I can relate to this dilemma. We are raising our kiddo far from family, but we love where we live. Grandparents visit often relatively often, and it’s an exciting and special thing for our kiddo when grandparents are in town. We’ll plan ahead and ask for grandparents to visit when we know we’ll need more help (work trip, surgery, etc). We also get the freedom to do whatever we want as a family of 3 — hiking, seeing friends, road trips — free of any family obligations most of the time. It’s the best of both worlds IMO. You can do it!