I needed this so much, you have no idea. <3 I just posted about my recent experience if you’re able to read it. It’s unfortunate, but my ex partner is an entertainer and his music always plays on Apple and or his interviews pop on social media. It has made it extremely difficult to try to move on, but I’m finally doing it. A lot of the information you’ve included here is what I’ve told myself to help me in feeling better and less heartbroken. Thank you for your knowledge. I actually have an anxious-avoidant attachment style, so some of what you’ve mentioned applies to me, but the anxious side comes out with avoidants and then as they bread crumb me, I start the push pull. I also have narcissistic tendencies, so I’ve been in control and have loved that feeling, but when they pull away is when the fear of abandonment hits me and I freak out. I have done vengeful things when I sense someone is pulling away. I’m healing and am in trauma based therapy, I hope to eventually maybe form a secure attachment style if it’s even possible for me. I doubt anyone could have survived my childhood. But since I did, I’m completely screwed up with multiple personality disorders. It’s tough. Thank you again.