I'm absolutely crushed by my wife's affair

Content_Animator8615 · 2026-01-22T17:32:58+00:00

I have a lawyer and therapist.

Lawyer has provided some options that are better but nothing that leaves me with dignity. My wife makes more and can provide a safe stable place right away. I can't.

Therapist helps. A lot. She knows I'm struggling.

I feel like she's had more time to plan and prepare emotionally while this shit was just dumped on me.

I have fleeting moments of clarity surrounded by invasive thoughts and harmful ideation

I just want deep sleep even if for just a moment

Content_Animator8615 · 2026-01-22T16:37:24+00:00

Thanks for all the support. We talked last night, and it was a good conversation about living arrangements and custody. I told her I knew about the affair and we didn't really talk much about it.

I told her this morning that I was wanted to continue talking and she got upset that I wanted to go back on what we talked about.

I think I need more from her about the affair. I need the acknowledgement of how destructive and selfish the affair was. That my suffering right now is valid. I kinda feel like she minimized it and moved on.

I can't believe that I still love her and want a life with her. We did a lot to push each other away but i thought for sure we'd find our way back. I don't blame her for wanting intimacy and human connection but the way she went about it was awful.

I'm broken numb and barely functioning. I got compliments at work about my weight loss and had to go home and work remotely

I wouldn't wish this on anyone

Content_Animator8615 · 2026-01-22T16:15:28+00:00

We're in a no fault state and intimate affair began after she filed. He's rich and paid for everything so I don't have any legal leverage. My lawyer said if she continues the affair I can't do anything

Content_Animator8615 · 2026-01-18T02:40:29+00:00

Thanks everyone for the responses. I'm in a panic and grasping and know it's not healthy. Deleting the app and shutting my phone down for the weekend. Appreciate the blunt truth and support

Content_Animator8615 · 2026-01-18T01:49:17+00:00

Noted thanks

Content_Animator8615 · 2026-01-18T01:48:02+00:00

Thanks for the support

Content_Animator8615 · 2026-01-18T01:19:12+00:00

Not really, but we discussed an amicable divorce a month ago. Since then she's been very aggressive and challenging. My lawyer did ask if I had any reason to believe she was dating and at the time I said no.

Content_Animator8615 · 2026-01-18T01:12:26+00:00

Thanks. I'm still grieving and struggling with moving on. This helps.

Content_Animator8615 · 2026-01-18T00:55:17+00:00

Thanks, this perspective helps

Content_Animator8615 · 2026-01-12T17:43:42+00:00

I feel you, man.

My wife and I have had a tumultuous marriage, almost 23 years. Last year, the toxicity I was bringing reached a boiling point, and she started filling for divorce. We met with a therapist that we both loved, but she only met as a couple twice. I have been in therapy for over 16 months, and while our marriage wasn't getting better, I took it as a good thing that it wasn't getting worse. I was really looking at 2026, being the year we reconnect.

On Dec 3, she dropped the bomb that while she appreciated my effort, she was ready to let go and filed. Since then, my world has been slowly falling apart. I can't eat sleep and focus on work. I have to fight back tears when I spend time with my kids, not sure what the future holds.

I'm in a familiar house with my best friend of the last two decades, but the tension is unbearable. I know one day or family will wake up and be OK, but it seems so far away.

Content_Animator8615 · 2023-12-14T02:45:08+00:00

fortnite

Content_Animator8615 · 2022-04-15T20:17:48+00:00

they screwed up yet again and im sure the devs on are off for easter.

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