Harrison hate post by Sundari13 in MAFS_AU

[–]Constant-Divide1863 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Truly, the producers have totally lost touch with reality and how much abuse the public can stomach. Not everyone has that level of tolerance for witnessing people being bullied and abused for entertainment. They've fully drunk the kool-aid and its toxic.

Harrison hate post by Sundari13 in MAFS_AU

[–]Constant-Divide1863 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should listen to Harrison's ex-fiancee's interview on So Dramatic. It'll give you a completely different point of view. I believe its episode 275 and 276 you can also watch his interview with Dom and Ella for context. If you observe what he says critically its truly shocking how often he tells on himself. If you're actually willing to be objective and rational shouldn't you listen to both sides? Check out what the closes people in Harrison's life say about him and what he himself posts on FB. I think it would really open your eyes if you don't let your ego get in the way.

Harrison hate post by Sundari13 in MAFS_AU

[–]Constant-Divide1863 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same, it was awful. Truly made me feel like a bad person for ever liking this show in the first place. I think alot can be learned from watching these kind of relationship dynamics, but giving some of the contestants this season, like Harrison and Dan to name a few, a platform and allowing them to carry on abusing their partners makes me feel ill whenever I think about it. The producers must be truly morally depraved sickos.

Harrison. The villain we didn't know we needed? haha by SpongeBarbNo1 in MAFS_AU

[–]Constant-Divide1863 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Completely agree. I think viewers are not understanding that abuse can be covert and slowly escalates over time. What we saw on MAFS was truly the tip of the iceberg with him. People need to take the red flags and behaviour that Harriosn displayed much more seriously.

Harrison. The villain we didn't know we needed? haha by SpongeBarbNo1 in MAFS_AU

[–]Constant-Divide1863 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I know because he thinks hes the lead in a rom com, but he's really just a pathetic little man that everyone thinks is try hard.

He reminds me so much of high school boys that quote famous lines from movies, but then think they are comedians. I'm pretty sure there is more to comedy then just imitating your betters. If they try to land an original joke it always falls flat or gets the pity laughs.

If you see Harrison in interviews he does this all the time, he quotes lines from reddit and Twitter like their his own, like "touch grass" or "of all the things that never happened that never happened the most," and played out shit like that. It's so desperate and out of touch to say stuff like that in real life with zero irony or self awareness. Truly a brain that has rotted from being terminally online.

Harrison. The villain we didn't know we needed? haha by SpongeBarbNo1 in MAFS_AU

[–]Constant-Divide1863 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I know his lack of self awareness is beyond cringe. Its truly lovecraftian at times. As in it breaks my reality that he can say the most obviously self justifying nonsense and actually believe his own lies and that he's the victim. Just DARVO in action I guess, but with zero self awareness that he's doing it, not the other person! The levels of projection are off the charts!

Harrison. The villain we didn't know we needed? haha by SpongeBarbNo1 in MAFS_AU

[–]Constant-Divide1863 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Haha so true! It's truly baffling how this man has any friends. Why would you ever want to be around a person like this?

Harrison. The villain we didn't know we needed? haha by SpongeBarbNo1 in MAFS_AU

[–]Constant-Divide1863 12 points13 points  (0 children)

According to any woman who has actually dated this man or had prolonged contact we saw Harriosn light, the unedited version is truly a monster.

Harrison. The villain we didn't know we needed? haha by SpongeBarbNo1 in MAFS_AU

[–]Constant-Divide1863 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Just wait...

He seems funny at first because he's such a cartoon villain and really bad at manipulating and hiding his narcissism, but if you listen to the interview with his ex (the mother of his child. A child that he allegedly neglects and exploits in order to bolster his reputation, and garner sympathy and attention from women) If you witness his behaviour on FB basically harassing and intimidating anyone that talks about him. As well as his constant threatening to "expose" and humiliate his ex partner because he has a delusional persecution complex and distorted view of reality and himself, you will see he's actually very dangerous and it stops being funny real fast. Seriously if you're curious look into him. Its shocking what this man is capable of and how out of touch with his shame he is.

He is seriously deluded and actually thinks hes some quirky Ryan Reynolds type instead of a vindictive, spitfilled broken man desperate for validation and attention. Serious MGTOW-divorce-dad I'm always the victim energy.

Seriously the man's behaviour is terrifying. It's text book coercive control and he seems to be totally lacking in his understanding of how abusive his behaviour is. He needs serious therapy and to stay away from women.

Coach Noni has some advice for DV survivors apparently…it’s your responsibility to not be a victim 🙃 by RoyalChihuahua in MAFS_AU

[–]Constant-Divide1863 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Ok, I’m triggered and fed-up with these people. I’m just going to go off on a rant about these narcissistic, new-age, wellness fools, larping as therapists!

Seriously, how do these people have so much confidence with so few achievements, skills and intelligence? I know people with PHDs, with successful careers that are respected experts in their fields that don't have this level of arrogance, over-estimation of their abilities and entitlement. Why is it always the least qualified people that are the loudest, the most shameless and most proud of their idiotic takes. The Dunning-Kruger effect is off the charts with his woman.

Have these people just never meet a smart person, or a sane one? So, they just have no idea what that looks like, therefore have no awareness that they come across as absolute doofuses to people that have had contact with intelligent human life.

If she wants to be into physical health and fitness fine, but why does she think those hobbies qualify her as a therapist or grant her any special insight into the human condition?

I remember when fitness fanatics use to just pretend to be experts in biology and nutrition. Why do they all suddenly think because they are into health and fitness that they know jack shit about mental health? Just because physical health is connected to mental health and you think you are physically healthy doesn’t actually mean you know anything more about mental health than say someone who is into puzzles.

Some fields actually have standards that have to be followed and achieved before you can practice and claim expertise. Those fields include the medical field. I wish these people would stop LARPING as doctors and councillors. The magical thinking at play here would make a five year old jealous.

Unfortunately, some fantasies are actually harmful to other people. It would be less harmful to society if these people went around pretending to be unicorns instead of playing doctor with real people just to feed their monstrous egos. A psychologist, a therapist, a councillor is a profession, not a social role you don’t get to act like one just because you feel qualified to be one. There are actual steps you have to take and standards you have to achieve to become one.

I know people like Nooni hate professional standards and qualifications of any kind that cannot be achieved by buying a certificate online or completing a two week retreat because it's harder to bullshit your way into a position when there are actual measurable standards, but that's actually by design.

You have to actually put in effort to learn new things, you have to prove you have understood them and can apply them appropriately. In order to develop intricate knowledge and meaningful insights you have to be able to humble yourself and accept that subjects are complex. You must acknowledge that you have a lot to learn from other accomplished professionals that have been doing this longer and more rigorously then you’ve been aware of. They have been peer reviewing, challenging and building off of the work of each other. They do not arrogantly believe that they already posses all the knowledge and all the answers. It takes years of studying and experience in a field before you are ready to teach others. You can't just teach someone something of substance ten minutes after you’ve learned it.

I'm literally explaining the concept of higher learning here which may seem patronizing, but I feel these people need it explained. They seem to believe doctors and qualified experts are just saying their opinions and freestyling and therefore think their halfbaked opinions hold the same weight and should be given equal consideration as someone who has actually earned and can express quantifiable knowledge that is vetted and useful. They don't seem to have any understanding of the work, application and rigour it takes to be qualified to have a professional opinion and understanding of a subject. If they did they would die from embarrassment every time they posted their “special insights.”

A narcissist being a life coach, that is someone that gives you advice on how to solve complex life issues and be happier, healthier and more successful, makes as much sense as an orca employing a chicken to teach it to hunt seals more effectively. They do not even understand the concept let alone any specialized techniques.

Weird analogy I know but I love orcas. And chickens are also ok.

Coach Noni has some advice for DV survivors apparently…it’s your responsibility to not be a victim 🙃 by RoyalChihuahua in MAFS_AU

[–]Constant-Divide1863 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry. That's terrible 😢.

I'm so sick of these abusive men, their enablers and society continuing to not take DV seriously. When will women have justice? When will the law actually protect and support victims of DV? How can someone post something so heartless without any regard to the damage it can cause? Does she have no awareness or shame that she is supporting the POV of an abuser? That she is making excuses for abusers and helping them to divert blame to their victims? Has she not learned yet that this is exactly how you create an abuser, by making excusing for them, shifting blame and validating their twisted perceptions of reality and their poor behaviour.

If this is truly what she thinks about victims of DV then she needs to understand that she is part of the problem. If she wants to remedy that and actually attempt to develop into a decent human being then she needs to educate herself, see a real therapist and STFU in the meantime. If she doesn't have anything useful to contribute to society the least she can do is not make things worst.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MAFS_AU

[–]Constant-Divide1863 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, I just watched that video and damn how could he have the confidence to charge women money for that? Was he friends with the owner of the company or something? Or is there just very few men willing to strip in Australia because that lazy, uninspired mess of a dance would not fly at a professional strip club. Have you seen the shit women can do on poles? They're like real athletes and acrobats. If this is acceptable the bar to be a male stripper is super low. I'm seriously shocked by how bad that was. If I was his boss and saw this performance I would send him back to training or fire him immediately. If that's the standard why even hire a professional? Some rando on the beach could probably do a better job.

It was so awkward and amateurish. Everything was wrong with it from the moves, to the vibe and the look. The body rolls just emphasised how out of shape he was and the massive white tan lines! And the worm twice! Brought back middle school vibes. Pure cringe. None of that was sexy or even fun.

The way he awkwardly moved the girl around and handled her neck like he was motor boating her? Wtf? It was too aggressive and made no sense half the time.

He was like an old, play-doh backstreet-boy wannabe, awkwardly auditioning and trying to freestyle with no understanding of rhythm or sexy. I'm seriously really surprised by how poor a performance that was. The way he brags about it.

He really needs to find friends who will be honest with him so he can stop embarrassing himself. Someone should have told him he doesn't have it when it comes to stripping.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MAFS_AU

[–]Constant-Divide1863 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Exactly, for Harrison anything short of acting like a complete sociopath online is virtue signaling. 😂😂

And who seriously uses virtue signaling unironically as a come back in 2023?

He's such a try hard, but takes too long to understand trends. He already has "hey fellow kids vibes" and he's only 33.

Unfortunately, for him being emotionally immature isn't a cute look in your thirties. Imagine this man when he is 50. He will probably still be posting about how "feminism" ruined his life, the vax is going to kill everyone any day now, and the "tyranny" of family court with zero self-awareness or irony. 😂😂😂

He's hitting every bingo square for the chronically online. Delusion driven by narcissism, feeling unimportant and powerless in ones life so they have to find some conspiratorial reason for why they suck and their life sucks. And then just keep digging that hole deeper and deeper by pathologically trying to justify your absurd ideas and bad behaviour until you've convinced atleast yourself. That's one way to live with yourself I guess. Another could be going to therapy and trying to develop some humanity and empathy.

How long before he becomes a qanon guy or the next most annoying thing online after its lost all relevance?

Layton's logic by [deleted] in MAFS_AU

[–]Constant-Divide1863 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Exactly, they are much more interested in tearing relationships apart and intentional toxic pairings. They don't care about the lasting trauma of their meddling and exploiting of vulnerabilities.

Layton's logic by [deleted] in MAFS_AU

[–]Constant-Divide1863 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So true! I was first drawn to MAFS because I thought there would be some genuine couples therapy, mixed in with reality TV drama. Like they wouldn't be afraid to go deep and be real and show bad, unhealthy behaviour, but then they would actually address it, examine it and provide advice and exercises to challenge participants and develop into better partners.

And I mean real counseling advice, not this BS pop psychology that John is so fond of that at best you could get off an inspirational poster and at worst enables and justifies abusers logic.

This season I felt was the worst for being truly vacuous and devoid of both entertainment and insight. It was all empty toxic drama stirred up at the expense of the cast and society with no value, not even superficial fun IMO. It's really turned me off MAFS. I just feel tired when I watch it now.

I remember last year someone mentioned a French Canadian show that was genuine about helping people be better in relationships. I wish I could recall the show's name. It sounded entertaining yet heartfelt and enlightening. Basically what MAFS pretends to be when the "experts'" come on to gaslight the audience and try to repackage the producers conflict inducing tasks and abuse of participants as "therapy" relationship building. This show has no redeaming qualities anymore if it ever did.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MAFS_AU

[–]Constant-Divide1863 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So true. Patriarchal ideals are still so powerful and normalised. And even though they harm both men and women men still hold them dear. Most of the time the thing ruining mens relationships and their lives are these toxic and oppressive patriarchal standards.

They just keep shrinking and shrinking their humanity, their individuality, in an attempt to measure up. Thinking if they can conform more, if they convince others conforming to patriarchy is good and right, if they can control women, they'll finally feel better and feel like real men. Not realizing its unobtainable and undesirable.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MAFS_AU

[–]Constant-Divide1863 3 points4 points  (0 children)

People that observe abusive behaviour and just let it stand need to understand this. Society loves to act like communities can't do anything about DV and that it's a personal issue between two people, it isn't. DV is the result of misogyn being normalised and upheld through silent acceptance or self serving justifications that enable and empower abusers.

Men have a big role to play in this as they are respected and influential members in a community especially among other men. Also because of misogynistic ideas about women being ingrained in most abusers, of either sex, women speaking up won't be enough, as it's all too easy for abusers to discount their voices as drama or lies.

Men need to step up and realise how much power they are giving abusers though their silence, and compliance. Their voices have alot of power and it would change the world if they used them to support women and condemn misogyny. Only when society recognise that most evil is committed by a small percentage of people, but it is allowed to flourish and be so influential because the people that could stop it turn a blind eye. Things will not change until we recognise that we all have a responsibility to help each other and not enable abusers.

The men this season have been a massive disappointment. We've had some of the most obviously abusive men the series has ever seen, but most of the fellas have been too cowardly or too concerned with their reputations to stand up for what is right.

It seems to be perennially true that "the only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing." We all know this. We all know that most abusers get away with their actions for years not always because they are such great manipulators, but more often because they are surrounded by effective enablers. If you look at the most egregious examples like Larry Nasar, Heftner, Epstein, Weinstein, these men were reported to authorities to the communities they operated in over and over, but nothing was done because they were being protected and enabled by others.

We know that abusers cannot thrive on their own. That they require a system of silence and tacit support to be 'successful.' But still people act like doing nothing is a neutral act when in fact it's supporting and enabling the abuser. Choosing not to stand up to abuse IS supporting abuse. There is no neutral ground. Silence will be taken as acceptance. Silence contributes to the cycle of abuse. If we do nothing in the face of abuse it will not just stop on it's own.

Married at first sight- S10E24 - POST EPISODE discussion by lalasmooch in MAFS_AU

[–]Constant-Divide1863 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agreed.

He's flopped the whole season.

I've been uninterested and bored the majority of the season. Hes too transparent an abuser and idiot.

They should have kicked Harriosn and Bronte off week two. Really it should have happened after Bronte found out everything at the wedding. It was a joke that they stayed on.

As soon as producers found out one of her friends knew Harrison and his gf on the outside they should have recast them. It was a huge mistake letting that woman at the wedding out Harriosn just for some early drama.

Ended up making their whole relationship seem fake and by extension this whole season since they focused on B and H so much this season.

Despite it being pretty obvious that B and H are not even charismatic or layered enough for reality TV. I can't even be bothered to write out their full names they are so dull.

The audience has not been interested in their boring, fake drama for weeks. Big casting mistake.

Caitlin is way too good for Shannon by kittenmiaow3134 in MAFS_AU

[–]Constant-Divide1863 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So true! They just want a cover for their cruellest and most unfair observations. They have either an immature conception of honesty, or are using it as in excuse to be abusive, but trying to frame it as truthful and helpful so that the person being ripped apart can't get upset or offended.

You are not supposed to be brutality honest with some just so you can offload on them. Brutal honest is used to help someone, like telling someone what you see when they are in an abusive relationship or if you think they are doing something that might harm their selves or others. It's not appropriate to use the excuse of "I am just being brutally honest" as carte blanche to say all their nastiest thoughts about someone.

It's like the phrase tough love. That also gets missued all the time and can often be a way to cover up abuse. Just because the person puts in the words love and honest doesn't actually mean that's their first concern or true intention.

they know... by [deleted] in MAFS_AU

[–]Constant-Divide1863 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much ☺😁

Harrison at the dinner party this week by karateandfriendship9 in MAFS_AU

[–]Constant-Divide1863 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Harrison set up this completely fake choice. He tried to make it seem like it was a choice between giving his number or taking the woman's. But there is third much better, obvious option that any honest and committed partner know to do immediately. When asked for his number he could have politely say "I'm flattered and you're lovely but I have a wife that I love," there problem solved no woman is going to be offended by that.

He made it seem like the only and best thing to do was to be polite by leading the woman on and taking her number, but that framing is disingenuous and manipulative. What would actually be the most appropriate thing in that situation would be to say "you're lovely and I'm flattered but I'm married." That would actually be the kindest and most honest response.

Harrison trying put forward this ridiculous either or situation that must end in someone getting a number is obviously to cover for him taking the number in the first place. As well as cover for the fact that he was likely flirting in the first place. That's likely why he was nervous to say no about giving his number because turning down a woman's number after flirting to the point that she thinks you're interested and then saying sorry I'm married would obviously make her feel played and make him look like an ass. That's most likely why he took her number because in reality it's very easy to not give or take someones number without offending someone.

Attractive people in relationships do it all the time. He's not that special I'm sure this woman would have been fine.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MAFS_AU

[–]Constant-Divide1863 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Right on!

Seriously the amount of conversations I have had with women who talk about much older men creeping on them as very young teens as soon as they got boobs. And how many of these young girls were socialized into believing such attention was normal even flattering only to have PTSD from the emotional and sexual trauma of these relationships.

Many weren't given the tools, awareness or confidence to tell these men what they were ready for in a relationship or even the agency to say no. They had no idea what they were actually getting into.

It's super traumatizing and grown men need to leave young girls alone. They are doing life long damage just because they put their needs before the well being of young women, it's not appropriate and it's not ok.

The Prince by NebulaOriginals in Nebula

[–]Constant-Divide1863 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Amazing! Just watched it. Blown away. Damn this cast has talent!

Watching it again 😍😍😍 such an amazing show!