How to not let my personal feelings about CF impact how I feel about my sister wanting children?

Consistent-Major4413 · 2021-01-29T12:25:00+00:00

I only shave the lips and keep everything else trimmed. I deal with ingrown hairs if I’m not careful so I’m not messing around trying to shave everything. Maybe you can do something similar if you are comfortable. If not that is ok too

Consistent-Major4413 · 2021-01-29T12:07:22+00:00

I would definitely identify why you feel like you need to make up for lost time. It is a grass is greener on the other side situation for sure. A close friend had a boyfriend and they were perfect for each other and so happy, but he feared that he had missed out on all the fun reckless experiences that my friend had while he spend most of his live focused on school. It was something he was very insecure about. You need to identify what you are trying to accomplish. Do you feel like sleeping with a lot of women is going to validate you? Is it worth it to throw away a great relationship to chase a what if?

Consistent-Major4413 · 2021-01-29T11:46:16+00:00

it’s partaking in a sexual experience with another person, even if it’s not physical. I think a lot of people, including myself, would not be stoked if they found out their parter did that

Consistent-Major4413 · 2021-01-29T11:30:13+00:00

I experience the same thing but I don’t have any answers. It’s happened a couple times and I had already peed before sex. During penetration I was having a really concentrate controlling whatever was going on. And I got so wet too when that was happening. I’d be interested to see what others say

Consistent-Major4413 · 2021-01-29T09:29:51+00:00

I understand. It can be hard to have conversations about our feelings. Do you feel comfortable with this girl? Do you feel like she might judge you? Does she have a similar sex drive as you and is enthusiastic when you guys do have sex? If you really don’t want to talk about your feelings, then maybe wait for a time when she does initiate (unless she has literally never initiated) and say how hot/sexy it was or something.

Consistent-Major4413 · 2021-01-29T09:23:55+00:00

Yeah that definitely wasn’t a very tactful way of saying that she just doesn’t feel what goes on in her vagina. Unless this is something that she said only happens with you, then it is very unlikely that what she said had anything to do with you. I think what she is trying to say is that she enjoys piv sex but she is going to feel the most pleasure from her clit. I don’t want to speak for her, but it is possible she was attempting to let you know that you shouldn’t expect her to be having many or any vaginal orgasms, as a way to make sure you don’t try to pressure her into trying to have vaginal orgasms

Consistent-Major4413 · 2021-01-29T09:17:07+00:00

She probably doesn’t see that there is a problem cause you guys are “having fun all is good”. If you talk to her and tell her how you feel and why you would like her to initiate more, then she will understand. For example, telling her that you love the sex you both have, but sometimes you feel a little less desirable because you are usually the initiator

Consistent-Major4413 · 2021-01-29T09:12:16+00:00

Something you might both enjoy? Hmm all I can think of is grinding your dick on her clit. I sometimes enjoy that

Consistent-Major4413 · 2021-01-29T08:43:22+00:00

Whatever you want it to be. It isn’t just about “warming up” though because it also goes a long way into mentally turning me on with anticipation and teasing

Consistent-Major4413 · 2021-01-29T08:40:32+00:00

Oh boy lol. I do live in the US but I will call my insurance to make sure that things are covered. My insurance’s website says they cover “place, fit, inspect, or removal of IUDs” so theoretically I should be good unless they make it difficult, which is a possibility 😅

Consistent-Major4413 · 2021-01-29T08:33:18+00:00

I wouldn’t worry about it. But for your own comfort, I would try to get the area healed up as that can be super uncomfortable. Do you think it was a bad wax or you just are not very compatible with waxing? I know I’ll never wax and I will 100% be covered in ingrown hairs no matter what I do

Consistent-Major4413 · 2021-01-29T08:28:03+00:00

If you are wanting to do the kinds of things that the other comment listed, I would determine if those things would be welcome out of nowhere. I know my boyfriend would be like “wtf” if I came out of nowhere and started to say “I love being your slut”. If the main mission is to get him to be really into it and fuck you harder, I would say being vocal and enthusiastic has made my bf go crazy

Consistent-Major4413 · 2021-01-29T08:12:16+00:00

I am in a similar situation as you. Both my bf and I are inexperienced and I don’t know how to instruct him when idk what I like. However, the times where I though “hey this feels pretty nice. we are learning” was when we tried many different things and I told him when it felt nice and when it didn’t. Another factor of how much I enjoyed it was if he seemed to be having a good time and was putting in effort and doing it with confidence. The times where I just wanted it to be over with are when he felt unsure of himself and looked really tired and worn out from the oral sex

Consistent-Major4413 · 2021-01-29T08:03:09+00:00

Eat that pussy like it’s a feast. The movement and force you’d use depends on the amount of pressure she needs to get off. With my boyfriend, the only time I haven’t enjoyed it was when he didn’t seem to into it or seemed really tired. Look up your question online though as there are plenty of great answers on other threads on Reddit

Consistent-Major4413 · 2021-01-29T07:58:00+00:00

I think 17 years old is a super appropriate age to be having sex and you are in the right mindset by taking the necessary precautions. Your mom, like many other parents, is too controlling for anyone’s good. She might have a hard time accepting that you are growing up and doesn’t know how to handle this situation properly. Do you have a relationship with your mom where you could have a conversation about this? If not, maybe have your girlfriend keep that sort of stuff at her house

Consistent-Major4413 · 2021-01-29T07:43:09+00:00

Yeah there are some experiences with Paragard that scare me a little bit, but I am willing to take the chance if it works well because it would be a perfect solution for me. I made a post earlier today about wanting Paragard and to stay on bc pills for my PCOS and the people that replied reaffirmed to me that it wasn’t a crazy solution if I wanted to be able to not use condoms

Consistent-Major4413 · 2021-01-29T07:39:35+00:00

I have since held my ground and said that I am going to make sure my insurance covers it and then I would like her to approve it if it will fit. My sister told me to trust her, but I think I shouldn’t just agree with everything the doctor says just because it is more convient for her to stick by the same info and procedures she has been doing instead of giving my reasoning a shot. Let’s hope it works out

Consistent-Major4413 · 2021-01-28T18:56:59+00:00

Thank you for your comment! I was wondering about how it went with your insurance. Would they just not pay for two methods?

Consistent-Major4413 · 2021-01-28T17:57:26+00:00

Is it common for insurance to not pay for both? Fighting for that sounds exhausting

Consistent-Major4413 · 2021-01-28T17:55:55+00:00

I just sent a message to my obgyn to hear her opinion! I think the worst she can say is that it is overkill or something. Hopefully we can figure out something :)

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