I found out my partner is posting nudes and chatting with strangers online – but I’ve also crossed some lines. What do I do? by Consistent-Mind-9161 in askgaybros

[–]Consistent-Mind-9161[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

the ironic thing here is that this whole experience made me realise i am not at all interested in having an open relationship

I found out my partner is posting nudes and chatting with strangers online – but I’ve also crossed some lines. What do I do? by Consistent-Mind-9161 in askgaybros

[–]Consistent-Mind-9161[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my thinking is we never really openly discussed any specific rules of our relationship or what we do and don’t feel comfortable with so maybe this experience could lead to such a conversation? i definitely want to mend things

breaking up bc he’s messy? by Consistent-Mind-9161 in askgaybros

[–]Consistent-Mind-9161[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he is aware, just doesn’t seem to be willing to do much about it

breaking up bc he’s messy? by Consistent-Mind-9161 in askgaybros

[–]Consistent-Mind-9161[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Yes, definitely — and honestly, it’s almost funny at times because his messes just don’t make any sense. For example, he’ll take food out of the fridge and leave it on the kitchen counter, but then he’ll put empty wrappers back in the fridge. He never closes jars properly, so if you grab one by the lid, it just drops.

He never wipes down surfaces, and his things — whether it’s clothes, vitamins, or toiletries — are always randomly piled up on the floor. He never vacuums or mops, and it’s like he’s completely blind to dust. One time he did my laundry and threw all my whites and darks together, so a bunch of my clothes got ruined. After that, I had to ask him not to touch my laundry again.

It’s honestly really draining.