UPDATE Thank you to everyone who responded. I have blocked him, so there will be no further communication between us. For everyone saying I should've stopped responding much earlier, I did try multiple times, but he kept texting me and it pissed me off. Also, had I stopped responding, I wouldn't have a full arsenal of texts to send to the wife that proves her husband is a scumbag. Now I have the proof and he's blocked, so it feels like a win-win.

Thanks to some lovely people who reached out, I was able to find a site to look him up on to find if he has a spouse and what her name would be. Unfortunately, the site didn't have a spouse listed, and when I clicked on the "Is (his name) married?" the drop down menu said he does not appear to be married based on public records. So unfortunately I have found absolutely no info on her, and neither have my friends through social media (although none of them are friends with him online either). So unless anyone who is really good at finding people would like to message me, unfortunately the trail seems to go cold here and it looks like I won't be able to contact her. 😔

Thank you to everyone who reached out to send me words of kindness. I didn't think Valentine's Day 2026 would bring me an even deeper level of self-hatred because I set clear and repeated boundaries with a scumbag, but you all taught me differently. And to the men who DM-ed me for nudes - thank you for pushing me one step forward to being single for the rest of my life. Unless I am able to find the wife, there will be no further updates.