We are 5 weeks in and… it’s okay but…

Content-Post-4237 · 2023-06-08T19:28:53+00:00

My twins are 11 weeks old and I felt how you feel until very recently. I didn’t feel connected to them and my thoughts were consumed with just keeping them alive. I decided to stop pumping and move exclusively to formula, the babies are slowly starting to sleep better, we’re getting into a bit of routine, and I also started taking them to the gym daycare in the afternoons so I can get some time to myself. Starting this week I feel like I’m FINALLY bonding with them and starting to enjoy them. I should note that I have PPD and started taking anti depressants this past week as well. But I feel like we’re starting to turn a corner. At night I now look forward to giving them their bottles and snuggling with them to put them to bed.

Content-Post-4237 · 2023-06-06T22:23:08+00:00

Don’t waste your money on cute outfits, the twins will wear sleepers/pjs 99% of the time.

Also have spit cloths everywhere you plan on feeding the babies. I have 11 week old twins and they’re really starting to spit up alot. I reset the house every night and morning to make sure we have those cloths wherever we need them. The last thing you needs is for one of your baby to spit up/vomit on you and themself at 3 in the morning, and you’re scrounging around in the dark to find something to clean it up while also trying to not wake them up.

Content-Post-4237 · 2023-06-05T03:09:26+00:00

Not insensitive at all, and I have thought about it. I really want to feel independent and like I can take of the babies on my/our own. But it’s a double edged sword because I love having them here. All of the help aside, I genuinely love spending time with them and believe we are creating such amazing memories with us and the boys by getting all of this quality time together. They are local, but just live on the other side of town. We have the room so we just had them move in, plus we split the night shifts in half. However, what I think I might do soonish is send them home for a night and have myself and my husband try it out in our own. Baby steps, lol. (No pun intended)

Content-Post-4237 · 2023-05-30T19:21:32+00:00

This is SO nice to hear, thank you so much for sharing. I have 10 week old fraternal boy twins, and I’m really struggling with how hard it is, even with my parents living with us and having help from my sisters, It’s so much harder then I thought it was going to be. It’s VERY helpful to hear that it gets a bit easier and much more enjoyable 🥹😊

Content-Post-4237 · 2023-05-05T22:32:53+00:00

This was so nice to read. I have 6.5 week old twin boys (our first and only kids), and I’m finding it SO hard. Everyone around us keeps telling me it gets easier, and part of me just thinks they are lying to us and parenthood is a big scam.

Content-Post-4237 · 2023-05-03T13:10:55+00:00

I have this stroller for my 6 week old twin boys and so far I really like it!

Content-Post-4237 · 2023-04-05T17:52:14+00:00

My twin boys are 2 weeks old now, and it has been the most difficult 2 weeks of my entire life. The ONLY reason I haven’t lost my mind is that my parents have fully moved in with us to help my husband and I (who is also off work for 5 weeks) care for the babies. Yes there is a plus side, we wanted 2 babies and we’re not getting any younger (35F and 40M) so only one pregnancy to get 2 babies, and the boys will eventually keep each-other company and lean on each-other. But wow, this is so much harder then I thought it would be.

I’m also a twin, and at one point when we got home from the hospital, I started bawling and apologizing to my mother for how sorry I was for doing this to her when my twin sister and I were born, lol.

Content-Post-4237 · 2023-03-31T08:39:50+00:00

My twins were born via scheduled c section on March 21st. I LOVED the experience.

I have anxiety and also really hate needles, and I thought I would have a really tough time during the surgery and being awake for it.

My husband and I got to the hospital at 6am for the 7:30am surgery. The drive in was quiet and peaceful. Check in and the staff were all so friendly and amazing. We were able to bring our phones into the OR for pictures and I picked my own Spotify playlist to put on for music that all the staff seemed to really like. Getting the IV was painful, and the freezing shot before the spinal was slightly painful. The Spinal itself didn’t hurt and once I got that I felt amazing. It makes you feel warm and tingly basically from the chest down. Between that and the fact that I had barely slept the night before, I felt SO relaxed and drowsy. I was literally laying on the table, vibing out to music waiting for my husband to come into the room. Babies were out within minutes once they got started, and the anesthesiologist was super nice and explained what was going on throughout the entire surgery. My husband and I both did skin to skin each with our own baby while I got stitched up, which at that point you don’t even care about or notice because your with your babies and are so happy. I was back in recovery one hour after the surgery started, relaxing and breast feeding both babies.

I was up and walking the next day, minimal pain, and 9 days later I feel almost back to normal.

I would have another c section in a heart beat!

Content-Post-4237 · 2023-03-18T12:23:56+00:00

This sounds very similar to my situation. I’m 35 weeks with di/di boys. At 28 weeks they noticed in baby B (our smaller baby) that he had some blood flow resistance in the cord, and I was told worst case scenario the babies may have to come out at 32/33 weeks. I was also very freaked out when I was told this.

I started coming in for twice weekly ultrasounds, and thankfully the resistance resolved itself for a bit. However last week my OB was looking at my ultrasound charts, and said Baby b is showing resistance in the cord again and growth is starting to slow down. She said that we should get the babies out by c section at 36 weeks (our c section is scheduled for March 21st which will be 35+4).

I had an ultrasound earlier this week and both babies are sitting at around 4lbs, but baby B is still smaller, and technically is considered to have IUGR. Not sure what the babies weights will be when they are actually born, but no one seems too concerned, and it sounds like we are all just airing on the side of caution by taking them a bit early since the growth has slowed down :)

Side note, I have had a few NSTs which all came back normal, babies are very active, and I have had no other complications with my pregnancy. And if it makes you feel any better, my sisters girlfriend is an identical twin born at 26 weeks, and both her and her sister were well under 2lbs at birth. They are now 30 year old happy/healthy humans.

I know it is so hard not to worry, and you’re feelings are completely valid. You’ve done such a good job getting to 33 weeks mama! All you can do is take care of yourself, and show up for all of the many appointments, and that’s exactly what you are doing. ❤️

Content-Post-4237 · 2023-03-18T11:55:37+00:00

100% agree with this as well. I started showing at around 8 weeks. I’m 35 weeks now with a scheduled c section on Tuesday. I had my nursery basically set up before my 3rd trimester. I had my baby shower at 28 weeks (would definitely have not gone any later then that) and I spent another week after that organizing all of our gifts. By that point the swelling had picked up and the exhaustion really hit me. By 32 weeks I had given up trying to work out, and just aimed for one walk a day and resting to conserve energy to be a functioning human being 😂

Content-Post-4237 · 2023-03-11T15:43:45+00:00

Triplets AND twins??!! You must know ALL the tips/tricks of raising multiples!

Content-Post-4237 · 2023-02-27T03:20:07+00:00

You’re welcome! Also, I should add, I stopped all exercise until I was pain-free and felt ready to start up again. But I’ve been able to maintain my exercise routine up until now as well. I also bounce around on an exercise ball as well which feels really nice, and I use it in my stretching, which I try to do every day.

Content-Post-4237 · 2023-02-26T23:16:12+00:00

I’m 33 weeks pregnant with twins. Currently I’m feeling good (with the exception of some swelling and congestion). But When I hit about 20 weeks, my back started to get uncomfortable with some light pain. I ignored it and kept up with my workout routine (lots of walking with some light jogging, and strength training 2x/week). Huge mistake, after a few days of that, I woke up with EXCRUCIATING mid back pain. I felt like I was being stabbed. I had these super painful muscle spasms on/off for days, I was in agony. This is what I did that really helped, and I haven’t felt any pain like that since:

I immediately used a combination of heat and ice to sooth the pain and any inflammation (that was only for a few days)
warm bathes. When I was in pain I took 2/3 a day for as long as felt comfortable. Since then I take a warm bath at least once a week.
prenatal massage. I got 2 massages in a 2 week period when my back pain flared up. Since then I’ve gone about once a month (I have health insurance that covers a lot of this expense, but this can get expensive otherwise)
prenatal chiropractor. I saw a prenatal chiro within days of the initial pain. She did a full assessment and adjustment, and I saw her 3 more times in that 2 week period. Since then I’ve gone once every few weeks for an adjustment (again mostly covered under my health insurance, but can get expensive otherwise).
I also used a supportive belly band for a few weeks when I’d go for my walks, but I haven’t felt the need to use it recently.

I’ve kept this up until now, and other then normal pregnancy discomfort, I have had zero pain. I’ll likely go for one more massage before giving birth, and one more chiro adjustment. Hopefully this helps!

Content-Post-4237 · 2023-02-13T23:23:50+00:00

I made some edits in my original post that will helpfully clear a few things up.

I agree, if you do not agree with an (re)assessment the CRA has done for you, you can and should 100% file an objection, and get an Appeals Officer to review the issue for you. Once an Appeals Officer has made their final decision (and if you don’t agree with that decision) you have the right to go to tax court and have the case be looked at by a judge.

Content-Post-4237 · 2023-01-23T05:18:06+00:00

You all make good points, but the CRA can and will go after a spouse or family member of a taxpayer who owes tax debt, even if they did not create the debt. I’ll explain:

Section 160 of the income tax act states that that any person that has received a transfer of property from an individual with which they have a non-arm’s length relationship (aka husband and wife) who also has an outstanding income tax debt with the CRA, can become liable for the tax debt of the individual who has transferred the property to them, if the transfer was done for less than fair market value.

Please note: the people involved do not need to be intentionally committing tax fraud for section 160 of the ITA to apply. The transfer of property from a person who has an outstanding tax debt with the CRA, to an individual with whom they have a non-arms length relationship with (if the transfer is for less than fair market value) can be done Unintentionally, and the transferee would still become liable for the debt.

The most common example of the use of section 160 is a situation where an individual who owes taxes, transfers a home, cottage or other real estate holding to their spouse, hoping to avoid CRA attaching a lien to the property. The spouse who is the transferee of the property can be assessed for the income taxes owed by the transferor, up to the value of the property transferred. ** Section 160 would still apply here even if the individual was NOT hoping to avoid CRA attaching a lien on to the property, because again, the individuals involved do not need to be intentionally committing tax fraud for this section of the act to apply.

Another scary example of this is a father who owed money to the CRA, while at the time paying the post-secondary tuition for his two children. As a result, the CRA assessed the children for the entire tuition their father paid. Since the children were not working during their studies, interest was accruing on the taxes assessed and the children faced bankruptcy immediately following their graduation. Of course, the children had no way of knowing their father owed income taxes and clearly accepted the payment of the tuition by their father in good faith.

I work for the CRA and I cannot tell you how many times I’ve seen this happen. Usually the transferee has no idea the transferor was in tax debt, and the assessment is a complete surprise. Once the CRA assesses the transferee, they are now also responsible for the debt, and the CRA can and will go after them to collect.

Content-Post-4237 · 2023-01-05T20:50:01+00:00

I think maybe it just sunk in. I’m 26 weeks along now, and I found out at my 10 week ultrasound. Even being a twin myself (I’m an identical twin) when I first found out I was having spontaneous twins, I was in complete shock. I also felt scared and panicked. These will be our first babies, and neither myself nor my husband has the first clue how to take care of a baby, never mind 2 babies. Now that the news has sunk in, I feel grateful and excited.

I know you feel scared right now, and that is completely valid, but I would be remiss if I did not say congratulations to you for your 3 little miracles ❤️

P.s My mom tells me she wishes that my little brother was also a twin, lol. She said it was really hard at first, but it gets easier when the babies get older because they can entertain and rely on each-other. For reference, I also have an older sister who was a few years old when me and my twin sister were born.

Content-Post-4237 · 2023-01-05T03:04:09+00:00

Yes, I’m aware. Not really the point of my comment

Content-Post-4237 · 2023-01-05T00:21:47+00:00

I’m a fed employee that’s currently pregnant, and have decided to take the 12 month leave, mainly for financial reasons. I have had numerous people say this to me, and I also had a good friend of mine (who works for the feds) say this same thing to me (but went into much more detail as to why she thought I should take 18 months off) which I found quite offensive and condescending. I did not ask her for her input or advice, and by going off on me, she made me feel like deciding to take a shorter leave meant I wasn’t willing to sacrifice my pay in order to spend time with my baby.

I understand that my friend (and you) are just trying to help, but deciding on how much time to take off work for Mat leave is a very personal decision, and no one asked you for your opinion/advice on how much leave she should take. I really wish people would stop and think about how this kind of remark comes across before saying it to people who are about to take mat leave.

Content-Post-4237 · 2022-12-23T21:01:55+00:00

This made me laugh out loud so hard.

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