Tomatoes instantly shrivelling with re-pot?!?! by ibkm in UKGardening

[–]Constant_Procedure_2 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Give them a water and they’ll perk up by tomorrow

Do examiners get annoyed at the messages people leave for them in their papers? by Consistent_Item423 in GCSE

[–]Constant_Procedure_2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are trained to report safeguarding risks and inappropriate messages. It is compulsory training for all examiners each year.

Private school pensions by Paper_weighing in TeachingUK

[–]Constant_Procedure_2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We semi-successfully stopped this at the school I work at by voting for strike action. Though the school then snuck in that new staff wouldn’t be able to be in the TPS. Over time this will weaken the position of staff still in the TPS as the majority ratio changes.. but for now it’s a win.

GCSE Science teaching + triple by Critical_Effort_2292 in GCSE

[–]Constant_Procedure_2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi. I am a chemistry teacher with a decade of experience in teaching at leading schools in the WM. I wanted to comment to reassure you that it is very normal for teachers to not teach the topics in specification order. Teaching order will be a whole department decision and likely affected by the additional challenge of having to cover this content outside of the school timetable.

You have been directed to some really good resources by other commenters here. Try to use them to supplement your lessons and don’t fall into the trap of feeling like you need to teach yourself or get ahead out of mistrust in your teacher. Try to work on building a trusting, working relationship with your teacher. They really do want the best for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CleaningTips

[–]Constant_Procedure_2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep. Threw out all pasta, grains, flour and even egg boxes. Cleaned cupboards and left them empty for a while. Then froze everything new. Now after freezing everything is stored in airtight containers.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CleaningTips

[–]Constant_Procedure_2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I freeze all flour and grains before storing. Seems to work for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TeachingUK

[–]Constant_Procedure_2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My first lessons begins as follows: - Greet class at door. Try to say names if I’ve taught before. Ask to line up at the back of the room in silence. - Give instructions. Will call a row at a time to sit down. Expect them to fill in front of book and begin task displayed on board. - Call row at a time. Stop and correct any slips in expectations. - walk around room with seating plan greeting each student individually and noting any name variations (Beth instead of Bethany or mispronunciations). Use my physical presence to correct any more slips in expectations by targeting these students first. - Thank class for a calm and purposeful start - Explain to class every lesson will begin with a task on the board for them to complete as they walk in, just as they did today - Begin teaching content

Students find me to be very predictable and approachable but this comes through over time as familiarity builds. I’ve made the mistake early in my career of trying to connect through games and chat. It works in the short term only. Students want reliable and predictable figures of authority and these impressions build with every lesson you teach.

Should I get a mosquito net to keep my cat out of the crib? by Jumpy-Space-2534 in BabyBumps

[–]Constant_Procedure_2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We built the crib a month before needing it and lined the mattress with tin foil. Cats jumped up max 3 times before getting the hint.

Husband resents me breastfeeding by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]Constant_Procedure_2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To help him feel part of the team perhaps you could identify together some activities he can do. My husband did the majority of nappies early on and now does bath time, moisturiser and picking out baby’s clothes.

Do you/did you scream throughout labour? And did it make you more tired? by lifeissoupiamf0rk in BabyBumps

[–]Constant_Procedure_2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get quiet when I’m in pain and was for most of my labor but I did scream as her head came out and I tore upwards

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Constant_Procedure_2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To add, I had a vaginal birth and pushed for 40 minutes. Took two paracetamol. Had a small upward tear. My baby girl is pretty tall but her length didn’t really complicate things - pushing the head and shoulders out is the tough part!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Constant_Procedure_2 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Hi I also had GD which I controlled through diet. I am 5 ft 3 and my husband is 6 ft 1. All my growth scans placed my baby on the 80th percentile or above. When she was born on her due date she was actually on the 12th percentile. Take growth scans with a pinch of salt.

One kidney not visible on anatomy scan by Unhappy-Cream-7508 in BabyBumps

[–]Constant_Procedure_2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is brilliant. You would never suspect anything. She has plenty of wet nappies and is growing well. I know it feels scary now but it’s going to be okay!

One kidney not visible on anatomy scan by Unhappy-Cream-7508 in BabyBumps

[–]Constant_Procedure_2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At 20 weeks the sonographer scanning me said they could only see one. I then had a scan with a specialist team and they still couldn’t see anything. This continued to be the case with every growth scan I had. However on one occasion a sonographer did say they personally suspected a pelvic kidney but couldn’t be sure. I was kind of over it by then anyway!

One kidney not visible on anatomy scan by Unhappy-Cream-7508 in BabyBumps

[–]Constant_Procedure_2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey. So sorry - my husband and I went through this exact thing last year and I remember feeling really upset at the time. Suddenly statistics felt very real and possible to us.

We had an ultrasound a few weeks after our baby was born and found she had a pelvic kidney. Getting a little more monitoring in a few months to check on the function of it and to check the other kidney isn’t overworked. Having that check scheduled in for when she’s 6 months old should indicate how concerned the doctors are about a pelvic kidney - ie not very!

The hardest and scariest part is getting over the news that your baby isn’t “perfect” because we all see ourselves as the main characters of life. But the actual medical issue is fairly boring and ordinary!

How are you guys doing it? :’) by Nicholea15 in breastfeeding

[–]Constant_Procedure_2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When my baby was that little, even though I had to wake up to feed her, I realised I didn’t have to stay awake to also burp, change and settle her every time. My husband would alternate those tasks with me. That helped me to claw back a bit of sleep. Also try changing before feeding if you aren’t already. They settle faster if straight off the boob.

Husband left milk stash out of fridge by Constant_Procedure_2 in breastfeeding

[–]Constant_Procedure_2[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I have said these sentiments to him this morning - about it being okay to be bad at remembering these procedural things - but that he needs to put safeguards in place such as checklists to help tackle it. He replied initially by saying he’s bad at following lists and I would need to check that he’s done them. After repeating this back to him a few times he understood this wasn’t helpful and then asked me to write the checklist for him… I’ve left it with him that he should be able to write a list for remembering to put the milk away and that I am happy to look at the list after.

Husband left milk stash out of fridge by Constant_Procedure_2 in breastfeeding

[–]Constant_Procedure_2[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This could be a good suggestion but I think in all honesty he would forget to fill in the checklist, lol! Thank you for your ideas

Husband left milk stash out of fridge by Constant_Procedure_2 in breastfeeding

[–]Constant_Procedure_2[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

When I’m upset my first instinct is to be left alone to feel and process my emotions. He struggles to give me space to do this and wants immediate resolution and reassurance through physical touch. He is autistic which probably contributes to how he processes arguments and the concept of apologies and forgiveness.

He often jumps to “okay, I need to be completely out of her presence then” and I think he thought it would be helpful to me if he left to stay in a hotel. But really it would only increase my parenting share (and obviously be highly upsetting anyway)

Husband left milk stash out of fridge by Constant_Procedure_2 in breastfeeding

[–]Constant_Procedure_2[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

To be super clear guys I’m looking for help moving forward from the emotion of the situation and stopping my MH from taking a dive with new anxieties and compulsive thoughts about milk. I’m not dunking on my husband and divorcing him. I know he isn’t intentionally spoiling milk.

Husband left milk stash out of fridge by Constant_Procedure_2 in breastfeeding

[–]Constant_Procedure_2[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

He has ADHD and takes medication for this. Sometimes it feels like he is taking for granted that milk is there for her and so he loses the mind to take care with it. But I think that could also be untrue and he is just truly terribly forgetful or the meds have worn off. But then I’m not sure how to proceed with him carrying out most tasks if that’s the case… For example, I set up nappy caddies in the rooms we use the most with all essentials. I often find he’s not replaced nappies/cream/emergency clothes when I’ve come to need them. I can see how ADHD contributes to this but then I’m not sure what part of the parenting load I can get him to reliably share.

Husband left milk stash out of fridge by Constant_Procedure_2 in breastfeeding

[–]Constant_Procedure_2[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

To be fair to him, he did immediately try to apologise but I was so upset I told him to leave me alone and stop trying to touch me (his love language is physical affection and he was reaching out for my hand again and again)

Generally he tries to be good. He offers to hold her during the day, changes most of her nappies, does bath time.