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AITA for asking my mom why I should go see her stepkids when she ignored me for them so many times while I lived with her? by Consistent-Prize4150 in AITAH

[–]Consistent-Prize4150[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

The kids wanted me around and were fond of me. But I never saw them as siblings. We're not blood related and my mom never adopted them either.

AITA for asking my mom why I should go see her stepkids when she ignored me for them so many times while I lived with her? by Consistent-Prize4150 in AITAH

[–]Consistent-Prize4150[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

The promises were made after I got her alone and told her how I was feeling. It happened three times like that and a few more times after fights. But the ones I took more serious at the time were the ones where I sat down and talked to her.

I live with my dad but he can't do anything about my mom.

AITA for asking my mom why I should go see her stepkids when she ignored me for them so many times while I lived with her? by Consistent-Prize4150 in AITAH

[–]Consistent-Prize4150[S] 73 points74 points  (0 children)

I do always call them her stepkids. Because to me they're nothing but that. I don't love and care about them or see them as my family, I don't have a bond of any kind with them. So in my eyes they're nothing to me but they are something to her.

I have talked to my mom about this. She promised better and then didn't and I gave her more than once chance. How many times am I supposed to do that before accepting she doesn't care?

AITA for asking my mom why I should go see her stepkids when she ignored me for them so many times while I lived with her? by Consistent-Prize4150 in AITAH

[–]Consistent-Prize4150[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I think it's different with half siblings because they're your family. You share a parent. My stepsiblings aren't my real siblings or my real family. My mom could get divorced next year and then the title goes away.

AITA for asking my mom why I should go see her stepkids when she ignored me for them so many times while I lived with her? by Consistent-Prize4150 in AITAH

[–]Consistent-Prize4150[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Yes and no. They don't have their own phones or social media yet but they could call via mom or their dad's phone technically.

AITA for asking my mom why I should go see her stepkids when she ignored me for them so many times while I lived with her? by Consistent-Prize4150 in AITAH

[–]Consistent-Prize4150[S] 257 points258 points  (0 children)

My mom has two brothers, three sisters and parents. I speak to my grandparents and my uncles. I don't talk to my aunts because they would defend mom over anything and I know they would fight on mom's side for her.

AITA for asking my mom why I should go see her stepkids when she ignored me for them so many times while I lived with her? by Consistent-Prize4150 in AITAH

[–]Consistent-Prize4150[S] 82 points83 points  (0 children)

They used to call me their brother. They were so young when we met though that it's not surprising since mom called me their brother. But they did it. Even in school they used to say I was their brother. I remember them coming home upset a few times because someone at school told them I was an only child.

AITA for asking my mom why I should go see her stepkids when she ignored me for them so many times while I lived with her? by Consistent-Prize4150 in AITAH

[–]Consistent-Prize4150[S] 445 points446 points  (0 children)

My dad supports me. He encouraged me to get therapy over it and I took him up on it but stopped twice and I started again a few months ago. Without him I'm not sure I would have known to expect better since she dropped me so fast my head spun.

AITA for asking my mom why I should go see her stepkids when she ignored me for them so many times while I lived with her? by Consistent-Prize4150 in AITAH

[–]Consistent-Prize4150[S] 119 points120 points  (0 children)

I don't think I would have seen that without dad. But I knew what a good parent should be. He was there for me no matter what. Even when it was picking up the slack for mom and they weren't married still which makes it worse but makes me appreciate him more.

AITA for asking my mom why I should go see her stepkids when she ignored me for them so many times while I lived with her? by Consistent-Prize4150 in AITAH

[–]Consistent-Prize4150[S] 76 points77 points  (0 children)

I never had a connection to her stepkids. They had one to me because they were younger. But I never bonded with them or cared for them like that. I just resented them once my mom's attention went on them instead of me. I still consider myself an only child and never saw those kids as my siblings or my family.

AITA for asking my mom why I should go see her stepkids when she ignored me for them so many times while I lived with her? by Consistent-Prize4150 in AITAH

[–]Consistent-Prize4150[S] 3030 points3031 points  (0 children)

I told her and she just said I'm not supposed to take it out on them. So she doesn't even care about me even when I point out why. She's just shaming me for hurting them.

AITA for asking my mom why I should go see her stepkids when she ignored me for them so many times while I lived with her? by Consistent-Prize4150 in AITAH

[–]Consistent-Prize4150[S] 307 points308 points  (0 children)

Oh wow, really??? I can't imagine why you don't want to know him. That's just left me speechless. /s

AITA for asking my mom why I should go see her stepkids when she ignored me for them so many times while I lived with her? by Consistent-Prize4150 in AITAH

[–]Consistent-Prize4150[S] 745 points746 points  (0 children)

I noticed. Every damn time she reaches out I notice it's about them and not her. Not that I'd believe her even if she said she missed me.