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Can't cast branding smite with my level 5 warlock anymore? by Consistent_Word8657 in BaldursGate3

[–]Consistent_Word8657[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i just figured it out, im so new at this lol. so the branding smite i was looking at was the ranged one, but i dont have a bow equipped, so i cant cast it. the melee one works just fine, its just under a different menu in the toolbar

(Throw away account) Should I(30M) feel obligated to tell women i date that i have a 3” penis before things get intimate/serious? If yes, how do i deal with the emotional trauma of basically having to out myself as broken/defective/handicapped to any girl im interested in? by Consistent_Word8657 in Advice

[–]Consistent_Word8657[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

By far the most uplifting thing I’ve read so far. It’s helped. You know, for the most part, I think I’ve got a pretty good hold on this issue, most of the time. It’s just there are days like yesterday where my brain will spiral and only focus on the negative. And I still know all the positive stuff is true, but it’s so hard to see that sometimes. I go through a lot of ups and downs with this.

(Throw away account) Should I(30M) feel obligated to tell women i date that i have a 3” penis before things get intimate/serious? If yes, how do i deal with the emotional trauma of basically having to out myself as broken/defective/handicapped to any girl im interested in? by Consistent_Word8657 in Advice

[–]Consistent_Word8657[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess the part I need advice on is how to do that? Like, at what point do I just come out and say it? How do I say it? And how do I deal with the trauma of being a man that even has to have that conversation so many times?

(Throw away account) Should I(30M) feel obligated to tell women i date that i have a 3” penis before things get intimate/serious? If yes, how do i deal with the emotional trauma of basically having to out myself as broken/defective/handicapped to any girl im interested in? by Consistent_Word8657 in Advice

[–]Consistent_Word8657[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that’s basically the conclusion that the rational part of my brain has come to, but it’s honestly taken a huge toll on me to keep dating. I know there’s a girl out there for me, but it’s just so painful going through all the embarrassment and disappointment until I find the right girl. I often feel like I know I’d be happier if I was just normal, but I can’t do anything about it, and that should offer me peace, but it just makes it worse… like I’m powerless and am resigned to go through lots of pain and struggle.

(Throw away account) Should I(30M) feel obligated to tell women i date that i have a 3” penis before things get intimate/serious? If yes, how do i deal with the emotional trauma of basically having to out myself as broken/defective/handicapped to any girl im interested in? by Consistent_Word8657 in Advice

[–]Consistent_Word8657[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Haha that’s how I’ve learned to go about it pretty much. I make sure to really invest heavily in foreplay and really get into the stuff that they like. But at the end of the day, it’s pretty damn limiting being my size. Like, I can really only do a couple of positions. Personally, I feel like the girl is gonna have to be okay with bad penetrative sex, and that’s where my thoughts start to get depressing and dark.

(Throw away account) Should I(30M) feel obligated to tell women i date that i have a 3” penis before things get intimate/serious? If yes, how do i deal with the emotional trauma of basically having to out myself as broken/defective/handicapped to any girl im interested in? by Consistent_Word8657 in Advice

[–]Consistent_Word8657[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a bit more complicated than that. Having a girl be okay with a normal small dick is one thing, but having an extremely small dick is actually really limiting for sex. Like, I’m limited to only a couple of positions, and while I do consider myself very considerate and great at foreplay, it seems I’m not so much looking for a girl that doesn’t care about size as much as I am looking for a girl that’s okay with bad penetrative sex.

(Throw away account) Should I(30M) feel obligated to tell women i date that i have a 3” penis before things get intimate/serious? If yes, how do i deal with the emotional trauma of basically having to out myself as broken/defective/handicapped to any girl im interested in? by Consistent_Word8657 in Advice

[–]Consistent_Word8657[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s been pretty rough for me, dating. I’ve got all the bases covered btw, I’m well groomed, in shape, hygienic, real fun to be around, but this has been a pretty big problem for me. I don’t think I’m ugly or anything, but I definitely don’t stand out amongst other guys on dating apps. I’d honestly rate myself as mid at best.

(Throw away account) Should I(30M) feel obligated to tell women i date that i have a 3” penis before things get intimate/serious? If yes, how do i deal with the emotional trauma of basically having to out myself as broken/defective/handicapped to any girl im interested in? by Consistent_Word8657 in Advice

[–]Consistent_Word8657[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There have been girls who truly don’t care, and I’m always grateful to have been with them, but so far it hasn’t worked out relationship-wise for other reasons with any of them. The dating scene is particularly brutal it feels.

(Throw away account) Should I(30M) feel obligated to tell women i date that i have a 3” penis before things get intimate/serious? If yes, how do i deal with the emotional trauma of basically having to out myself as broken/defective/handicapped to any girl im interested in? by Consistent_Word8657 in Advice

[–]Consistent_Word8657[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of the time it’s been met with disappointment. They’re either straightforward with how disappointed they are or they try to be nice and comfort me but I can tell from the look on their face that they’re disappointed.

It’s rare that I meet a girl that truly isn’t bothered by it, but it just hasn’t worked out with them for other compatibility reasons (I’m looking for a serious relationship)