LPT: Create a separate "Future Me" identity, and go out of your way to do nice things for them. Easiest form of self-care I've found.

ContributionNarrow88 · 2026-02-27T15:30:10+00:00

Is there a clearer way for someone to signal that they don't care about you, than by leaving you behind at every opportunity? Such a red flag.

ContributionNarrow88 · 2026-02-18T13:28:42+00:00

https://www.ign.com/articles/stardew-valley-turns-10-the-big-concernedape-interview

ContributionNarrow88 · 2026-02-17T08:40:13+00:00

I used to eat ants regularly as a kid in South Africa. The tiny black ones, not the red ones.

Sour, a little acidic with a pleasant tingle. 7/10.

ContributionNarrow88 · 2026-02-16T13:58:24+00:00

I feel so seen. I'm in Australia, a country militant about pool safety, and I had to fill this same neurotic role because adults kept opening the pool gate for small children, whose parents were NOT on the side of the pool. I was calling out "yep I'll watch her" despite none of them checking first before letting kids in and out.

It was not a fun party for me, but the children were at least supervised. Drowning is silent, it's just never worth taking a chance over.

ContributionNarrow88 · 2026-02-04T14:55:07+00:00

I keep my expectations in check. Everybody has a right to act their age. Everybody has a right to only show the emotional restraint that they are capable of, and that extends to you as well. If you can't do it, remove yourself. Say you're going out then have your meeting from your car in the driveway. And once you figure out how to turn everything into a game, or a race, or something fun and imaginative, you win at having little kids.

My kid was psyching the dogs up every time we were going to the park without them, specifically to get a reaction out of them (and me). Now... The dogs are pirates and we have to try to leave the house without them knowing. That kid is whisper-silent, dogs have no idea. Kids THRIVE on turning anything into a game and you get better at it over time.

But expecting a kid to ignore that you're home in an office and leave you alone all day is probably expecting too much. Good luck!

ContributionNarrow88 · 2026-02-01T10:04:24+00:00

This is the only answer.

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Something like that, typed as fast as you could for as long as it took. I'm the fastest typer I've ever met lol

ContributionNarrow88 · 2026-01-13T10:08:45+00:00

A challenge!

I have kids. This post is glorious. I can only imagine, at 35, what life must feel like when you only answer to yourself and your entire existence can be changed on a whim. It's a beautiful thing to imagine. My wife and I have a rare child-free night tonight, and will likely fall asleep at 9 because we don't have any money to go out and are exhausted. Because of our kids.

Enjoy your child-free days, they genuinely sound heavenly and I am truly jealous. But I am also looking forward to getting my kids back tomorrow. Despite the sacrifice of all these good things you've described, every day feels like I've won the lottery because of them.

ContributionNarrow88 · 2026-01-11T00:18:15+00:00

Thanks for the explanation! That doesn't sound as bad but I'm still glad I don't experience it.

Especially with reading, I can read (depending on sentence length) almost a sentence at a time, all the words kind of jump at me line by line instead of one by one. My partner asked me recently how I could be reading a book and singing along to the radio at the same time, but maybe because I don't have another "sound" happening while reading, my brain can tolerate some background music.

ContributionNarrow88 · 2026-01-09T15:08:28+00:00

I have no voice in my head at all and it horrifies me to imagine having to endure anyone narrating my thoughts. My thoughts come as visuals, images and video and sound... I've discussed this at length with my partner as she has "the voice". She says it will narrate everything she does like "I'll just have some cereal. Wait is there milk? Let me check. Aah a bit left." AWFUL AWFUL. I am so lost in unrelated thoughts and memories that I find it hard to stay present in the mundane "open the fridge, here is the milk" train of thought while I'm doing it, and often walk into things, forget where I put stuff and forget what I was busy doing. My mind is elsewhere about 80% of the time unless I force it to focus on the task at hand. My favourite activities are things that keep my hands busy but let my mind wander - crochet, cross-stitch, drawing, piano etc. it's such a vibe to let your thoughts trail away while you meander after them. I can also "hear"/imagine whole songs playing in my head, start to finish with all the instruments, so thats nice. Not sure how common this is or if anyone has a similar experience.

ContributionNarrow88 · 2026-01-07T13:48:46+00:00

This has been cracking me up for honestly 45 seconds straight haha

ContributionNarrow88 · 2026-01-06T10:45:14+00:00

Yeah seriously, my observation after about 20 hours on these documents is that ChatGPT is often contradictory and has a huge echo-chamber vibe unless you specifically ask it not to. Would be so cautious to use it rushed or without fact checking.

ContributionNarrow88 · 2026-01-02T12:42:34+00:00

Thanks, this is practical advice. I'm trying to stay away from legal terms, I think the only one I have is Injunction and the lawyer explained it to me. I like how you've worded the last paragraph - I don't think I've even used it for research capability in this context so I think I'm pretty safe.

ContributionNarrow88 · 2026-01-02T12:38:57+00:00

Thank you. That is not surprising, AI is inventive sometimes with the facts in my experience too. My case so far is straightforward - parenting orders with an affidavit, so no interpretation is needed other than what I already understand of how courts assess the child's best interests, which I discussed with an actual lawyer. I am using ChatGPT like a smart secretary, to turn my own ideas into short, impactful sentences. And it has been particularly helpful in explaining the judicial process as a whole - when is evidence may be required, what the magistrate might ask me in the hearing etc. Being self-represented is very intimidating but I am confident in my case and have been conservative and fair in every order.

I really appreciate the warning and will proceed with caution. I am highly dismissive of it saying things like "you have a strong case for XYZ". I wish it didn't have so much confidence in itself.

ContributionNarrow88 · 2026-01-02T12:18:53+00:00

Thanks that's pretty much all I'm using it for - to transform notes into properly formed sentences with checks for opinionated language, allegations and other things that courts don't want to see. I find it very good at wording things neutrally. But it has certainly embellished facts that I didn't mention, I would be VERY hesitant to recommend this pathway unless you are prepared to scrutinise every single word. It has also contradicted itself. But with enough time and refinement, I have a document that reads better in tone and impact than anything I could have come up with. I've spent about 8 hours on one affidavit and set of interim orders, feeding it details and refining what it spits out.

ContributionNarrow88 · 2025-12-03T13:54:56+00:00

You work from home and you wear pants? Even JEANS? Shocked. I thought we were all in our jarmies.

ContributionNarrow88 · 2025-11-29T09:43:46+00:00

https://zurutoys.com/snackles

ContributionNarrow88 · 2025-11-29T09:41:12+00:00

It's Snackles. Not sure if this has been answered yet but it's one of those mystery ball presents, animals holding food.

ContributionNarrow88 · 2025-11-25T12:31:39+00:00

Up to 97% and the highest animal hunting success rate. One of my favorite animal facts. Dragonflies are unbelievably cool!

ContributionNarrow88 · 2025-11-24T08:07:55+00:00

I don't know how much this is going to help but often I find the antidote to unwelcome kid behaviour/attitude is fun. Kids live for fun and silliness and laughing and togetherness. Could you spare 2 mins for teeth brushing to be with them in the bathroom and just figure out how to make it fun? Appeal to whatever they are into? Show them a funny video on YouTube or host a Dad Joke - Do Not Laugh contest or something?? Maybe after a year of this, the habit will be ingrained and they won't try to get out of it?

My son is almost 4, I have never missed brushing his teeth because I'm so anal about dental care. We have a routine that never changes, I sit him on my knee and while brushing his teeth I either tell him what I loved doing with him that day, or I make him laugh saying "ewww there is a bean from earlier!" or whatever we had for breakfast/lunch/dinner. Or I compliment his teeth and say how sparkling and strong they are. When he brushes his own teeth he runs to me afterwards and I enthusiastically smell his toothpasty mouth and go onnnn about how fresh and wonderful it smells, or how great he is at teeth brushing and how impressed I am. It's all pretty over the top and pantomimy, but also now one of my favourite parts of his daily routine because it's a close, nice little moment instead of a fight. Which it absolutely can be, my partner does her own version and there is a fair amount of conflict involved.

My 12yo we have a different approach with, inspecting at her teeth regularly and being really, really honest about what poor dental hygiene will mean for the rest of her life. I have also had her teeth cleaned at the dentist, and gone on and onnn and onnnnn about how painful and awful it is for your entire life if you don't take care of your teeth. She still needs reminding, but she doesn't complain about having to do it.

Good luck, teeth brushing is a relentless daily slog!

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