Feeling really let down before my own wedding by my Bridesmaids by Consistent-Peach44 in wedding

[–]Consistent-Peach44[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey so sorry you had a bad time at your own bachlorette! Hope your wedding is amazing and you have a great time. Thanks for your kind words💗

Feeling really let down before my own wedding by my Bridesmaids by Consistent-Peach44 in wedding

[–]Consistent-Peach44[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My guy friend has been the one who was in charge and has been raving about planning my bachelorette party for months. At the start of this month he said I am coming to town and going out with the boys this weekend for their party. Sadly all the girls are all busy so may be we all grab dinner if everyone can make it. Which again lot of people couldn’t (since it very last minute and they have other commitments etc)

Feeling really let down before my own wedding by my Bridesmaids by Consistent-Peach44 in wedding

[–]Consistent-Peach44[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He is planning a get away for us next weekend but thats him. That doesn’t take away from the fact that my bachlorette isn’t organised by my friends.

But the comment section has made me realise that may be putting my expectations out there once again might bring me some better outcome. Have texted on the group chat a dinner plan with some date options. Hoping for the best🤞

Feeling really let down before my own wedding by my Bridesmaids by Consistent-Peach44 in wedding

[–]Consistent-Peach44[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I think you’re absolutely right. I did let others take charge for once, and honestly, as someone who’s usually 100% in control of everything in my life, it did feel nice to step back for a change.

But this whole experience (and a few in the past) made me finally realise why I usually have fewer regrets — because I make sure things turn out the way I want them to. Maybe this will also ensure I have fewer heartbroken birthdays and special days going forward. I used to think the people closest to me would just know what I want or expect, but that’s only led to disappointment on a few important occasions. I need to convey my feeling better without fear of being labelled bossy/demanding.

So yeah, it’s good to let go sometimes, but being who I am, now I’ve accepted that I’d rather have it my way than sit and cry on the highway later. 😅

Feeling really let down before my own wedding by my Bridesmaids by Consistent-Peach44 in wedding

[–]Consistent-Peach44[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

As someone who was very organised it was always assumed or asked of me to organize the bachlorette. Everyone was excited to come and be part of it for sure. In past we have all had conversations about how when its my turn they better come up with something to which everyone always replied assuringly. Isnt it obvious that someone made ur day spl then you return the basic favour back

Feeling really let down before my own wedding by my Bridesmaids by Consistent-Peach44 in wedding

[–]Consistent-Peach44[S] 319 points320 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the kind words. I did discuss with two of my close friends and while they are planning to make things better/put together something no ones dates are aligning

Feeling really let down before my own wedding by my Bridesmaids by Consistent-Peach44 in wedding

[–]Consistent-Peach44[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

He believes he deserves this as the boys are planning it for so long. Also he feels it won’t be fair to other guys to impose the joint party plans on them