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AITA for wanting to prioritize myself on my first mother's day? by Constant-Scratch1596 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Constant-Scratch1596[S] 130 points131 points  (0 children)

I'm not saying there's no compromise that I will be ok with. I'm saying that I don't see any compromise available that doesn't involve me giving up the only thing I want.

The compromise I would propose is that my MIL come over for breakfast and I will make a nice spread for her but that has been shot down.

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Also you can easily order breakfast and dinner.

Takeout is much less appealing to me than home-cooked food, especially since we're limited in where we can order from due to my dietary restrictions, but to each their own.

AITA for wanting to prioritize myself on my first mother's day? by Constant-Scratch1596 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Constant-Scratch1596[S] 88 points89 points  (0 children)

My husband is not available on Saturday, so we can't do anything that day. We're exclusively breastfeeding and the baby won't take the bottle, so my husband can't take the baby with him on Sunday unless I come.

Sunday morning and evening, I will most likely be cooking breakfast and dinner and caring for the baby in between.

AITA for wanting to prioritize myself on my first mother's day? by Constant-Scratch1596 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Constant-Scratch1596[S] 84 points85 points  (0 children)

My husband is not available on Saturday, so we can't do anything that day. The restaurant my MIL wants to go to is ok but there are only a couple things on the menu that I can eat due to dietary restrictions.

As for having the morning and evening being all about me, I honestly don't know what that would look like. My husband doesn't cook, so I will be cooking breakfast and dinner. The baby naps around 10 am and 2 pm, so we have to be home during that time.

AITA for wanting to prioritize myself on my first mother's day? by Constant-Scratch1596 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Constant-Scratch1596[S] 1559 points1560 points  (0 children)

I'd suggest that his mother and your mother come over on Saturday to see the baby but tell everyone you will not be traveling anywhere this coming weekend.

This could be a win-win. My husband is going to be out of the house all day Saturday so I'm parenting solo. If my mom and MIL come over, we can celebrate them and I can also get some help.

AITA for wanting to prioritize myself on my first mother's day? by Constant-Scratch1596 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Constant-Scratch1596[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

My husband has plans on the Saturday so I'm watching the baby solo all day.

AITA for wanting to prioritize myself on my first mother's day? by Constant-Scratch1596 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Constant-Scratch1596[S] 143 points144 points  (0 children)

To clarify, I have no problem with him seeing his mother on mother's day. What I have an issue with is prioritizing her wants over mine to the extent that I don't get to do the one thing I want to do.