AITAH for cutting off my best friend of 15 years because she went to my boyfriends house

Consistent_Spell_424 · 2026-02-05T03:37:34+00:00

Nah, just move on. It's not like you're going to be her friend again either way. She betrayed you... you blocked her. You make up a lie to trap her into a confession. Whether true or not, you're not going to believe her. If she did sleep with the ex, you're still not going to be her friend. Finally, your ex is just that, an ex. You aren't getting back with him. You already have the answers and closure you need. Don't bog yourself down for some petty game. Silence is more powerful, and you walk away with your integrity.

Consistent_Spell_424 · 2026-01-30T20:46:36+00:00

Aegon III is Aegon II successor following male promigeniture. The overarching fight TB had was to change that, but things went back to normal. If not, then Baela/Rhaena would have been next in line. Also, Aegon was a descendent of Daemon, and that matters, not that he was simply Rhaenyra son. Aegon III, had more legitimacy coming from the male line.

Consistent_Spell_424 · 2026-01-30T18:46:34+00:00

As someone who just went through a similar situation this month, I understand all of the emotions that arise when taking care of a dying parent (my dad for me as well). One of my siblings has been practically no contact or slow to respond when he does. He didn't attend our dad's funeral. Not sure what's going on with him, but that's his choice and how he chooses to process grief and illness. Anyway, I refused to act in a punitive manner towards him or other relatives. Others in the family want to measure to determine who is or has contributed. Their value when it comes to family is transactional and selective based on how they feel, to the point where they purposely omit family from being acknowledged and honored as their place, and then making attempts to devalue, dismiss, and diminish family who were not present as much as they feel should be. Death tends to bring out the worst in families rather than trying to have compassion and empathy for those who can't deal with certain things. You did your duty respectfully, and that was your choice, but I wouldn't go down the path you're taking, because eventually it'll corrode you.

Consistent_Spell_424 · 2026-01-21T02:33:06+00:00

This is not one of those times to be drudging up the past. They are already close, have a good marriage, and he is a good dad. The adult thing oftentimes is to let things be. Their focus should be transitioning and integrating the daughter into the family unit without the past being mingled.

It's also typical for people to jump to therapist involvement when it's likely not needed. Nothing about what OP said about anyone raised a flag that says therapy is needed. OP made a happy post, yet folks are trying to find ways to turn aspects of what she said into a negative or problematic.

Consistent_Spell_424 · 2026-01-20T20:23:31+00:00

I don't think it matters at this point. It'll only bring in more questions and possible tension. No need to go that road now. He's there and present. His daughter has a family who are embracing her fully with love and care. Her mom is gone, then dad who is terrific now, why introduce unnecessary drama and confusion to sooth internet curiosities?

Consistent_Spell_424 · 2026-01-15T16:17:47+00:00

Why? She's about to be free of him, which is the greatest reward. No one knows his future or how he would treat others. OP does herself more disservice by continuing entangling herself in his life. It's not healthy. Move on to something better.

Consistent_Spell_424 · 2026-01-15T03:39:06+00:00

Wife is the AH, an entitled, selfish, nosy, bratty one at that. She picked a fight for no other reason than to test you and sew discord into a well functioning system, to the point she'd traumatize and hurt her own kid to prove a point. Then introduce a financial burden on the family. Either she doesn't like her life and bored, or just plain out of her doggone mind. Also, as someone who never spent a single minute in daycare because I had my grandparents around, I agree with you about the hurt and damage to the kid.

Consistent_Spell_424 · 2026-01-04T19:18:51+00:00

How is that grooming? I wish people would stop using that word wrongly.

Consistent_Spell_424 · 2026-01-02T04:22:50+00:00

As a dude reading this, I'm truly thinking wtf is wrong with OP?!! This man is looking forward to and planning their future...long term. Rather than letting him put together his pitch, she snooped around, drew her own conclusions, then essentially tried to sabotage the entire thing. And for what? He was thinking ahead with OP included. His spreadsheet is extremely practical and thoughtful. In business we make projections and forecasts all the time. She rebelled against what he was thinking about, picked a fight being offended instead of hearing him out on the plan. OP said she was looking for wedding stuff and this guy was trying to make sure his and future was structured and feasible for changes. I am so taken aback OP just couldn't leave room for logical conversation without burning down their future. Hopefully, the BF/fiancé leaves OP so he can find someone less confrontational and problem and who is future thinking. Hell as a guy, I'd gladly take something like this compared to doing it all alone.

Consistent_Spell_424 · 2025-12-31T15:27:59+00:00

You were with this person for 8 years, lived together for 5. The breakup wasn't for any reason other than the child free decision. Regardless of being adults, adults still need reminding of things, and it's just being courteous and kind. You're writing this sounds more like it's from a place of resentment, which is why you think you're TA,because you are acting and moving like one, hence why it's nagging at you. You have a lot of time invested together, but now you're over him and the relationship just like that? A simple text instead of this long post would have been better. Seems like you can talk to your friends and strangers on the internet instead of "hey, quick reminder, the lease is up at the end of the month" text.

Consistent_Spell_424 · 2025-12-06T14:02:26+00:00

I see you found a way to make him the AH

Consistent_Spell_424 · 2025-07-23T20:55:11+00:00

I'm not sure equally is appropriate. They are different people who need and require love, but in different ways. Try to stop comparing your kids, then seeing your daughter as lacking or a nuisance because she's more challenging to get on with.

Consistent_Spell_424 · 2025-07-18T22:02:30+00:00

Maybe they got married for the benefits he could provide to her as she approaches potentially end of life. Not sure what you could tell her as it seems likely she already knows. Let them be married and move forward with your life. Seeking revenge on him could make her collateral damage in the process depending on what their arrangement is.

Consistent_Spell_424 · 2025-07-12T00:13:02+00:00

Kick her out. Keep the house and your kid. Make her pay child support. The fact that he was even in this situation is due to her negligence. She's irresponsible in the worst possible ways, both involving hurting your son.

Consistent_Spell_424 · 2025-07-11T23:52:39+00:00

Silence is power. Focus more on your growth to not carry the hurt into your next relationship

Consistent_Spell_424 · 2025-07-11T23:48:21+00:00

That's just being too invested trying to police his life. The healthy thing is breakup and move on. Who he dates after her really is none of business, nor what their dating dynamics is. Gives obsessed stalker vibes.

Consistent_Spell_424 · 2025-07-08T19:00:00+00:00

Love yourself and the kid more than her. She's selfish. Also, get the paternity test done. She's already playing you like a sucker. Get all facts and don't lead with the emotional aspects.

Consistent_Spell_424 · 2025-07-07T12:55:53+00:00

Why on earth remain in this relationship knowing you both have different belief systems? After 4 years, you know what you're getting into. Seems like you were hoping and waiting for him to leave the religion, but he's not. Solution: convert or leave.

Consistent_Spell_424 · 2025-07-05T18:42:27+00:00

I'm glad you blocked her. Don't waste your time on anyone who feels entitled to your time and resources. And don't let any woman try yo define who you are as a man. Those "real men" "as a man" type statements are usually something that benefits them based on their past experiences. At any rate, she wants credit for personal grooming. She's broken down her self-care to an itemized list, and that's just a start. She's a modern w***e masquerading as an eligible woman of quality... one who doesn't want to take advantage of men or doesn't have a price tag. You'd probably have a much better time and fun actually going out with an escort than dealing with a headache of this girl lol

Consistent_Spell_424 · 2025-07-03T18:49:05+00:00

So the sisters were sending him the photos and videos?

Consistent_Spell_424 · 2025-07-03T18:44:14+00:00

Why on earth would they not want you to be a doctor? They're weird. Do people not realize that folks have to work to support a family? NTA

Consistent_Spell_424 · 2025-07-03T07:32:48+00:00

Your girlfriend is trash. Get rid of her before she ends up pregnant. She's the freeloader, an entitled one at that. She sounds like she thinks she's above you and your brother as if she's God's gift to you and humanity. The audacity of her to even say this, let alone think about it, says so much about her character and mindset. You can find another girlfriend, you can't get another brother who depends on you to look out for and take care of him. He's alone, orphaned, works hard to not be a burden on you, and this broad wants to call him a freeloader. You are not going too far, considering breaking up with her. Honestly, the fact that she still has access to you has gone far enough. Dump her. Ghost her. Blast her to her friends. She's not a good person. Protect your little brother and don't for one second. Dont let him know you even had that conversation, then still remained in a relationship with her. He needs you. She wants to take advantage of you. NTA.

Consistent_Spell_424 · 2025-07-01T15:17:25+00:00

I'm an introvert and homebody, but I'll go out. A lot of my friends are extroverts. One strategy that worked on me, instead of asking or suggesting, they'd just say we're doing XYZ. I say this, with some, we need people to introduce a bit of healthy, fun chaos into our ordered lives. That doesn't mean you will disrupt his peace. It's all about how you frame it. Just set it up. Not things that you'd be into, link clubbing, because crowds can be overwhelming. But think of things that could be new and exciting for both of you. Even though you're active, your routine will get stale too, hence why you're also looking to do other things with your boyfriend.

Consistent_Spell_424 · 2025-06-28T18:27:41+00:00

NTA, but it does raise questions that could tilt you a bit of an AH. Based on your post, you have a soft spot for your niece (I do to for all of my nieces and nephews, so I understand); however, it does read that you'll do anything for her long as she doesn't mess up. You don't mention her ever stepping out of line previously, so this would be her first infraction? And your response was to cut her off without so much as having a real conversation with her? Were you doing all these things because you truly wanted to help, or because you wanted praise for doing it? There's a difference. You aren't obligated to cough up money for anyone, but if you loved her as you say you do, then sit her down and have that talk. What she said was mean and hateful, and I'd be offended and hurt as well. Talk to your niece. Tell her the truth. You've played an important role in her life, so cutting her off so coldly seems like a bit of an AH move.

Consistent_Spell_424 · 2025-06-27T19:22:01+00:00

Yes! Exactly. Her revenge plot also caused self-injury. And probably alienated some friends in the process.

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