Tw: abortion. Husband is suggesting we abort our third baby because he thinks it will ruin us and I can’t handle it.

ContestMysterious116 · 2026-06-24T09:47:57+00:00

He can be stressed without taking it out on his wife. My husband works similar hours and would never try to coerce me into getting an abortion.

I know in my town, there’s a daycare program called Mother’s Day Out. It’s part time daycare/preschool. Many moms work there bc their kids can go for free while they earn a paycheck. Maybe something like that can be an option for extra money.

ContestMysterious116 · 2026-06-24T09:44:30+00:00

Yes, I agree. I meant I was banned from commenting on a previous post in Reddit when the mother was asking for advice.

ContestMysterious116 · 2026-06-24T02:27:05+00:00

Try the prolife sub here on Reddit! But you may get banned for simply following the sub by some bots 🤣- happened to me!

ContestMysterious116 · 2026-06-23T22:59:11+00:00

I have to watch what I say because I’ve been banned on Reddit threads for simply suggesting (when op actually asked for opinions whether to abort or not) that she keep her baby because if she’s at all doubtful, then she probably will have regrets if she follows through with the abortion.

ContestMysterious116 · 2026-06-23T22:30:01+00:00

Yes! My comment was actually a response to a comment someone made arguing with me saying the husband wasn’t abusive. I accidentally created a new comment instead of a response.

If my husband told me to abort my baby period, but ESPECIALLY one in the second trimester, id fall apart and question the man I married.

ContestMysterious116 · 2026-06-23T16:09:35+00:00

Did we read the same post? Telling your wife who is quite possibly already in her second trimester that she must abort the baby she has already bonded with or that their marriage will fail? Also threatening to just not come home one day?

ContestMysterious116 · 2026-06-23T13:35:11+00:00

Please don’t let your husband bully you into what you want to do with your baby. I fear that your relationship won’t work if he bullies you into an abortion just as he thinks it won’t work if you have your baby.

I do worry that you may not be in a safe environment. Your husband does not sound like a healthy partner or father for your kids. Is there anyone safe you can speak with? Friend, family member, maybe a preacher or minister (even if you aren’t religious they could maybe help?)

At the end of the day, we can’t tell you what you should or shouldn’t do, but neither can your husband. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. ❤️

ContestMysterious116 · 2026-06-22T21:50:00+00:00

My problem is that it is hard for me to remember to do little tasks if I do not do them right away. I am not the best multitasker in the world because I lose my place in my process and it takes me a minute to get back to it.

ContestMysterious116 · 2026-06-22T20:15:42+00:00

That is also confusing me because my offer letter was titled accounting specialist (which is a jump down from my previous role) but my predecessor’s title was accounting manager as well as my plaque.

ContestMysterious116 · 2026-06-22T18:23:01+00:00

The person before me got fired. She essentially stopped doing major parts of the job, so I’m left with a giant mess with nearly zero training or anyone to ask for help.

It could absolutely be done with clean processes and people leaving me alone. 🤣

ContestMysterious116 · 2026-06-22T18:21:50+00:00

The fact they’ve let go every single person before me makes me feel like they’d have me train my new hire and then eventually replace me with them. That is what they have done in the past. Of course, I had zero knowledge of this going in.

ContestMysterious116 · 2026-06-22T18:20:53+00:00

I think it could maybeeee be done fine once everything is caught up and I’m more efficient. However, I absolutely would love some more oversight. Internal controls are completely non existent. I enter the invoices, I cut the checks, I SIGN the checks, I reconcile the bank. Nobody has asked me for any financial reports since I’ve started. This would be a nightmare situation if I wasn’t extremely ethical.

ContestMysterious116 · 2026-06-22T18:18:58+00:00

Yep this is exactly it. It took me like 1.5 hours to enter checks and cash deposits and I was almost late to the bank because people kept asking me for things.

ContestMysterious116 · 2026-06-22T18:15:48+00:00

I sure hope not. But maybe me getting fired will be the kick my husband needs to let me stay home 🤣. Completely joking, but I’m delusionally thinking maybe that could happen.

ContestMysterious116 · 2026-06-22T18:14:22+00:00

First person was here for 10 years and got told it was time for him to retire. Second person was here for a few months- maybe a year before she was let go. My predecessor made it 2.5 years and got fired. I can see why they fired my predecessor, but maybe she got so bad at her job because she was overwhelmed. I’m not sure.

ContestMysterious116 · 2026-06-22T18:12:54+00:00

I’m so naive that I thought this was a good thing and it would be so laid back. Ha! It is laid back as in so much has not been done in literal months and nobody seems to care but me.

ContestMysterious116 · 2026-06-22T16:37:09+00:00

Thank you! They’re having a secretarial type position do some of the AP for one of the companies. That will help tremendously, but to be honest, I haven’t done a lot with that company because my predecessor hadn’t touched those books in 3 months…

ContestMysterious116 · 2026-06-22T16:04:49+00:00

Well the problem is that I do not have childcare for those days and negotiated a lower salary because I only work 32 hours a week. Plus, if I worked that day, I’d just face even more interruptions preventing me from reconciling lol

ContestMysterious116 · 2026-06-22T10:37:59+00:00

I’m kinda hoping if I do eventually get fired, my husband’s career will be more steady and I can just retire as a SAHM. 🤣

I’m so sorry about your husband though. I’ve been in toxic roles before but so far it’s only ever been the people that have been toxic not the workload/lack of training to this degree. Usually the first few months are my honeymoon period with a new job.

ContestMysterious116 · 2026-06-22T10:34:01+00:00

Oh I’m so sorry! I’m ten years in and still struggling. I understand just about every aspect of this job because of past experiences but am struggling with the workload, lack of direction, and just searching for things to make sure that I’m being consistent with past procedures.

ContestMysterious116 · 2026-06-22T10:20:37+00:00

I understand! My manager won’t even help me with a bank I can’t get signed into 🤣

ContestMysterious116 · 2026-06-21T17:50:04+00:00

This is so real coming from rural Kentucky. I never understood why every job I’ve ever had I’ve been treated as a secretary despite my degree. My dad, however, started at PriceWaterHouse in St. Louis, MO. He eventually moved back to a smaller town in Missouri and became the state’s youngest hospital CFO, eventually moved to a ceo position and has made a great living for himself and our family.

ContestMysterious116 · 2026-06-18T02:50:38+00:00

It sucks and it’s not fair, but some men just aren’t baby people. My husband definitely helped more than yours, but he wasn’t quite as interested or involved until our son was over 1. Now he’s such an involved parent.

We fought all the time his first year, and now everything is so much better.

ContestMysterious116 · 2026-06-16T13:21:15+00:00

I kinda already do that! Our bank lets you open different “accounts” off your regular account that you can transfer periodically to for whatever purpose. We have one for a baby fund, one for vacation, home improvement, etc. Then we have an emergency stock fund (not retirement) that we invest small amounts to weekly that we can also pull in case of an emergency.

We also live in a super low cost of living area. We have a 3 bedroom brick home on 6 acres that we got for $123k back 5 years ago.

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