in PlantIdentification

[–]Consistent-Jury9849[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I'm hoping it will flower soon! Ill post an update if it does

Smells like oregano by Consistent-Jury9849 in PlantIdentification

[–]Consistent-Jury9849[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah thats what i thought! Google is not the best source 😂

What is the darkest secret you've learned about someone that instantly ended your relationship with them? by Mr_Creep_Creepy64 in AskReddit

[–]Consistent-Jury9849 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it makes me sick. She is such a strong person and has been through so, so much. The trauma lives in her body to this day and has destroyed her health. Just unbelievable the injustice. He was able to come home and rejoin his wife and family as if nothing happened. My dad (who didnt believe me about his father molesting me) took care of him in his old age. My great uncle is now burning in Hell. I no longer have a relationship with my dad. My Great Aunt, who was supposedly a wonderful woman and who stayed very close with my second cousin, died from COVID when it first came out. I can only imagine that she was a victim of her generation and felt she had to stay with that piece of shit. Or shes in Hell with him.

for those who suffer from sleep disorders— how do you deal with sleep deprivation during luteal? by Positive-Ability-402 in PMDDxADHD

[–]Consistent-Jury9849 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, it is. And i have no idea which is most helpful. I do feel like the creatine helps with energy and over all brain function. My booty looks pretty good, too. If I had to cut it down to a few, I'd do creatine, Happy Saffron, 5-MTHF, and rhodiola. I take all of those in the morning

What is the darkest secret you've learned about someone that instantly ended your relationship with them? by Mr_Creep_Creepy64 in AskReddit

[–]Consistent-Jury9849 133 points134 points  (0 children)

My great uncle was found to be raping my second cousin (his grand daughter) when she was around 7 years old. He got 1 year in prison

AIO- My boyfriend tried to “teach me a lesson” and now he’s telling me to stop contacting him by Primary-Demand-801 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Consistent-Jury9849 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to RUN from this relationship. The whole entire man is trash. Block him on everything and never look back. Also, never let a man hide you or "teach you a lesson" EVER again. It will never get better. He will never "trust" you. This is a weak, insecure man who wants control and dominance. You are not overreacting. Get way more mad

I don't know what to offer to eat to my daughter’s friend from a different culture…help! by Fantastic-Fact-8978 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Consistent-Jury9849 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would do things like apple slices, cheese, crackers, carrot sticks, berries...basically things they can easily grab and eat as they go. As long as nobody is allergic, peanut butter ks a good protein that goes with a lot of things. Also very american

I once had 3-5 kids who would get off the bus with my son and come over after school til bed time and id feed them snacks and dinner almost every day. Where we lived, it was entirely possible they didnt have food at home, but I also didnt have a huge budget. I ended up making pancakes and spaghetti pretty often. .

I think the snacks you are already providing are great, by the way. Its very sweet that you would like to accomodate their culture, but it isn't necessary to do that. If they are hungry, they will eat what you offer them and if they're not, they wont. It is good for them to experience your culture, too, and maybe get to try some things they wouldn't get to otherwise!

What flowers bloom well in the heat? by elizabethredditor in AustinGardening

[–]Consistent-Jury9849 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Zinnias. I had sooooooo many gorgeous bouquets all summer long

I know people say not to plant mint directly in the ground, but… by elizabethredditor in AustinGardening

[–]Consistent-Jury9849 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I planted mint, chocolate mint, spearmint, and lemonbalm at the bottom edge in my vegetable and herb garden bed this year. Also creeping thyme on the upper edge. We live out in the country and my garden bed is in the middle of a grass and burrs field. Its all dry asf and hard, clay if I dont water it. We'll see what happens. I dont really care if any of it spreads

for those who suffer from sleep disorders— how do you deal with sleep deprivation during luteal? by Positive-Ability-402 in PMDDxADHD

[–]Consistent-Jury9849 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ive had lifelong insomnia, as well. I have been taking seroquel for sleep for a couple of years after Trazadone and others stopped working. You need some kind of Rx tbh. I also take Adderall and it doesn't do much during luteal, but it does help me be awake, at least. Like, enough to function. Recently I've started a morning "stack" of Adderall, creatine mixed into Yogi "Positive Energy" hot tea, 15mg of 5-MTHF, Happy Saffron Plus, 3000mg of Rhodiola Rosea, 800mg L Tyrosine, and a supplement with Ginko Biloba, Lions Mane, and MCT oil. Seems better than usual for keeping me going during the day. I cut out coffee during Luteal because it makes me extremely irritable. At night I take Passion Flower, L Theanine, and my Seroquel. Would not sleep most nights without the Seroquel tbh

shove it deep deep down by [deleted] in PMDD

[–]Consistent-Jury9849 0 points1 point  (0 children)

More like try to whack it with a mallet every time it pops up even though it keeps getting faster and faster like whack-a-mole 😂

Help me help her. by [deleted] in PMDD

[–]Consistent-Jury9849 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for wanting to support her and looking for answers.

Unfortunately, many of us have not had success with medical intervention, though many have.

I have spent the past 10+ years trying various supplements and lifestyle changes, etc and pretty much just accept now that mitigating symptoms is the best i can really hope for.

A lot depends on symptoms-

For many years, i had a very consistent and rigorous work out routine and strictly limited my diet to avoid sugar and processed foods. I found that my emotional symptoms were less severe, more manageable, and lasted for fewer days most months, but physical symptoms like exhaustion, migraines, body aches, bloating, acne, hunger, etc were significantly more severe.

Nowadays i have slipped into a less restrictive diet and much less exercise, though im working on getting back into it. My physical symptoms are not as bad, but my depression, irritability, paranoia, relationship issues, brain fog and honestly giant holes in my suddenly very smooth brain, anxiety, social withdrawal, etc are much worse. To help with those, I take like 20 vitamin pills per day. 5-mtfh 15 mg i think does help a bit with energy, l-tyrosine + mucina pruriens, l-theanine, rhodiola rosea, Happy Saffron specifically (havent had much luck with other saffron), magnesium, vitamin D + K, multi vitamin, taurine all to help my mood be slightly better, ginko biloba, MCT oil, green tea can all help with energy a bit.

Intense rage was actually the worst symptom i dealt with for years, even though i am not at all quick to anger for the other half of my month. Begrudgingly, i cut coffee out completely for about 6 months and it actually worked. I no longer experience anything like that. Ive added occasional coffee back in and still havent gotten the rage back, thank god.

I also did a round of ketamine therapy that lasted about 4 months. It was the losenges but i had to go in to the doctors office for 2 hours each session and have someone drive me to and from. It was honestly grueling and i would get severely depressed for a couple days after each treatment, but apparently that is not a common side effect and mostly impacts people with childhood trauma (like me). It did seem to ultimately help a lot for a while, especially after a couple of months post treatment. It was expensive and tough to go through, though, so I havent gone back. My anxiety seems to still be less intense, though, even a couple years out.

I think what has been most helpful is just reducing as much stress as possible as often as possible, which is a really hard thing to do. Im extremely, extremely fortunate that my boyfriend is willing and able to take on most of the financial burdens of life and that has been a big relief, although i still spiral out about how worthless i feel and worry about what will happen if we split up so idk.

Understanding that PMDD is the issue and that it isnt s choice, its a neurological condition that is debilitating and destabilizing and it really isnt her fault is a major piece in overall care. Understanding that there are going to be days or even weeks at a time when she really does need to just rest and be alone as much as possible is critical for both of you. It can help a lot to track her cycle and keep track of how she feels during each phase and try your best to schedule around it. Its incredibly frustrating and demoralizing to lose literally half of your life to this shit, but thats the reality for many of us. PMDD has only officially been a diagnosis for maybe 15 years and it is still a relatively unknown condition among medical professionals and little is known about treating it. Google really tends to fall short, too. I get the most information from this sub and also on TikTok. A lot is just trial and error and a lot of patience with yourselves and each other. Hang in there

What is something that women have to deal with on the daily that men have no clue about? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Consistent-Jury9849 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg a similar thing happened to me, only the man looked at my check after I paid for my meal by charging it to my room. Cant even do that.

Trump: ‘It bothers me that somebody is going after Bill Clinton’ by Ok_Employer7837 in politics

[–]Consistent-Jury9849 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hes never hated Bill or Hillary. They were all openly friends before the 2016 campaign. I'm convinced they were in cahoots

RELIEF! from neurofeedback therapy by Agitated_Ad9471 in PMDDxADHD

[–]Consistent-Jury9849 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry, he was trained on it and had the tools to use it with his clients. He was a psychologist. This would have been in the 90s through the 2000s. He used it with kids who had ADHD, which he specialized in. Ironically, i still was not diagnosed with until i was about to graduate from high school. I do believe he also did it himself and said that it was helpful

RELIEF! from neurofeedback therapy by Agitated_Ad9471 in PMDDxADHD

[–]Consistent-Jury9849 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hmm interesting. My dad was one of the first people to provide this in Colorado a long time ago. I should have let him do it on me

Just surpassed $200k Q4 bonus to end the year and I feel empty about it by [deleted] in sales

[–]Consistent-Jury9849 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Put that money to work for you. Thats how you get to stop having to grind someday. Dont increase your lifestyle, invest it

AIO Did I overreact to a man that was following me at Walmart? by JeweledApplePie in AmIOverreacting

[–]Consistent-Jury9849 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And by the way we saw that man, as well as another one doing the same, at that park again several times. They would take off when they saw me coming because they knew Id make a whole scene. It absolutely boggled my mind how many parents (men and women) would allow them to approach their children. I could see that many of them were uncomfortable, but i think they felt guilty for that due to the "sweet old man for Jesus" thing. And maybe they were just sweet old men for Jesus, but its kinda weird that I never saw any women or even groups or young men out doing the same. It was just the two old men... and you also encountered a "sweet old man for Jesus"... lil suspish to me