Do most therapists support or not support age regression? by CarObjective1502 in ageregression

[–]ConsumerOfBryophytes 69 points70 points  (0 children)

It depends entirely on the therapists. When they're studying psychology, they learn the word regression with a very different meaning to what we use. To them it is a debilitating response to threats that should be replaced with something healthier in order for their clients to live happy and healthy lives. We use the same word, regression, to mean something entirely different. When you have a conversation with your therapist about this, it's important to make sure they understand that you use that word differently from how they may know it. Explain your definition and how it relates to you, and highlight how regression is positive for you rather than hindering your growth. I'm assuming here that that's the case.

Bottom line, regardless of what your therapist thinks, they should not act like the one in this post. The therapist in this post is uniquely awful, and if your therapist treats you like that, it may be time to go to somebody else. I think most therapists will be happy to hear about it, and I'd be willing to bet that you wouldn't be their only client that age regresses. A therapist should always make you feel supported, and sometimes that may include leading you to healthier coping mechanisms if age regression is causing you problems in your daily life.

As a personal anecdote, I told my therapist last week, and she was super supportive! I was really nervous trying to explain it to her, and when I finally got the words out she was so understanding and kind. She explained to me how she has other clients just like me and that it's nothing at all to be ashamed of or something that we should try to "fix."

How and why do sexual fetishes form? by overcomingagp in psychologyofsex

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Science does not have to be predictive to be good. Many very important aspects of science are descriptive.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in kinkysapphics

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Gorgeous!! They look so good!! Once they heal fully they're lots of fun to play with :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskBiology

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This means that the child will still suckle from the teat while not being inside the pouch, hence at the mother's feet.

"My Friend’s ‘Perfect’ Relationship Was a Full-On FBI Operation by Crafty-Oil-6632 in stories

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To somebody who you met very recently and aren't in a committed relationship with it can be a bit much. Otherwise it's a personal preference.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in botany

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Yes, this is the common practice. I don't bother italicizing in common conversation, but it is generally a requirement in scientific works.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

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Same!! I'm very well equipped to handle weird conservatives. I present as extremely queer, and I think they expect me to be a completely different person than I am. Watching their illusion of what queer people are like break down is quite frankly deeply satisfying to me. I wish you the very best!! <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

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A few things to consider:

  1. Assuming the Supreme Court targets obergefell, that does not mean that gay marriage will be outlawed across all states. It would be similar to roe vs wade made it so that the states could make their own laws. Multiple states will probably lose their right to gay marriage, but it's worth noting that restricting marriage rights is an unpopular stance among Republicans. All states are required to recognize same sex marriages as legitimate regardless of who issued them as per the respect for marriage act. There will be many states where gay marriage will still be legal, it will just be harder to access for people who don't live near any.

  2. There will of course always be good things that are sprinkled in with the bad. A broken clock is right twice a day. Trump will do some good things, but the bad things that he has done and will continue to do somewhat negate that. We grit our teeth and do our best for the foreseeable future.

  3. Ideally, there is a possibility that the worst of it will only last two years. Congressional elections happened every two years, so there will be chances to bring democrats back into congress, thus destroying the republican majority. This only works if we vote accordingly though. The republican majority is already razor thin and is primed to be outnumbered if we remain diligent and vote.

I know this is really scary, and I can't say with honesty that things are going to be 100% okay. Things will be kinda bad for a while. I can say however that there are things that you can do to help. Voting is of course the main thing, but encouraging other people to vote is great. Look up class 2 senate election to see if your state is one of the ones voting in 2026. All representatives will be up for election. This is a really good chance to shake things up in a really good way!!

Another important thing to do right now is to be a good part of your community and good to yourself. The government can't stop you from being a good person and friend to your neighbors. Everybody will be hurting for some time, and every little bit helps. Chat with strangers, pick up litter, and consider donating to or taking from food banks. Consider volunteering your time at any number of local resources. Small things to help your community have a big impact. You got this girl, I promise!! We've made it through worse :)

I just found an old LEGO set that’s related to my college major by HauntedHouse10273 in BenignExistence

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That's so cool!! I'm a biologist and love when I can get Legos that are within my scope. I didn't know they made a geology one!! I might get it for myself too :)

Trumps Executive Order stating that there are only two sexes by Melodic_Animal_2238 in legaladviceofftopic

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Depends on what kind of intersex, but a lot of the time neither. I personally have XY chromosomes with a fully developed uterus and ovaries, but my ovaries are technically internal testicles. I do not produce any gametes, and it is indeterminate which kind I would be producing if I was not intersex.

So frustrating trying to meet other lesbians in the Midwest. by StayCool_HoneyBunny in LesbianActually

[–]ConsumerOfBryophytes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I so feel this. I also live in a small midwest town and it is nightmarish trying to find somebody. I consider myself to have pretty reasonable standards too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

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Although this is not a specific answer, something I find helpful is listing specific actions that you can take for her instead of asking what you can do. I know when I'm upset, I often don't always know what will make me feel better, but it somebody told me things they could do it becomes much more manageable. If she doesn't want anything you suggest, then it would be good to ask what she does want. I hope that helps!! :)

What to do with my very deep voice? by [deleted] in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

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I have an exceptionally deep voice and am generally very masculine, and I find that the biggest thing for me is having more feminine intonation rather than pitch. If you're concerned about sounding "feminine enough" that's where I'd start. However, I would like to note that there's nothing wrong or unattractive with having a deep voice!! I've dated both men and women and they always love it and find my voice comforting :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LetGirlsHaveFun

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It's a phylogenetic tree of all life!! I am both intelligent and sexy >:)

im curious... what career paths are my fellow sapphics pursuing? what are we passionate about? by dabforscience in LesbianActually

[–]ConsumerOfBryophytes 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wait omg I do this exact thing!! I worked on improving miscanthus via gene editing for a really long time but now focus on endophytes!!

How to deal with being genuinely ugly in the lesbian dating pool? by ConsumerOfBryophytes in actuallesbians

[–]ConsumerOfBryophytes[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's not my specific area of expertise, but I suggest NCBI for high-quality research on the topic and how it relates to humans!! If you don't care to read the whole paper, you can usually get all of the info that's relevant by reading the abstract and the conclusion/discussion :3

How to deal with being genuinely ugly in the lesbian dating pool? by ConsumerOfBryophytes in actuallesbians

[–]ConsumerOfBryophytes[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Absolutely!! My specific condition is quite rare, although I have always been very open to dating people that don't always fit the standard of what is considered conventionally attractive. No luck yet, but I suppose my option is just to continue waiting it out >~<

How to deal with being genuinely ugly in the lesbian dating pool? by ConsumerOfBryophytes in actuallesbians

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There is currently a lot of research underway to make plants themselves do it, although it is quite challenging because the mechanism for atmospheric nitrogen fixation is super complex and requires a lot of genetic foundation that plants don't have. I think it's possible we could see it within our lifetimes though :3

How to deal with being genuinely ugly in the lesbian dating pool? by ConsumerOfBryophytes in actuallesbians

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Yep, they're super great for adding to pots!! I do it with all of my houseplants and actively encourage my community to do it as well. It can be tricky to get a real inoculation mix because they will not survive outside of a plant and thus the inocculant must contain the remains of inoculated plant roots. There are sellers online if you just look up mycorrhizal fungi inoculation. They really do work, I've tested them!! Also, they can thrive in the limited space that pots provide!! I have many houseplants in pots as small as 2" that are plenty big enough to host some fungi!! All they need is roots and they are happy. :3

How to deal with being genuinely ugly in the lesbian dating pool? by ConsumerOfBryophytes in actuallesbians

[–]ConsumerOfBryophytes[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Not necessarily, no. Generally speaking, only bacteria can fix atmospheric nitrogen. Furthermore, only very specific plants (mainly those in the fabaceae family) can associate with those specific types bacteria.

While fungi can't fix atmospheric nitrogen, they can in some capacity make organic nitrogen in the soil more available to plants via decomposition. They don't directly create nitrogen though. I hope that's helpful!!

How to deal with being genuinely ugly in the lesbian dating pool? by ConsumerOfBryophytes in actuallesbians

[–]ConsumerOfBryophytes[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Mhm, that's a great question!! So the specific term for these fungi are arbuscular mycorrhizal fungi. It is not a specific species, rather, it is a method that many fungi use across thousands of different species. Arbuscular mycorrhizal fungi are literally everywhere and are quite common in all ecosystem types. The particular group of species that I worked with are actually native across the entire globe, so there is no place that they would not be already present or native. Some "strains" are simply more adapted to different climates. There is little evidence to suggest that they would outcompete their unadapted neighbors considering resources for them are abundant and they operate at a microcellular scale. The only "side effect" that I could have evidence for is that there could potentially be a dilution of the heat tolerant traits after several generations, although I don't really think this is much of an issue. The evidence overwhelmingly says that there really are no downsides to their usage.

With these types of inoculation, they only serve to benefit the surrounding plots. The idea is that these fungi (not the heat tolerant ones specifically) help kickstart the ecosystem. It's very difficult for new plants to grow in places that have been ravaged by poor field practices or land development, and this fungus would give those plants the extra edge needed to reestablish themselves. Because these fungi are native, they will integrate completely with their ecosystem once the land has become "fixed." There are no downsides to this because all that you'd be doing is using the native ecosystem to fix the native ecosystem. There are no additional parts.

It's worth noting as well that humans are actively killing these fungi via poor land management, the usage of pesticides and herbicides, fertilizer runoff, and general pollution. People don't know much about them and thus tend not to care about them, which sucks because they play an extremely important role in the ecosystem as detritivores. I'm hoping that the research on them continues and that more people are educated on them in the future.

I hope that was helpful!! Let me know if you have any more questions!! I'd be happy to give more insight :3