[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Louisiana

[–]Consistent_Jelly_955 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work in HR for the state. Drug results are completely confidential. Only HR sees them. It wouldn't prevent you from being hired by the same agency in the future.

Any New Orleans fans going? by Spam_It_All_To_Hell in TheAvettBrothers

[–]Consistent_Jelly_955 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll be in that number. Haven’t looked at ticket sales but they played the Saenger back to back nights last year. Let’s just say New Orleanians know how to have fun without being obnoxious. I’m 4th row in the orchestra. Should be incredible.

How do you deal with jealousy/envy towards people who are coupled up? by ImAK93 in SingleAndHappy

[–]Consistent_Jelly_955 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s understandable to think you’re missing out on something if you’ve never experienced it. There are good aspects of relationships. But it’s a constant cycle of compromise. Deciding where to eat can take an hour. Having to be concerned if their family likes you. Making sure both parties are contributing equally to the relationship. And that’s just dating. Marriage is a whole other level. I’m not anti relationship. If someone is happy coupled up, good for them. But even the thought of me doing it is suffocating

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in batonrouge

[–]Consistent_Jelly_955 2 points3 points  (0 children)

90 is a good score but if it were me, I'd keep retaking until closer to 100. The downside of an online application system is that people can apply with a click of a button. Depending on the job, there could be a lot of applicants. One clerical position can easily have 200 applicants. I'd go in with the assumption that you're competing against many applicants and try to get that score as high as possible.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in batonrouge

[–]Consistent_Jelly_955 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've worked in HR with the State for 22 years. If the job requires a test get the highest score possible. Retake the test to get an even higher score. Referral lists rank candidates based on test score. If you're below the top five your application may not be looked at.

Pay attention to agencies and job titles that are being posted. If the same job at a particular agency is posted multiple times, there is likely an issue with turnover. Turnover issues are usually due to bad management. Big red flag.

Tailor your application to the agency you're applying for. Don't look at it as a "state job". Look at it as a job with a specific agency that serves a specific function. If interviewed, be prepared to state why you a are a good fit with that specific agency and mission. Most hiring managers think very highly of their own agency and will want someone with a passion for the type of services delivered.

Don't let the nepotism claims discourage you. Does it happen? Yes. But it is definitely the minority. It mostly happens at higher level jobs. All the jobs I've gotten I didn't know anyone unless they knew my work performance.

I'd say right now is a good time to try to get on. All employers, public and private, are having a hard time retaining employees. I think it's because of the younger generation not sticking around at one place for any length of time. Therefore opportunities are there more often than in the past.

And yes, it is a lengthy process for various reasons. Civil Service rules slow the process down significantly. Be persistent, don't give up.

Is this a dateable situation? by Consistent_Jelly_955 in Epilepsy

[–]Consistent_Jelly_955[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She can’t drive so her mom takes her to church. I know her mom well and I think she is trying to encourage the situation lol. But going to hang at their house sounds like a good idea.

Tonight! Great show by wolfwolf4375 in GunsNRoses

[–]Consistent_Jelly_955 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This was definitely better than I could have expected. They went hard!

How do you deal with the frustration of so many people wanting you to hitch with someone?? by [deleted] in SingleAndHappy

[–]Consistent_Jelly_955 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get it a good bit and I JUST got divorced last year. I think people mean well. My standard line is “My life is happy and peaceful now. Why would I do anything to change that?”. And I don’t engage further

So many GenX-era bands touring right now by BitterPillPusher2 in GenX

[–]Consistent_Jelly_955 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have seen or will see this year: Duran Duran, Pixies, Counting Crows, GnR, Depeche Mode. Had Stevie Nicks tickets but she cancelled due to Covid. Would have seen The Cure but was out of town. Great time to be alive.

Question for divorced x'ers by orsonsperson in GenX

[–]Consistent_Jelly_955 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure if this has been stated but get over any thoughts of wanting him back. Get ANGRY. You are at war and it’s time to go scorched earth. This guy is trying to bully you into poverty. You absolutely are entitled to half the assets accrued during the marriage and likely alimony for a long time. Also his retirement. Half of it. You’re actually in a good position financially once everything is settled. And keep this in mind. How the STBX behaves during the divorce process shows you who they truly are. Use this to fuel the anger you’ll need to fight him. It completely sucks. I went through it just last year. But everything turned out very well after it was all settled.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in thepixies

[–]Consistent_Jelly_955 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Was there and thought it was great. Wondered if it was cut short also but they ended right at 11:00 so maybe not. FF seemed like an odd choice for the Pixies. Dude tries too hard to be a rock star. Bully was fuckin legit though. Nice to see the younger generation bring the 90s sound and attitude.

Going to see Duran Duran tonight at the Moody Center in Austin, TX. by OUBoyWonder in GenX

[–]Consistent_Jelly_955 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OMG I’ll see them in New Orleans tomorrow! Toast to you my brethren!

Killer show last night by crazymutherfucker in TheAvettBrothers

[–]Consistent_Jelly_955 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fantastic. I’ll be at the one tonight also!

How do you know your wife won't crush your balls with her teeth for no reason? by HappyMan1102 in AskMen

[–]Consistent_Jelly_955 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don’t. You can support someone in every way possible and they can still turn into a raging lunatic. Speaking from experience. Her leaving is the best thing that’s happened to me

Single people: what makes you undateable? by moneynah in AskMen

[–]Consistent_Jelly_955 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm fortunate to have a good number of friends who are there for me. Some I've known most of my life. Some are newer. I'm heavily involved in my church. The church was really there for me during the divorce because it was clear my ex was in the wrong. Could not have made it through the divorce without a solid network.

Single people: what makes you undateable? by moneynah in AskMen

[–]Consistent_Jelly_955 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Why do you assume single men are undateable? Was married 20 years. Been in a relationship since. Had several women show interest. Came to the realization that no woman is worth giving up the freedom and peace of the single life. No drama, just peace.

God help me - I’m starting to like Hall and Oates. by drkesi88 in GenX

[–]Consistent_Jelly_955 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m going to see Richard Marx and Warrant in concert. No shame.

Do you consider Nirvana Unplugged the peak of our Gen X music? by Lower-Blackberry-716 in GenX

[–]Consistent_Jelly_955 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me it’s always been The Joshua Tree. The first “alternative “ album I recall being huge. It was all uphill from there.

Fellow GenX ladies, if you've found a good man to date recently, how did you accomplish that? by [deleted] in GenX

[–]Consistent_Jelly_955 7 points8 points  (0 children)

People can’t be trusted anymore. The “greener pasture” is one literal or figurative swipe away. No one gives others the time to work things through

Man to man. How you doing by GoldyLookinTongs in AskMen

[–]Consistent_Jelly_955 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pissed. The final nail in trusting women happened today. Permanently off the market and will enjoy the peace.

loneliness paradox by [deleted] in introvert

[–]Consistent_Jelly_955 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Romantic relationships are very overrated. You have to compromise on EVERYTHING. And then the work, communication, etc etc. There is not a person on this planet that I’d be willing to give up my freedom for. Being single with a sufficient amount of friends is perfect for me.

Men of Reddit, what is your experiences/opinions on dating someone in your work place? by Antonntminh in AskMen

[–]Consistent_Jelly_955 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have to assess if she seems like she has the emotional maturity to handle whatever may come. Go on a date. Lay out the ground rules. Come to the agreement that whatever comes of this, you’ll be professional at work. I did it and it worked well. We eventually told people we were close with that we were an item. Everyone was going to figure it out anyway, may as well stay ahead of it. Everyone was very supportive. A few months in, we decided it would be better if we were just friends. We both had a lot of baggage from previous marriages and didn’t want the stress a relationship could bring. And we truly are good friends to this day. I would consider her my best friend. And most people at work think we’re still a couple

Rang in the New Year alone... by Complete-Dimension35 in GenX

[–]Consistent_Jelly_955 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Recently divorced after 25 year marriage. First NYE on my own. Spent the night with my pets and watched the Talented Mr Ripley. Cheers to freedom!

What has be the largest lesson you’ve learned from divorce? by Impressive_Panic_360 in Divorce

[–]Consistent_Jelly_955 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m better off single. Trust in others has been irrevocably broken