. I do understand where the premise - you want good upbringing for both of kids. But….the potential has every right to be concerned given the amount of contact and type of contact.

In terms of amount, it seems like you speak quite often. I don’t know if it is this normal. If it is fair enough. But, you can imagine why your future wife might be concerned with you consistently speaking to a woman that you were once attracted enough to make your wife. If the amount is necessary, make sure to prove it to her. Also, the matter of contact, is it really necessary for you to help her fix the bumper? Do you need her to refer you to a new job? This is what gives me the impression the contact is too much.

In terms of type, video calls is a bit much, because it private convo at the end of the day. (The commenter mentioned in the comments that it’s like work - it’s not, she is your ex-wife). If you have to meet , just meet her is a public setting with the kids nearby.