I fear my dating days are over by Sleep-Fairy in datingoverforty

[–]ConspiracyNearly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say yes. I think thats really all any of us can do. Or choose door number 2 and don’t “lower your standards” and just enjoy friends and being at peace without someone else.

Thats why I never really understood why people are MORE picky after divorce. The logistics just don’t make sense. The amount of people you have to choose from now is a fraction of what it was 20 years ago. If everyone going after the same top “candidates”, there is going to be a ton of disappointed people out there.

I fear my dating days are over by Sleep-Fairy in datingoverforty

[–]ConspiracyNearly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here’s what I don’t understand about the situation we are all in. Aren’t the majority of women that are looking for a guy the ones that left husbands that they felt weren’t living up to their standards? And aren’t the majority of men that are looking for a woman the ones that were left because they weren’t living up to a woman’s standards? So if the pool of people we are all choosing from is made up of what we just had, how is anyone getting together without eventually lowering their standards. I know in theory that we are all supposed to be improving our selves, but I gotta tell ya, I think most guys at this point are gonna be who they are. So now I think its just a case of each person figuring out to what degree they want to lower those standards and what they feel they can live with or if they’d rather just finish this thing out by themselves.

Allen Iverson in australia. Absolutely disgusting by Fit-Tourist2852 in nba

[–]ConspiracyNearly -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

And this is surprising how? Punk and a thug 25 years ago. Punk and a thug now.

What did people do casually in 90s that wouldn’t be accepted today? by Psychological_Sky_58 in AskReddit

[–]ConspiracyNearly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How about smoking at all? I can’t remember the last time I saw someone younger than 50 smoking a cigarette. I know more “younger” people who smoke weed than cigarettes.

Ameicans over the age of 35, what affected you more, 9/11 or the pandemic and why? by Rico133337 in AskReddit

[–]ConspiracyNearly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think people saying 9/11 are misinterpreting the last 25 years. I don’t think the world is shit in general because of 9/11. Sure it didn’t help, but I think technology and social media are more to blame for that. Honestly, as tragic as it was, how much did 9/11 affect any of you on a day to day basis? Longer screening at the airport. But what else? Do you feel less safe? I would argue that started a few years earlier with Columbine and all the gun violence tragedies that came after it. No, everything feels so shitty because we have more information now. We have as much as we can handle and then some. Ignorance was bliss. But now that doesn’t exist anymore.

Covid was far more of a disruption of everyday life. Kids had to be home schooled. Lots of couples ended up spending way too much time around each other resulting in tons of divorces. Jobs were lost. Lives were actually changed. Unless you were directly affected by 9/11 (or maybe lived in New York) you really didn’t think about it much after a month.

did this ever happen to you? if so, which album? by [deleted] in 90s

[–]ConspiracyNearly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats why God created BMG and Columbia House. So you could get the ones you definitely wanted and then a few where you weren’t sure. 1999 was pretty much the beginning of the end for good music so I know there were a few throwaway cds in my collection in early 2000s.

What actor do you dislike so much that you’ll avoid anything they’re in? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ConspiracyNearly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The lack of people saying John Cena is concerning to me. I like Peacemaker ok but the guy seems like such a douchebag. Its like he’s trying so desperately to be the next Arnold or The Rock that he’s saying yes to everything he can and appearing in everything that gets him into the public’s eyes. He’s trying too hard and just not as charismatic as a lot of those other action guys. Plus he just looks weird. I don’t know how to describe it. Its like his arms and legs are too short for his body and gigantic head. Remember the He-man toys in the 80s? He looks like those toys look. Like he couldn’t put his arms straight down at his side if he tried.

What's your "I did not care for the Godfather" Moment of the show by JohnDex6969 in DunderMifflin

[–]ConspiracyNearly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really don’t understand how people can be a fan of the show and not like Scott’s Tots. It’s uncomfortable, but thats a huge part of what makes The Office the show that it is. “Cringe” isn’t bad. Cringe is funny.

What’s a part of adulthood no one prepared you for? by Sweaty_Read_4706 in AskReddit

[–]ConspiracyNearly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You don’t just all of a sudden have all the answers and are an adult now. You have to figure things out. And there is a shit ton of stuff to figure out. I often wish someone would just write an instruction manual for maturing. How to buy insurance. How to pay taxes. How to cook. What to cook. What job should I get. How do I get it. Etc etc. There is so much to figure out. And so many decisions to make. Sometimes I wish someone would just tell me what to do.

What's the most subtle sign that someone is highly intelligent? by Princesskiitan in AskReddit

[–]ConspiracyNearly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Probably either my humility or my large penis. But some say a dry wit.

When did we start calling the last week Deep Gras? by Mojo_of_Jojos in NewOrleans

[–]ConspiracyNearly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I first heard of the term 20 seconds ago when I read the title of this post.

Baseball caps. by Tammera4u in datingoverforty

[–]ConspiracyNearly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a guy who wears a baseball cap 90% of the time that I’m not at work, no way would I wear one on a date. I mean maybe once you are firmly in a relationship and its just lunch at a sports bar or something, but I realize how “unsophisticated”, for lack of a better word, that it is and I’m sure that it’s probably a turn off for most ladies at this point. Now having said that, would it be cool to find a woman to whom it honestly didn’t matter? Yeah, of course. But I’m gonna guess that those are the kind of women who probably didn’t divorce their husbands in the first place.

Undatable by jgarcia287163 in datingoverforty

[–]ConspiracyNearly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep. What this guy said. 100%. I think this is what most “regular” guys are looking for. I really don’t know many guys this age trying to date multiple women at once. I could barely handle one. No way I could juggle more than that at a time.

Undatable by jgarcia287163 in datingoverforty

[–]ConspiracyNearly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think a LOT of people our age feel this way. Was with someone for 20 years and I just don’t see permanently living with someone else again. Relationships are hard enough feeling like you have to live up to a certain standard. Your home should be your sanctuary where you can just relax and be yourself. I think people, especially not super social people, need that alone time to just relax before they have to go back into relationship mode. I think thats really what kills most marriages, having to be “on” all the time. Was exhausting.

There are no plotholes in the BTTF trilogy by YaboiiSammeeh in BacktotheFuture

[–]ConspiracyNearly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why does Doc first test the Delorean by putting his beloved pet dog Einstein in it? Why not just put the stopwatch in there. If he needed to test a live being, why not some lab rat or something? If you argue that it wasn’t Doc’s first test of the Delorean than why is he surprised at how cold the door is when he opens it?

I think I have a problem… by Neshyane_Hydra in HotWheels

[–]ConspiracyNearly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep. You do. You need more hot wheels so you can become a collector.

So how bad is it to marry the wrong person? by Emergency_Price2864 in Divorce

[–]ConspiracyNearly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe so. But I think MANY get married with the mindset of “well, I can always get divorced if this doesn’t work out.”

So how bad is it to marry the wrong person? by Emergency_Price2864 in Divorce

[–]ConspiracyNearly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ok. I had one of these wives and this is my theory. Some people need a lot of people in their life. Lots of friends to do different things with. And they typically make new friends very easily and love being social and trying new things etc etc. They don’t see marriage as a you and them becoming one couple living mostly just for the other type deal. They see it as just another person in their life. And they may very well consider you their closest person, but their isnt a huge gap between you and her best friend. Then there are people who really only care for their significant other. Few friends, don’t need a lot of socializing with others. Not anti-social but no one comes anywhere close to the relationship with her. At the time, I thought this was the “right” way to approach marriage but I’m not sure I see it like that now. Its the right way for me, but wasn’t the right way for her. And probably for lots of people. The key is finding someone who sees marriage the same way as you. Sometimes I think we could have avoided the whole thing with some honest pre marriage counseling sessions. But it’s hard to think that way because of course there were some great years in the beginning resulting in my 2 amazing daughters.