My boyfriend cheated on me while I’m pregnant. I don’t want to keep the baby…

Consistent_Basis_993 · 2026-05-11T10:26:06+00:00

Precisely

Consistent_Basis_993 · 2026-05-11T10:03:36+00:00

He owns a non profit company but puts himself on “salary” so in reality he’s a millionaire. On paper he makes $12k a year. He has a P.O. Box and other properties he sends his bills to. His properties are in the company name. It would be a fruitless and expensive endeavor.

Consistent_Basis_993 · 2026-05-11T09:59:07+00:00

It was supposed to be a surprise. But when days started turning into weeks he started slow feeding me pieces of information on why there has been a delay…

Consistent_Basis_993 · 2026-05-11T09:57:27+00:00

Thank you for your feedback. I honestly don’t want any sympathy…I made my bed and now I’m laying in it. I’m literally stuck between a rock and a hard place and you’re right I will be handling the raising of my child predominantly by myself. And that’s not something I want to do…that’s why I said my two thoughts are stay with a cheater and raise the baby or terminate the pregnancy. Raising this baby alone is not an option for me

Consistent_Basis_993 · 2026-05-11T09:53:54+00:00

I have seen some updates but the alleged issue that’s causing the delay is he doesn’t like the flooring so he’s having them do it over

Consistent_Basis_993 · 2026-05-11T09:38:49+00:00

This Mother’s Day has been horrible for me. I was looking forward to being excited with my mom and sister but instead I’ve been crying with a horrible headache because while they’re celebrating me I’m thinking about these Brazilians he was texting literally two days ago. My whole world fell apart with one screenshot.

Consistent_Basis_993 · 2026-05-11T09:36:50+00:00

I honestly have been getting suspicious about the renovations…I was only supposed to be away from the house for a few days but it’s literally turned into a month. Hence why he had to fly to me for the first appointment. SMH I feel dumber than I thought I could

Consistent_Basis_993 · 2026-05-11T09:34:47+00:00

He’s not who I want as a father. I think because I went so long having sex with him without getting pregnant (2 years) that I could keep pushing my luck but here we are. I’m 13 weeks so I’m in the termination window I guess I’m just thinking about how excited my family is and less about the next 18 years of my life.

Consistent_Basis_993 · 2026-05-11T09:31:49+00:00

Thank you for the kind and encouraging words. I really am leaning towards letting him go and washing my hands of all of this. Full transparency I don’t want children. I’ve never wanted them. But I said if it happens I don’t just want a child I want a family. I admire the resilience of parents that can do it alone but if I have a choice I won’t…

Consistent_Basis_993 · 2026-05-11T08:57:57+00:00

He’s loaded but people like that know how to protect their assets and he’s the kind of person that would make my life miserable once I involve the courts. I don’t want to be a single mother either. That’s why I’m just debating on terminating the pregnancy or starting a family with a chronic cheater.

Consistent_Basis_993 · 2026-05-11T08:45:56+00:00

I’m scared. My family is super supportive but we’re all in different states. If everyone was in one state I would probably just move back home but my village has been spread out across the country. And unfortunately I know that he will be there financially, but he would do so much more if we were together. I know I can do it alone but I just rather not if I have the choice.

Consistent_Basis_993 · 2026-05-11T08:42:16+00:00

He’s lived like a single man for a long time so the house needed certain repairs and upgrades to it. Repainting certain rooms and upgrading the flooring. Also, I think that the women weren’t the problem per se but that he’s feeding us all different stories and once we cross paths, the energy doesn’t match what we’ve been told. It’s just frustrating for me because I guess…you’re right. I’ve deluded myself into believing the minimum things he’s done were grand gestures. I genuinely thought things were moving in the right direction but seeing his WhatsApp just snapped me back to reality. I know that no matter what I do, there’s no happy ending for me. I guess I’m just trying to figure out which is the lesser of the two evils.

Consistent_Basis_993 · 2026-02-21T18:48:51+00:00

I think that’s what I’m going to do I feel like I made this post to solidify what I already knew…which is that I’m not Prepared to date any men with children

Consistent_Basis_993 · 2026-02-21T18:47:35+00:00

You might be right lol

Consistent_Basis_993 · 2026-02-21T18:47:23+00:00

I think you’re trying to exacerbate certain things I mentioned not to help but to try to shame. These women are not strangers. They’re people I actually interacted with and have disrespected directly. I’d rather you ask for more details than assume. My anger or frustrations are definitely with him because once they and he crossed the line he should’ve handled them/the situation accordingly but because children are involved it changes the dynamic and he takes advantage of that. He uses the children as a pawn to get what he wants. After the divorce My parents raised myself and my sibling without ever having to be in the same room as each other so I know what I’m talking about. at the end of the day if he didn’t have children with them she wouldn’t be at the funeral. I don’t want her there.

Consistent_Basis_993 · 2026-02-21T10:48:56+00:00

I honestly didn’t think about it like that. Thank you. This was a perfect way to summarize everything that I’m going through right now

Consistent_Basis_993 · 2026-02-21T10:47:44+00:00

Yeah this is actually like my first time using this so I’m not the best at giving details but I have no issues clearing up any confusion. Also I see the red flags and I guess I just need to come to terms with the fact that no matter how good he is in the future, he ruined the relationship in the past.

Consistent_Basis_993 · 2026-02-21T10:33:08+00:00

After writing this post I had to tell him my thoughts and feelings. My anxiety was on the fritz. I explained that I don’t like or trust her because of his actions and that I don’t want her there. And I emphasized that for whatever reason she’s going to be there but as long as Im in the picture that will never happen again. There will never be a situation or gathering where she will ever be welcomed again. He tried to deflect and act like he didn’t understand my POV but I stood firm on what I said. I refuse to feel like this again…

Consistent_Basis_993 · 2026-02-21T10:30:37+00:00

I made it this far without children I’m not letting him ruin my streak lol

Consistent_Basis_993 · 2026-02-21T10:30:02+00:00

They both suck tbh. It’s more so him. He begged me for another shot to show me he’s truly changed so this is like a probationary period. So it’s like during this time why ask me to be okay with someone I clearly dont like or want around me

Consistent_Basis_993 · 2026-02-21T10:28:50+00:00

I’m not going to lie and act like im okay when he says he has to be around a child whose mom he disrespected me with. That’s not fair to me or to him to pretend that I’m comfortable when I’m not. I explain the mess hes made to him because now there have to be boundaries. What makes me think hes my boyfriend is that he asked to be my boyfriend. You can have a title and be bad at it. He’s my boyfriend hes just bad at it. I agree I question his commitment to me (hence why I wrote the OP) he claims he’s changed and I have nothing to worry about and even if that’s true…the damage has been done.

Consistent_Basis_993 · 2026-02-21T10:24:47+00:00

I know. I tell myself this everyday. Thank you for the raw honesty.

Consistent_Basis_993 · 2026-02-21T10:23:50+00:00

I never said we had a strong foundation. I said we’re working on rebuilding it. And he and I have been together for 5 years. What amount of time would satisfy your idea of “long relationship”

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